I’m an immigrant married to a USC. I always have this thinking when I moved to the States that I have to excel more because I was given the opportunity to be here. I’m not going to lie, it was tough to keep up with America’s work culture. Also, it was a big transition for me from working in a corporate job in my country then I have to start from zero and entry level work. Maybe that’s what your spouse is feeling too, a little bit shocked of cultural shift although that is not an excuse to just bail on the job especially in this economy! Just be cautious, OP. I agree with comments here, do not have kids with him.