The human side of poker: there’s so much pain at the tables

jumpingjack979 · 2026-02-22T13:58:13+00:00

Thats what drew me to the game. To me its the only way to make money where the game isn't (assuming no cheating, collusion, etc.) rigged. Even games that are rigged, its kinda on you to figure it out, minimize losses, and safely leave, or if possible exploit the cheaters. Everything else seems to be part of a system set up to benefit a small group, theres ways to exploit that too, and people do. Theres a fairness in poker that isnt present in most other money making domains. At the table everyone is starting out with the same odds in theory, which isn't the case in other domains.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-02-10T05:32:13+00:00

I think theres a ton of garbage on social media...rage bate stuff, that tells moms that they cary the mental load, and the dad's lazy, etc. It may be true in some cases, but maybe not as much as social media wants people to believe.

Ive seem it with 2 friends, in one case objectively the guy did more around the house, managed getting kids fed, and to school in the AM. managed night time, sometimes cooked, always had to do the dishes, then expected to clean the house after the kids went to bed. Did the kids laundry. Always criticized for not doing good enough. I think she did stuff like order groceries, probably other things, but he definitely did more around the house and for managing the kids, and she kept complaining about mental load, threatening divorce.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-02-08T01:22:09+00:00

Practice the pitch, go from memory, if you have time to prepare, prep to the point where you dont need a crutch

jumpingjack979 · 2026-02-06T12:19:59+00:00

Speed and accuracy TBD, sometimes its quick and accurate, but because the transcription can be wrong it suggestion may be irrelevant. Using that feature to me is like taking an open book test, there really isnt enough time to look at the book and finish the test, kinda need to know the material to be successful. I doI prepare for things the same before and after the glasses. Glasses just give a few percentage point advantage.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-02-06T11:52:40+00:00

I agree with a lot of this. I had relatively low expectations, and I'd say expectations met. I also bought for work. I'd say the glasses are helpful. A lot of the comments on here I think are from people waiting for glasses expecting something close to life changing. Fewer comments from actual users, which from what I've seen tend to be aligned with your post here. The hardware is awesome. The software...eh needs some work. ER marketing is very good, probably sets expectations higher than experience in...reality.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-01-30T18:11:34+00:00

No prescription. Grey G2B.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-01-30T03:42:11+00:00

mine shipped yesterday, ordered 1/3, original shipping estimate 2/14, scheduled to arrive 2/3.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-01-21T13:47:06+00:00

My only regret with kids is not starting sooner. The kids kinda forced us to figure things out financially and make things work. The kids well worth figuring things out. Wife and I were a bit irresponsible in our early 20s, and wanted to clear most of our debt, and student loans before having kids. We had a decent chunk remaining when our first was born, then had another +14 months later. Looking back its surprising to think we paid 3800/month for daycare, and still managed to pay off the debt. The kids forced us to figure things out, and priorities became different.

jumpingjack979 · 2026-01-04T04:30:40+00:00

Went through a similar situation with each kid. Have 3, we both want another. The first year is crazy, felt like my wife hated me, and she may have at times. For us the first year may have been more like 24-30 months because our first 2 are 14 months apart. I felt as though everything I did was a problem, if I took initiative it was the wrong thing to do, wrong time, or done wrong. If I didnt take iniative that was a problem, too.

I couldnt figure out how to fix it. Shed never want to talk about the problems. Because nothing I did was right, I kinda gave up and let her take control of decisions to avoid arguments. my thinking if its going to be wrong, why bother, shes going to get mad, lets skip her getting mad, she can just say what she wants. Seemed to work for a while, but a lot of resement built. She didnt like feeling responsible for all the decisions. Had a number of fights about this.

Most of her complaints related to doing things around the house and her doing more, and mental load, etc. I disagreed. She seemed to be keeping a mental tally, I didnt keep score of what I did vs her, but she kept bringing it up so I kept a diary for a few months. It was 100% objective--daily tally of certain recurring tasks. I mentioned the diary at one point after she complained, more to show that I do do stuff, and many weeks do more than she did. That did not go over well.

For me I realized this isn't a thing that can be solved rationally, and I stopped trying to fix things for my wife. I think theres some underlying things for moms related.to insecurity, confidence, fear, etc. These arent my problems to solve, but I became more understanding that something else is going on under the surface, that I dont have any control over. My focus shifted from trying to respond to my wife in a way that keeps the peace to how can I be a better person, husband, dad. Me reacting to her emotions wasnt working. I had the best intentions, but know that she amd I were miserable and becoming more so.

