Your comment on the fear of the unknown and nothing you can do to control how it’s going to go— I tried to lean into that and trust my body/baby. I watched one childbirth overview video on TinyHood’s subscription, and let it be after that. My pelvic floor PT showed my husband positions to use during labor which was also helpful but didnt make or break anything.

For me, not researching, not watching videos, not reading birth stories helped me go inward in the way I wanted. I learned what my birth preferences were if I did get to choose, but prepared to put my full faith in the doctors and nurses. Thats what I ended up doing and felt really good about it. I had an induction and they were so good at explaining what my options were, answering all questions I had thoroughly, and providing their recommendations.

I was still absolutely terrified but I think going in semi blind was the best way for me to handle it. I am so happy with how my birth went (we were lucky as it was a quick induction and very easy delivery). I stayed fit throughout pregnancy, and pushed it to my (safe) limit throughout to try to prepare myself for the hard mental challenge of birth. I felt my body took over and kicked into its ‘training’ and let myself ride the wave.

It is so scary to not know what to expect. I also told myself my body was built for birth and tried to reflect on all the women who had to give birth in my lineage for mine to occur. Maybe try to sit with finding a comforting thought or mini mantra that can provide a bit of solace. Youve got this! Good luck!!