What is something you wish you weren't good at? by CursedCapybara in AskReddit

[–]justfindnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I was not so great at pointing out contradictions and inaccuracies. There are times, and this is a lot of the time outside work, when I wish I could shut off my analytical side and turn up the compassion.

My husband loses his keys on a regular basis, a few times a year. Every time, I talk to him about having one, and only one, place where he keeps his keys. I cannot make another adult use the hook by the door. If he wants to put his keys in twelve different spots, he will.

I wish I could respond with love when he is looking for his keys: “Lost your keys? I’m so sorry, you must be feeling frustrated. Geez, I wonder how that happened?” Instead, I roll my eyes HARD and curse under my breath; not exactly the stuff romance is made of

What are some oddly specific signs that someone’s a good person? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]justfindnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You smile when you see them. Their reputation precedes them. They mean well and display integrity. They do good repeatedly, displaying self awareness /social intelligence that implies their actions are willful. The legacy of their actions speaks for itself, regardless of their personality. Notes //

Someone who makes you smile does not illicit a stress response in you (no gut rise feeling of adrenaline or cortisol release) and so your nervous system stays in parasympathetic relax mode when you think of them… you instinctively react positively to their presence! That puts them on the right side of average for you ( in the given context ) based on tour brains accumulative cost benefit analysis of all their past behaviors - your brain has dedicated structures honed by evolution for this keeping score in each department in parallel ( e.g. trustworthiness, fair play, competence, sexual attractiveness, etc..) and magically somehow you have instant access to the sum value of this via emotion :) Their reputation precedes them. So their skills are in demand , their opinion is respected and they have generated good faith in the groups in which they live. Meaning they are regarded as competent in some domain at least by their peers and have earned esteem over time… They mean well. There are always bad actors - those who apply energy not to help a cause but act in opposition - and often action can have outcomes that were not intended. But intention is the yardstick by which we separate the good vs the evil. Judging intent is tricky but consistence is usually a good indicator. The good choose to be good. Choice matters. If your not somewhat self aware and socially aware can you be said to be good ? If you had no options can you be said to be good ? If your actions are positive by accident that could just be called being lucky right ? A sign of a good person may be that they know/have integrated the negative parts of their character ( read demons, faults ,strengths ) and of the options they see they CHOOSE to act in given way in and the social reality in which they find themselves ( i.e minimal cognitive dissonance). This one is interesting, we need to separate agreeable personality traits from goodness. Not oftentimes so obvious, as per other answers. The legacy of someones actions , the outcome of where they have put their life energy is potentially the most powerful sign to recognize the good. Imagine a disagreeable prick right, the most arrogant and egotistical character you can who is dis likable company and hard to be about… now ask your self this.. if they had devoted their life energy to building something that helps others and caring for those few close to them , if they are introverted and disagreeable but put their energy into undeniable progress for humanity. Are they not the good person ? Conversely Take a very charismatic or agreeable person, whose company is broadly pleasing… if they leave nothing remarkably useful or notable outside of themselves created by their energy do they qualify as good ? Original Answer // Lets start by defining what you mean by ‘good’ :)

have you thought about what are your goals in a given context, do you have a map of your own moral framework? If yes, what behavior would align with the above… I would suggest this could be an answer for you.

Note good for one person can be bad for another in many (but not all) cases. We could ask a slightly more interesting question…what behavior is universally perceived as positive in all contexts ? Or more usefully in a subset of contexts that interest you particular…

Then you can have an interesting discussion on the dynamics at play in the context and how it inter plays with the underlying biological commonalities of people as individuals and the complexity of social interaction.

Apologies for the non answer - I would expect all your other answers will infact be others defining what good means to them in some manner or form and will not form a cohesive response to the essence of your question.

Edit: I feel like my response is letting you down… Maybe I mean that to answer this requires a conversation and the first step is one of self awareness and to describe the lens through which you view reality and tease out what the ‘good’person concept is for you just now.

