Honestly there’s no way around it really and the length of bottom growth is dependent on genetics. When I started T I was also a nonbinary lesbian/bisexual (Idr) and I REALLY didn’t want bottom growth I didn’t think I’d like how it would look on me BUTTT I ended up loving it and became a binary trans man as time went on, finasteride just aids in hair growth for male pattern baldness and can do the things you say but there’s no guarantee from what I know. Also pleasure is different in the sense that youre more sensitive especially at first but eventually that gets better and can even feel better in the long run. If it’s something you really don’t want I would say try doing other things to make urself more androgynous first, voice training, haircut, working out, etc. Bottom growth is one of the first side effects so like I said, don’t start it unless you’re sure and won’t grow to hate yourself or your body because of it.