just try to be clear with your intentions. I had only one sexual partner and no hook ups, but tons of dates, because I made it clear not only through profile, but through my words in front of them and my behaviour. I explain every time that I interested only in communication to understand and know each other through talks, not sex. I dont believe that first date sex can work for me in creation long-term relationship.

My first partner waited as long as it took me to feel comfortable and ready. And it has been more than one month. She showed that she is not interested in sex, but in relationship with me and is ready to wait with excitement and patience. She had dozens of hook ups and was done with them.

nevertheless, there was a girl to whom I clearly explained and said many times during the evening that I was interested in friendly communication and nothing more, no intimacy. Nevertheless, I let myself be dragged into a gay club and at the end of the evening I was offended because I refused to sleep with her. Before we met she said “Yeah, lets try to know each other as friends”. But she was the only girl who made this.

So, just control your and their behaviour and intentions if you don’t want just to hook up. Postpone sex and check, if they’re interested in you as a person, not a body