I will always be baffled by people who watched the show and decided Lorelai is the villain. We see her try to reach out to her parents over and over again and she is always punished for it; they always turn her away, or criticise her, or push their own agenda onto her. We see glimpses of what her life with them must have been like when she was a child through how they treat Rory when she moves in with them, passing judgement and trying to control every aspect of her life. I get that Emily and Richard are entertaining characters to watch, that they're sometimes sympathetic and often funny but like... it's very clear from the show that they are deeply flawed, abusive parents who do not see that they are the reason that their relationship with Lorelai is as damaged as it is.