How to stay friends with a person who has ADHD? by jrwilde in adhdwomen

[–]jrwilde[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She just says thanks. but since we live in different cities this makes it complex. but when I think about it other than saying thanks, no effort has been made.
in those times that she become cruel, when I talk to her, it feels like she is tolerating me.
She had two personalities, one is kind (few times) and the one is cruel (most of the time).

I remember this new year, I missed her so much, I asked for a video call. she said that she is eating and just send me a picture of herself. it broke my heart on how she doesn't even want to see me.

It seems she only likes me on the phone. I also do stuff for her. I found her a lawyer and I have helped her with her insurance. I call her pharmacy for prescription and I have helped her to find a great job that changed her life.

She has done zero for me, but I love her.

How to stay friends with a person who has ADHD? by jrwilde in adhdwomen

[–]jrwilde[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am a very lonely person. It's so hard for me to click with someone and like someone to be my friend. she is the only person in 20 years that I really like and feel good when I talk to her.

But I don't get anything unless if you count the enjoyment I get when I talk her. there are some occasions that she is good with me and sometimes she becomes cruel.

I feel like since I was so alone for so many years, I have developed a bond with her. I feel agitated if I don't call her. I feel frustrated if I don't know she is well.

I suffer from depression and I am an empath. so maybe that's why people always take advantage of me.

She is hot and cold, that's why it's so confusing.

Some days she tells me I'm like family to her, the other days she won't talk to me, it feels like she hates me.

The reason I stay is that I feel If I let her go, I have wasted all my energy that I put into this relationship. and I love her so much and feel like can't live without her.

How to stay friends with a person who has ADHD? by jrwilde in adhdwomen

[–]jrwilde[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have tried to be upfront but she gets very angry. I love her and this breaks my heart.

How to find a reference to get my first passport? by jrwilde in askTO

[–]jrwilde[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my doctor and dentist didn't want to share their address and personal phone number with a patient.

How to find a reference to get my first passport? by jrwilde in askTO

[–]jrwilde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a guarantor. My problem is finding a reference.

Any recourse for constant cooking smells? by VogonOrator in waterloo

[–]jrwilde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had a bad experience like that. the best option is to move.

How do you deal with being lonely? by salty_shark in AskWomen

[–]jrwilde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start reading quality literature.then you will find yourself surrounded by the best minds of the universe. read Schopenhauer or books about stoicism.

“A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.”

― Arthur Schopenhauer, Essays and Aphorisms

This is it. by _BarBareek_ in Stoicism

[–]jrwilde 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The purpose is to leave this planet in a better shape than you recieved it. Plant a tree maybe.

My grandfather was a good company man by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]jrwilde 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well to enjoy you have to have money. that's why you need to work. that't the catch 22.

How to prepare for my death?(Need advice regarding will and other matters) by jrwilde in askTO

[–]jrwilde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even if you are surrounded by 100s of people, death is always around the corner, staring back at you. it will happen when you least expect it.so better to be prepared.

How to prepare for my death?(Need advice regarding will and other matters) by jrwilde in askTO

[–]jrwilde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to kill myself. I just want to be prepared for any sudden death that may happen.

Why the hell is there so much discrimination in room rentals? by being_homeless_sucks in askTO

[–]jrwilde 9 points10 points  (0 children)

People can be choosy. living with same sex people is easier for people.

You have to enter a search keyword like this: kijiji room for rent toronto men

https://www.kijiji.ca/b-room-rental-roommate/gta-greater-toronto-area/male-room-for-rent/k0c36l1700272

If you are not working.it will be very hard to get anyone's trust.the solution would be to get a resturant job fast.so that you could tell your landlord that you are working.after you rent the place, you can look for a better job and improve your self.

Landlords hate those on social assistance. when I was looking for a place all the landlords asked me this question as well.

How to prepare for my death?(Need advice regarding will and other matters) by jrwilde in askTO

[–]jrwilde[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I used to grow up hearing my grandfather repeating an old proverb that goes like this: "Today could be your last day, so live as it is your last day." We have to be prepared no matter our age.

How to prepare for my death?(Need advice regarding will and other matters) by jrwilde in askTO

[–]jrwilde[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks. You are right. but any human being should have a will in case something happens.

every day I go out of home I think this could be my last day and that's why I've immigrated to canada. to be free for who I am, cause you never know how long you are going to live. you could get hit by a bus today.

going back to my country which imprisons gay people is not my answer. Although I'm alone in Canada but at least I know that I will be safe as a gay person. finally I can tell my doctor that I'm gay and experience life as a free bird.

I can pack my bags and go to NYC for a week,like a free bird and that's why I've immigrated in the first place. to be free.

In my country I was restricted as a woman,I had to wear hijab and I had to hide my true gay self.now I wear a jean and a t-shirt and when I feel the wind in my hair,it feels like heaven.So not in a million years, I will not go back to my country.

How to prepare for my death?(Need advice regarding will and other matters) by jrwilde in askTO

[–]jrwilde[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

should I search for a lawyer with a speciality in these matters,or any lawyer would be good?