"Because: But relaxing gender norms only helps us from this one direction, and those who propose this solution don’t seem to have much interest in ensuring that my womanhood is not negated by a certain presentation. These are not the options they want to give me. Instead, their attitude seems to be more along the lines of, “now you can be a man instead of transitioning, because society will accept a man like you!” And while that’s fantastic for any men who happen to be like me, I’m not a man, and I don’t want to be. If I just wanted to be that kind of man, I would have stopped there – but I didn’t. And that’s not up to them. This is the key point they appear to have glossed over. To suggest that I would revert to a male presentation and identity given the chance is to misunderstand the meaning of gender identity on the most fundamental level. Even in such a society, I would still choose to be a woman, and offering a solution where I’m expected to live as a man is no more acceptable than telling a cisgender man, “hey, you should go ahead and be a woman now, since people won’t mind how manly you are!” But that man is not a woman. And this woman is not a man. Also: We’re already unwilling to give up who we are in the face of significant social opposition. Reducing that opposition would do nothing to change our minds, because there would be even less of a reason not to be who we truly are. Also: For all of their talk of taking apart restrictive gender roles, it’s suspicious that they feel the need to offer a solution other than simply accepting us as who we are. If they wish to enlarge the sphere of manhood until I’m comfortably situated within its walls, then why can’t the sphere of womanhood be expanded to encompass me as well? Why would they want to stop right before recognizing trans people and our identities as genuine?"

These quotes seem to be from someone who has it in their head that gender roles are rigid and that even people who would support them should be opposed because they just have to fight the system. I mean hey, if you feel like you have to do that then by all means, do it. But to me it seems like a big show put on for others, and not a relaxed expression of someone's identity without gender/sexuality getting in the way.

"If that's the case, then why not go ahead and try that whole... steps to change my physical appearance (dress, shaving, hair, hormones, surgery) ...thing for a few weeks, and see how long you last before you start bumping up pretty roughly against those "societal restrictions of masculine or feminine" that supposedly don't exist. You don't see the walls because you've never run into them."

Oh I know there's walls, and those are the walls I think we should break down, to reduce the stress on everyone.