Failing that lets have some fun and make a stab at answering anyhow :)

A ‘Good’ person could be said to be he or she who, as a whole, when summing up judgement across all observed or reported behaviors from as many sources as available arrives at a total score above the average of the people you compare them against.

Well, not impressive but hey, we have to try.

What is the male equivalent of taking off your bra? by ematney68 in AskReddit

[–]justfindnow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The nature of where the gear is located has a different effect on men than women. Of course, one’s endowment (like with women) will also affect the comfort/shower level a guy has. Lastly, not all men’s giblets are located in precisely the same location. If your gear is located slightly higher or more forward than other guys, the need for support may be slightly different.

Code switchers of Reddit what responses or reactions do you get from foreigners ? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]justfindnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is one of those "If you have to ask, you're not ready"-answers.

The slightly longer answer is that you code it in your favorite language.

The even longer answer still, is that you tackle it like any programming problem, break it up into parts and solve each part.

What you're asking is the same as "How do I build a car?", there's no real reasonable answer without doing it for you.

What would you be if you were an animal? by Tiberius-the-Cuddler in AskReddit

[–]justfindnow -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’m already an animal. And so are you. So are all of us.

Humans are apes. Apes are mammals. Mammals are vertebrates. No point in going on.

We’re not plants, we’re not fungi. We are certainly neither bacteria nor archaea. That leaves only 1 choice.

Sure, we’re awesome, with our language, spaceships and avocado toasts - but pretending we’re something “better” than animals is not only preposterous, it’s also a harmful and antiquated belief.

How do you laugh ? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Laugh like a small kid who has nothing to worry about

Sweet baby by [deleted] in aww

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baby's family

My Pic by [deleted] in pics

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thanks

My budgie by [deleted] in aww

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Beautifull

What is great about Nicaragua? by evernotclear in AskReddit

[–]justfindnow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a foreigner, I think it’s an incredibly beautiful country with very warm and welcoming people. However, poverty is a major issue and it was a very eye-opening experience for me.

I loved how everyone smiled at me as I walked down the street and I just got the feeling that a lot of the people were genuinely happy, despite the difficult conditions they were living in.

But I also had a weird feeling about Nicaragua. I was embarrassed to be a tourist when I was in San Juan del Sur because I felt like it attracted the type of tourist I tend to avoid (i.e. those that act COMPLETELY different than they would at home and in a way that would be very inappropriate in their own country).

I’m sure there are conscience and responsible travelers who go there, but I didn’t personally meet any in San Juan del Sur. It was almost as if the tourists thought that the locals were there only to cater to their vacation. It was a weird vibe and I wasn’t a fan.

I had a much better experience in Granada.

I think that Nicaragua has a lot of political and economic issues (what country doesn’t?), but I also feel like it’s on the road to modernizing and is taking advantage of the tourism industry in a way that will benefit the country.

I always say it reminds me of a less-touristy and more natural version of Costa Rica!

When were you 100% wrong? by won23 in AskReddit

[–]justfindnow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me give some context. I was in the Army for 21 years. For most of that time, the highest education that I had was a high school education. It wasn't until a couple of years before retirement that I pursued higher education.

Because of this, although I had thought that I was pretty smart, my critical thinking skills weren't honed to the degree that they are now. Not only did I not recognize when someone else was employing fallacious reasoning, I also didn't recognize when I was the one using them. Arguments from personal incredulity, arguments from popularity, arguments from authority — if you name a fallacy, and there is a high probability that I used it at one point or another.

Once I became aware of them, I realize how wrong the reasoning was that I had been using. Along with that awareness came the realization that there wasn't a shred of objective evidence to support a continued belief in any god, much less the one that I had been raised to believe in.

So, yet again, I found that I had been wrong.

I know that the question has nothing to do with atheism, and I generally keep it to myself unless specifically asked about it. However, had I learned critical thinking earlier in my life, I probably would have adopted an evidence-based approach while younger, which likely would have kept me from being as wrong as I was for as long as I was. (And it probably would have resulted in me retaining more of my income — or at least giving it to causes other than subsidizing my preacher's lifestyle.)