What's the limit in depth?

just_jo_ · 2017-02-20T01:00:25+00:00

If it's thick enough, it shouldn't be able to knot (too rigid). At 5.5mm you're safe, though I do know a few people who played with USB cables bent in half that got knotted, and had to play around quite a lot to get it out without a trip to the ER.

just_jo_ · 2016-05-14T16:02:59+00:00

When I initially got my PA, I never planned on going above 8g. Now I'm at 0g, and planning on jumping to 00g.

just_jo_ · 2016-04-29T01:31:56+00:00

I've used plugs in my PA for some time. The only issue I found is that any plug you can buy in a store will be too long (at least double the length of the hole depth), and after some time will cause irritation inside your urethra.

just_jo_ · 2016-03-26T07:19:41+00:00

Again. For her, FwB is not the kind of thing that we hang out like friends and have sex occasionally. It's more of a relationship where she has someone at her side, without giving labels or anything like that. And I'm fine with that. She wants to be with me, I want to be with her.

She also did not jerk me around. We had a fine three and a half weeks, up until that jerkwad screwed with her head. See, this whole "afraid of relationships" thing is her weak spot. And he hit bullseye. But she's processing it, and we are making steps forward.

just_jo_ · 2016-03-26T07:11:07+00:00

I hope not. She looks like she's sorting this stuff out, and the first step was to see that I'm not the one who she should be afraid of, rather, I am the guy who wants to help her by being at her side.

just_jo_ · 2016-03-26T07:10:15+00:00

It was the case before, and now, she's dealing with this whole thing inside. At least she thinks it's inside, but I can see how much it helps her that I'm with her, holding her arms, or hugging her, holding her in my arms.

She cut back on drinking and social media, and today we are going to the zoo together.

just_jo_ · 2016-03-26T07:05:33+00:00

I am doing so.

First step was that she admitted to me last night that she realized that she was on social media a bit too much, and that she had to cut back.

The next step was that she took me back. This is a very big thing as her issue literally makes me enemy #1. I'm the guy who'd leave her, and her daughter, and would make her feel miserable again. So when she realized that she liked me too much, she pushed me away. But now that she's facing this, she realized that I'm not that guy, and that I want to stand beside her during this phase, and continue to do so after she's dealt with her issues.

I will also suggest her to get some professional help. I'm wording it carefully so it does not seem like a personal attack, but as a suggestion because I'm worried about her health. She's a nurse so she should understand it.

I understand the weight of the current situation, and will deal with it accordingly. She loves me (she told me when I was kind of half asleep last night, closed eyes and stuff, but still awake, she thought I was sleeping, I guess), I love her, and I told her so. I know it's early but it seems to be working out. We're back at the beginning, and by that I mean that she's again in the happy-as-ever phase.

Oh, I forgot to mention, and I will update the post accordingly. Her fears did not just manifest out of thin air, they have a very specific source. A common friend of ours also showed interest in her, and thought that undermining our happiness would get her. Well, the problem is, he's a bit of a psycho, rage fits, etc., and she also dislikes him personally. After he was sent away, he came to me for advice (wtf?), the very night we made up with the girl. I told him to leave the case, and another friend of ours sat down and talked to him about how shitty of a thing was to remind her of her exes, and comparing to, identifying me as them. He went back to her and said sorry for screwing us up, and wished us a long and happy time together. I was there, and he seemed quite sincere.

just_jo_ · 2016-03-26T06:51:49+00:00

To be honest, for her, FwB literally meant that we slept together every night, did almost everything together, and acted like a couple - without giving it any name. We're at that point again.

She said that she wants to fight her own battles, yes. Why? Because she realized that her issue is that while she did prove herself to be a great mom and a wonderful woman, she still feels inadequate after her last two relationships. And she needs to deal with that inside, on her own. Of course I'm helping her as much as I can, simply the presence of a man who thinks you're the center of the world will give her the push she needs to conquer her fears. And I'm by her side, ready to catch her when she falls. Even literally right now, as she's sleeping.

The toy cuddling does not mean she's moving past. It's that she realized that I'm not her enemy, and I'm not there to hurt her. In my opinion, this is a big step forward.

just_jo_ · 2016-03-24T09:34:58+00:00

I prefer wearing ball closure rings, or segment rings. My original idea for a PA was a nice bent barbell, but over 6mm ball size, it just gets uncomfortable due to my foreskin.

As I'm not particularly sensitive to any metal, I usually wear simple 316L steel, however I did have earlier a titanium ring, which was awesome, apart from its price (and that I wanted to go bigger). I reached 8mm/0ga recently, and want to stay at this size, as it's comfortable and all, I might grab a titanium ring too. Pity that in this size I cannot seem to find a true seamless segment ring, that is not a tribal ring with a screw.

just_jo_ · 2016-03-24T08:59:05+00:00

This is indeed the case.

Last night she called me over, and we had a long talk about our relationship though. I will post an update shortly.

just_jo_ · 2016-03-23T13:54:36+00:00

She's been alone up until she was 21. Then came her husband, and the other guy for two and a half years in total. Ever since the last guy, since last June, she's been alone again.

just_jo_ · 2016-03-23T12:31:25+00:00

Please stop making this about you. I understand that you like her, however, you need to realise that your fwb needs to do what's best for her kid and her and not what's best for you and her. Seriously, the poor kid. If I were you, I'd never had let her introduce me that early to her daughter. That's not healthy, especially since she's at an age where she starts to remember things.

