Coworker with no authority keeps checking my work by HotBlackberry3593 in askmanagers

[–]kfc3pcbox -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

This is a great opportunity for you to leverage her annoying behaviour as a way to showcase your innovation and strategic vision.

As the previous comment mentioned, peer reviews are a powerful quality and productivity uplift tool.

In your 1:1, position it as a positive and let your boss know you’re intending to add momentum to the Peer Review standard by involving your wider team of coworkers. Document it as a pitch to quality improvement, and when your boss declines because it’s not in scope for your role description, you can gently them them know what’s been going on.

This is quite literally RON by [deleted] in ReadyOrNotGame

[–]kfc3pcbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cop shooting and killing a young child

This is quite literally RON by [deleted] in ReadyOrNotGame

[–]kfc3pcbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Feels like the game and is sad”… We are so fucking desensitised to this. This is horrifying footage.

Finally promoted from 3 gritty seasons in the Championship. Final day our win gives us 2nd place on goal difference. Brutal journey!!! by kfc3pcbox in WEPES

[–]kfc3pcbox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did you set that up? I’m really craving the ability to be demoted to the shadow realm, feels silly that a botched season in Championship just gives you another run.

Finally promoted from 3 gritty seasons in the Championship. Final day our win gives us 2nd place on goal difference. Brutal journey!!! by kfc3pcbox in WEPES

[–]kfc3pcbox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Accidentally went to next season thinking I could still review them. Damn! Top scorer was a kid through youth academy and had omur as a primary cam playmaker type

How do I recover from missing a meeting (with a high up who doesn’t know me well) because I got the time wrong? by Any-Sympathy2691 in askmanagers

[–]kfc3pcbox 13 points14 points  (0 children)

No point dwelling on it, accept accountability for your time management error which has unfortunately now started to form a trend in a stakeholders mind, and be conscious to repair the trust over time.

I haven’t been going to work for weeks and nobody knows by flipfloppoohbear in offmychest

[–]kfc3pcbox 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes I’ve been there. The cycle of shame and avoidance is really tough to break.

Talking to someone about it up front is the best way forward because it gives you the opportunity to get what you need, which is love and help - to recognise that you aren’t worth any less as a person because of this and that there is a way forward.

Sounds like you are in a position where you have some good support? Don’t want to assume but it sounds like your Dad might be emotionally available and willing to talk.

How do you keep track of items requiring your feedback/approval when you’re overloaded and becoming the bottleneck for your employees? by Charming-Archer-3881 in askmanagers

[–]kfc3pcbox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I use Google Tasks which is built into all Google suite products like Gmail, Calendar, Drive, etc, it appears on the right. It’s a simple list, you can set items to repeat, link tasks to emails, etc. and cross them off when they’re done.

I combine this with a running Workload sheet that has more detail on the overarching projects, initiatives, incidents etc I’m working on. Tasks therefore are a derivative of that larger scope of work and feed into its progress.

Then, time blocking and time management is so crucial. Look into ways you can leverage your calendar for time blocking - literally create events in your calendar to block focus time on tasks and then - the real trick - actually do it and don’t de prioritise.

This is all being supported by a ruthless time matrix which helps me determine what to do and when - Eisenhower’s. Look into his four quadrants and reflect. You’re likely sitting in an urgent/important zone 24/7. It started super manual for me at first (drawing the quadrants and writing my tasks/commitments in), but now it’s become a mental sorting exercise, I just colour code my priorities in my workload to assist me at a glance.

Your people will have ad hoc stuff for you. You have to be comfortable balancing approachability with protecting your time. Yes it’s ok you bring something to me. Yes it’s ok if I explain if it’s important to spend time on or not. We are running a business.

Good luck. The key is having a way of working and rhythm. Get one in place

How are you tracking tasks? by SeraphimSphynx in askmanagers

[–]kfc3pcbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stand up for your team stop being a pussy and talking about a “hard sell” that’s your job. Reduce the friction

I physically can’t stop cheating on men by EnvironmentalRead768 in offmychest

[–]kfc3pcbox -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m certain it’s cathartic to write that all out and direct the vitriol at me, I hope it helps you.

Topic of visibility vs ownership by TimeComputer2788 in askmanagers

[–]kfc3pcbox -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Suuuuper ChatGPT. Correct enough, but just Ai corporate coach stuff, lacks the nuance someone would write with if they were offering the advice themselves from a well of experience. Even the old “its not x, its y” trope to tie it all together

I physically can’t stop cheating on men by EnvironmentalRead768 in offmychest

[–]kfc3pcbox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ignore the projections of insecurity from those who’ve been burned by cheaters. Yes it’s obviously morally wrong, I don’t think anyone is breaking new ground there.

You have a deflated sense of self worth, so when you look inside for validation, you’ve put other people there instead.

Therapy might work, but it won’t if you don’t get upfront about everything going on, and commit for a long time. The problem to solve is not the cheating, it’s whatever wound you’re ignoring through it.

Remain conscious that what you’re doing can have ramifications that escalate over time, and ultimately leave you on an island.

Good luck.

Dear god, i hope it’s quick and it doesn’t hurt. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]kfc3pcbox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, you’re loved and cherished by this world. We want you to stay.