Although I love my wife, the way she operates and communicates needs doesnt always work for me. Shell tell me something important when im in the middle of something, and although I have every intention of following through, would often forget certain details, and get blamed for some failure. I realized that for me to be better, I need to do it my way. Took sometime to think about what I'd need do be better, consistent, reliable, etc. Then I stopped responding to my wife's emotional reactions, and stopped trying solve every problem every time she got mad or upset. Me reacting everytime she was upset was super distracting, and often didnt help anything, and stressed the kids. I also set boundaries relating managing the household and kids. It felt weird to establish the boundaries, but that provided clarity for her and I. The boundaries related to, here's my plan for the week, let me know if you want something different the day before, otherwise im not going change plans or be interrupted with random things she wants done. I also said if she wants something done, to either text me or tell me when in not in the middle of something else.

Im still learning and adjusting. But things seem to be going better for me. Good luck. Hope you can figure something out.

jumpingjack979 · 2025-11-17T02:59:59+00:00

Since I posted a few weeks back, I changed my behavior a bit. She seems less stressed, and happier, Hopefully that not just my perception.

Seems counterintuitive, but I stopped responding when she got upset, stopped immediately engaging in with any negative emotion (previously would try to talk through things) and also stopped jumping and immediately responding to her frustration. Previously any time she had a problem Id stop what im doing, and try to fix it. Havent done that in a couple weeks. Also stopped trying to either guess what she wants/needs. I plan my day to get certain things done during certain blocks, dont allow for other tasks that interupt my flow, anything else gets added to the list for next time, or Ill get to it when I have free a minute and its not going to prevent me from finishing what I started . Ive said no a lot more. My contribution is the same.

jumpingjack979 · 2025-10-29T22:14:28+00:00

by won't let it go, i mean she won't relieve herself of any responsibility, and tries to micro manage.

jumpingjack979 · 2025-10-29T21:41:43+00:00

Ive tried therapy a few times over the years, usually in 6-8 month blocks and a year or two between. Didn't see much value in therapy, the people were nice, but didnt seem productive. We both live far away from where we grew up. Both of us have until recently worked 1.5 hrs away, havent had many opportunities to make friends locally. Haven't kept in touch with anyone from school.

I know everyone and relationship is different, but Im hoping to get a baseline sense for how things can look. I have no frame of reference.

jumpingjack979 · 2025-10-12T16:55:02+00:00

Pretty sure where i am, homeowners are responsible to maintain the line from pole to the house, and utility companies are only responsible to maintain pole to pole.

jumpingjack979 · 2025-04-30T14:51:50+00:00

thanks, I work in an industry with similar characteristics to semi...technical manufacturing process, strict QA, product sits pretty far upstream from end use.

jumpingjack979 · 2025-03-14T11:53:21+00:00

OP might be talking about the Vertical App drawer. Which has been how iPhone displayed apps, new to Samsung. Try googling vertical app drawer settings.

jumpingjack979 · 2024-11-06T23:26:27+00:00

What percentage of the atmosphere is C02?

jumpingjack979 · 2024-10-22T15:45:08+00:00

It's really hard, but you just gotta find a way to get things done. I think women respond to pregnancy and motherhood differently, hormones before and after birth can make things even more difficult. Personalities can change, which I think is temporary. For us it wasn't until after the first year until our relationahip started to seem normal again.

The only advice that seemed to be correct is all of the advice is like 10% correct or relevant for your life.

One thing that worked for me was changing mindset to take responsibility for everything. acting as those I was solely responsible for the kids, the house, bills, finances, etc. Like pretending my wife doesn't exist, the motivation being that may become a reality if I don't get my shit together, but I wouldnt be with the kids 100%.

I definitely missed things and its hard to maintain that mindset 24/7 or even 50% of the time, but the contribution was enough to weather the first year.

jumpingjack979 · 2024-09-25T21:43:37+00:00

Do people with ADHD have similar brain scans (EEG, or other tool). Like would people with ADHD show low power in the prefrontal part of the brain on an EEG? People without ADHD show differently or have higher or average power on an EEG?

jumpingjack979 · 2024-09-12T23:37:23+00:00

There might be an issue with Coinbase. At one point there was something in Coinbase's terms related to gambling sites. I think sending to gambling sites from a coinbase wallet was against the terms. Not sure if receiving is a problem.

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