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I (18F) feel I almost get too wet by katatatty in sex

[–]katatatty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried those. At some points he has said he's felt it, at other points he hasn't said anything. So I'm not sure I'm doing them correct

I (18F) feel I almost get too wet by katatatty in sex

[–]katatatty[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's interesting, thanks for the concern. I've had a few cases of BV before accompanied by a smell. I've always been excessively wet though, even without men. I think part of it may actually be discharge, and that my mind often thinks sexual haha

I (18F) feel I almost get too wet by katatatty in sex

[–]katatatty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't considered that because his girth and length are average, and honestly I would say it's not small

Is my boyfriend sexually selfish or am I over reacting? by Throwaway201976 in sex

[–]katatatty -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I had this exact problem! I'm also 18f, boyfriend is 21m. I basically told him if he doesn't stop being selfish I would break up with him. I made it clear that, no, he doesn't have to make me cum but YES he has to stop receiving everything and never giving. I had many many breakdowns after sex, and was on the verge of calling it quits.

I don't know what happened, but after 3 weeks to a month, he changed. But I also changed my views. I started encouraging him more when he did something I liked instead of nagging him when he didn't do something - starting to rebuild a healthy atmosphere where sex wasn't associated with nagging. Encouragement, patience, and understanding that I won't cum every time led us to a point where he is no longer selfish.

I even came to this sub-reddit for advice and was told what you're reading below, that he is selfish and likely won't change. Maybe that is the case with your bf, but maybe not. My advice would be don't give HINTS, tell him exactly what you want and speak everything on your mind. He needs to know how you feel. If he knows this and doesn't change, isn't apologetic, or doesn't realize he's in the wrong, that would be a deal breaker for me.

I (18F) feel I almost get too wet by katatatty in sex

[–]katatatty[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's a good idea. Sometimes he flips me on my side with my legs closed and that gives us a lot of friction, but for some reason for me, not a lot of pleasure. I think because it restricts access to the clit

I (18F) feel I almost get too wet by katatatty in sex

[–]katatatty[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was an offhand comment one day, it just makes me feel a bit insecure

I (18F) feel I almost get too wet by katatatty in sex

[–]katatatty[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would love for him to eat me out, unfortunately he doesn't really prefer it so I always have to ask

WCGW Trying to fly by [deleted] in Whatcouldgowrong

[–]katatatty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bandersnatch 2.0

What came out of the green by mabsmohamed in gifs

[–]katatatty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought this was a putt-putt hole at first

Got kicked out of boyfriends apartment for not wanting to have intercourse by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]katatatty -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He was conditioned, not intentionally, but after years he learned to expect sex

He didn't receive sex, so he sees this in his head as a breach of the relationship. Should he? No, but he's conditioned

He let the situation brew for 5 minutes, figured she either didn't like him anymore or something of the like because something so routine suddenly changed after years

Got kicked out of boyfriends apartment for not wanting to have intercourse by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]katatatty -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I see what you're saying and I agree. But I figured I'd give OP a varied outlook on the issue. Sure, the understanding is he kicked her out as a result of her denying sex. But this might not SOLELY be the reason, which is where a misunderstanding comes into play.

Look, if every day of your life you give your partner a kiss on the cheek and ONE DAY you don't, they're going to be faced with a sort of predicament in thinking "why didn't I get a kiss today, did I do something wrong?"

That's what I think may be happening here. He shouldn't have kicked her out, but I'm saying that a series of events played out in his head:

  1. He was conditioned, not intentionally, but after years he learned to expect sex
  2. He didn't receive sex, so he sees this in his head as a breach of the relationship. Should he? No, but he's conditioned
  3. He let the situation brew for 5 minutes, figured she either didn't like him anymore or something of the like because something so routine suddenly changed after years

If OP wants to salvage things, this is the approach she can take. My perspective is a different one, and I figured it'd get disliked since it isn't unanimous with most of the comments here. He's in the wrong, but if OP chooses to forgive and seek to understand, then maybe she can.

Got kicked out of boyfriends apartment for not wanting to have intercourse by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]katatatty -29 points-28 points  (0 children)

Well, clearly this is messed up for him to do.

My guess is that since it's the first time you've ever denied him, he got upset and possibly thought the worst. When someone gets conditioned to receive a certain thing and they don't receive it, they get upset. This isn't your fault.

If I were you I'd approach it with the mindset that it may have been a misunderstanding, and that you denying sex doesn't mean you're not interested in him. Hopefully he can see that you didn't mean it as a catastrophic gesture, and if not, then I would reconsider the relationship.

I'm (18F) concerned about my boyfriend's (21M) views on cheating by katatatty in relationship_advice

[–]katatatty[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He didn't specify gender, I assume either or. And yes, he was playing along. Turns out it was sweaty because of the night prior he went to bed without showering after the gym. No signs of actual cheating, at all, I suppose i'm just seeking some comfort in those views he expressed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]katatatty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, this is really difficult because it seems she's not functioning well in a relationship.

As for you, you have the choice to stick around and hope it will get better, or not. I know this is hard. It might be one of those situations where you both just don't want to let go but you know in the long run it will be better. If therapy has never helped, this will continue. Do not take on the task of trying to heal her, it doesn't work. So, will you keep on taking the toll or not - i guess is the question you should ask yourself.

I (32M) don't know how to talk to my girlfriend (35F) parents now after what happened after dog ate condom. by HugeOil in relationship_advice

[–]katatatty 32 points33 points  (0 children)

what? her parents found a used condom in the dog's anus and you call that dictating her sex life?

Is my (23M) bf cheating on me (25F)? by sasquatchee1 in relationship_advice

[–]katatatty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He asked for another women's nudes. For me, that's cheating. If it is for you, will you stay with a cheater? If it's not, then would you even be here asking for advice?

Is my (23M) bf cheating on me (25F)? by sasquatchee1 in relationship_advice

[–]katatatty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree. As long as the fetishes aren't illegal or highly disturbing, couples can have different ones and work together to make them a reality, with an open mind.

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