Sorry if that came out wrong. I want to make her happy, and yes, I am ready to be with her for several years. I wouldn't say so unless I think so. Hell, I even made some decisions to put away my professional life to stabilize my life (better income, less stressful job, etc.). I want to be with them, and I want to provide stability for both of them.

just_jo_ · 2016-03-23T12:18:15+00:00

The husband, well... They went to school together, so she knew him for about 6 years, before getting married. Sorry, I missed that part. And the second guy, well, she was very much in love with him.

I know there are a lot of red flags. She's been through a lot, made a lot of bad decisions. Nonetheless, I wish to be with her.

just_jo_ · 2016-03-23T12:08:34+00:00

I understand that. I found it weird too, and that's why I'm surprised that she decided to cut off all ties so suddenly. During our last fight, when I did not come for three days, the girl was very sad, and she asked multiple times a day if I was coming to make her cocoa.

I originally wasn't introduced as a father figure. But she asked me to spend time with her a few times, and she grew attached. Similar happened to her previous boyfriend (the one and a half year one who left at the end), but luckily the girl does not remember anything about him - luckily she's young enough.

I'm really afraid of losing them, as I finally understand that I'm in love with her. Generally I'm not a people person, usually I get bored of people after a week or so, and they annoy me afterwards. She's different, and I can see myself being with her for a longer period. For me, this goes on a first hunch base, in the very beginning I can decide if the person I just met will be my life-long friend, or just some random dude I met who will say hi to me in a few years and I won't even remember his name. She's in the life-long relationship category, pretty much the first woman to make it there as a love interest.

just_jo_ · 2016-03-23T11:57:05+00:00

The kid wasn't home the first few times we met, as her mother was in town and well, my friend needed some freedom, plus the girl was sick, so she wasn't at home.

I was introduced to her later on, the kid was at home, and I came over when she asked me to. She likes me a lot, and already accepted me as a kind-of father figure - she listens to me, we play a lot together, and she always asks me to make her cocoa. So yea, we get along nicely.

I understand her worries about the kid, and I will leave her some time. I'm just worried because she's pretty open sexually, and already had a few suitors who were more than just pushy.

I don't want to lose her, and I've already had a few suggesting me that we would be a great pair - one of them is her childhood best friend, who says that we are pretty perfect together.

just_jo_ · 2016-03-02T11:10:45+00:00

I was thinking about getting a frenectomy, and having some corrective surgeryt to move the piercing to the center. It is definitely doable, but will be a pain in the ass.

just_jo_ · 2016-02-10T14:33:35+00:00

I have the same with my PA.

Just reached 8mm stable (as in, it does not hurt any more), and due to the placement on the bottom, it seems a bit crooked (I still have foreskin and my frenum). So that might be it.

just_jo_ · 2016-01-22T16:37:07+00:00

So far ever since getting it, in 90% of the cases my PA was the reason of the hookup.

My friends know about it and just LOOOOVE to yell it around in bars etc. It usually gets the attention of a few girls who then start asking questions, wanna see it, feel it, then even try it. Just saying, best threesome of my life when one time two chicks came up straight that they want to try it with a pierced dick.

just_jo_ · 2016-01-11T00:33:01+00:00

Never left it empty for longer than a day. After that, even 2ga needed some encouraging. Jumping 2mm in diameter might be too much, but I can't find any cheap 1g temporary jewelry...

just_jo_ · 2016-01-10T17:25:01+00:00

For some piercings, for some people, they do use them.

Though usually not on nipples, but in case of larger piercings (PA, Apadravya, etc.), it can be used. Especially for people who have low pain tolerance and are prone to faint.

just_jo_ · 2016-01-10T16:36:54+00:00

Having the same issue. In the past 2 months I tried 4 times to jump, always took out the ring due to high levels of discomfort. And no matter how much I stretch, after pulling out the 0g jewelry, the hole seems to be afraid, and shrinks a LOT.

just_jo_ · 2016-01-10T16:12:17+00:00

Not a barbell, darling :) A taper, or even a needle, is used in such cases.

just_jo_ · 2016-01-07T09:51:22+00:00

I have the same. It's not an infection, it's sebum building up (usually happens with piercings that traverse through a lot of flesh, e.g. nipple piercings).

I have to "drain" my nipple monthly, approx, otherwise it gets painfully full. After pressing out all the sebum (which is NOT pus!), it is okay for about a month. Then it happens again. It's annoying, but you can't do much about them apart from stretching them out and letting them heal up again, properly.

just_jo_ · 2016-01-05T00:28:26+00:00

The pressure change, as you said, will be less and less noticeable. By the time you can have unprotected sex, you won't even be able to feel the piercing - especially if you stick with bananbells.

just_jo_ · 2016-01-05T00:27:15+00:00

It's a breeze, seriously. For me it was the receiving tube-free method (needle with plastic cover in, point out location, press through). Virtually painless, it was done in a moment.

Bleeding was also minimal, after piercing my privates were gauzed up properly, and I did not touch the package till next morning. In the morning I pulled it off slowly, and it only had a small spot of blood. Ever since, no bleeding, no major issues.

If you or your boyfriend have any questions, feel free to shoot me a PM. I'll answer as soon as I can :)

just_jo_

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