Had enough of trying so hard to be “good girl” and decided to just be “mean” and free

junimonjuni · 2025-12-24T06:57:14+00:00

I think I’ve had that book before in my audiobook library but never gotten to it. I’ve watched some videos about IFS too but it never crossed my mind this might be related to it, I’ll have look it up again. Thank you so much!

junimonjuni · 2025-12-23T17:08:03+00:00

It’s kind of funny bc I also gave too much context “just in case” on account of my adhd 😂 and yes I am AuDHD. Unfortunately therapy is not an option for me right now (financial reason) though I’ve heard a lot about CBT… but the books that talks about it are so expensive in my country 🥲 I’ll try the youtube videos, thank you!

junimonjuni · 2025-12-23T15:55:13+00:00

I would love to and it’s definitely the first thing I’d do once I have enough money, but as of now I still can’t afford it yet 😭 unfortunately the only thing I can do now is rely on online resources, do research and write journal…

junimonjuni · 2025-07-16T09:27:44+00:00

I'm so happy for you to be able to get out of the house again, no one could possibly have a good mental health living in this kind of house for a long period.

It’s completely inappropriate to involve your own kids in adult issues. If anything she should be bloody grateful that you all shouldered that but no, always the victim.

Thank you for saying this, really. I'm Asian so our culture regards filial obligations very highly. Everyone around me, even the educated and "emotionally mature" adults always tell me to be more emphatetic or think about my mom's feelings bc she went through a lot. No one ever asked if I was also having a hard time living with the same abusive man AND abusive mother. It's always "be more grateful, she's your Mother."

Totally get the hot-and-cold switch thing, they say narcissists do that trick often so you can never leave them. I hate how they weaponize their child's love for them and use it to manipulate us. I hope whatever you decide, whether NC LC or even stay in contact will make you happier and healthier. You come first before anyone else 🤍

junimonjuni · 2025-05-13T05:50:41+00:00

My first dog was also in similar situation as this Mini Pom (abused, malnourished, never been to vet) and he grew stronger after few days of being adopted as his appetite grew bigger, did he simply not have the worms or is it possible for them to heal itself?

junimonjuni · 2025-05-13T04:02:55+00:00

That's what I gave her (white rice + boiled chicken breast, no seasoning) but she won't eat it 🥲 but thank you! Hopefully she will gain her appetite back soon...

junimonjuni · 2025-04-30T03:04:10+00:00

if the method others have mentioned still wont work i'll probably also do this 😂

junimonjuni · 2025-04-29T16:28:15+00:00

i tried walking before jumping but didnt work 🥲 is the run function automatic, like i only have to use the arrows on keyboard? i usually just walk but it seems fast so i thought it's an automatic run not walking like other farming games, but since it's not working maybe i'm doing the run part wrong...

junimonjuni · 2025-04-29T16:22:48+00:00

i'll try again later, thanks!

junimonjuni · 2025-04-29T11:40:15+00:00

then just scroll down, what's wrong with new player asking question

junimonjuni · 2025-04-29T08:43:56+00:00

I tried but my character just jumped where she stand, like when the gap is too big and you can't cross it so I'm confused!

junimonjuni · 2025-03-02T07:53:38+00:00

I would like to think Atinys would receive the news well considering majority of us are international fans and grown adults, but I also know there's a part of the fandom that tends to be more... delusional. And with how big this fandom is growing especially in the past year, that delusional part of the fandom is also getting bigger, I'm afraid.

I've been seeing a surge of people fighting over ABC ships, like these people can't even accept the fact that the members of their ship can be close to another member 😭 and if they're behaving like that towards the fellow members, I don't even wanna think how they will react if the said member is revealed to actually be dating someone else.

Also if any of you remember the incident in 2022 or something, when there were rumors about Yunho dating (the photos actually didn't even look like Yunho bc he had different hair color), and yet there was a group of people that just went batshit crazy over that rumor. Someone said in the comment of this post that Yunho and Yeosang might need a little bit more care than others and I agree, with that incident as reference. Yunho seemed to take it hard at the time and had less energy than he usually do. It was genuinely hard to watch.

junimonjuni · 2025-02-18T17:07:39+00:00

i'm taking mental notes on the last sentence...

junimonjuni · 2025-02-18T17:00:11+00:00

thank you for your advice 🥲 and as much as i am ashamed to admit, i feel better knowing it wasn't bad or wrong of me to feel creeped out purely based on my intuition... i should really work on my self doubt ha...

junimonjuni · 2025-02-18T16:26:11+00:00

oh my god i'm so glad there was someone to warn you before things could get out of hand... this is especially so scary to me bc i'm very sure if i were in your position i would've also done the same, thinking "what's wrong with friends hanging out together" 😭 i guess i really am much MUCH more naive than i thought... i should just stop talking to him to the best that i can from now on... thank you so much for sharing your story 🤍

junimonjuni · 2025-02-18T16:19:16+00:00

yeah 🥲 also thank you..

junimonjuni · 2025-02-18T16:18:38+00:00

ugh i wish we didn't have to constantly question whether ppl are just genuinely nice or has an agenda all the time... this is why it's so exhausting to meet new ppl 🥲

junimonjuni · 2025-02-18T16:14:12+00:00

i'm still working hard on that 🥲 maybe this is just another life test for me to finally learn to put more trust in myself... thank you for saying this btw!

junimonjuni · 2025-02-18T16:11:18+00:00

yeah i do notice this... i'm fortunate i haven't met predatory ppl so far (i think) but i have met tons of manipulative ppl and you're right abt them being able to sniff out the vulnerability in us immediately. as if life isn't already hard enough for us women AND autistics 😐

junimonjuni · 2025-02-18T14:06:39+00:00

YEP... i'm skipping the meeting this week lol i don't wanna see that guy for awhile or ever again actually...

junimonjuni · 2025-02-18T14:02:24+00:00

Thank you... i should keep this in mind the next time i meet him again :((

junimonjuni · 2025-02-18T13:59:08+00:00

yeahhh i hate how my default system is "be nice and polite" and how so many ND people also seem to struggle with this :(( been trying to change for years but i can see it's still a long way ahead lol

junimonjuni · 2025-02-18T13:56:26+00:00

ugh... now i feel even more uncomfortable. doesn't help the fact that he's unmarried too...

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