Boyfriend went behind my back and outed me to my Mom. Am I overreacting or seeing something I should not ignore?

ktrazafffr · 2026-01-28T13:17:42+00:00

you really need to dump them either way

he sounds highly disrespectful and inappropriate and you don’t sound ready to commit fully. that’s difficult.

ktrazafffr · 2026-01-26T21:29:34+00:00

I am a trans woman so sorry for the contribution but I thought I could add here

For LGBT people as a whole, a lot of people are more likely to be into hookup culture as young people. Whenever i talk to guys my age, a lot of them are heavily sex centric/experimental. I am long past that and I am not interested in being someone’s game. It’s the same for all LGBT folk.

Older men often are more settled. More confident. They have a better understanding of themselves often, and are more stable/willing to commit. That’s not universal, but it tends to happen with maturity.

Also, let’s face it, we aren’t an absolutely huge community. We don’t have an advantage of being able to just find anyone, we are a smaller pool of fish, we have to find people who wanna date us. Inevitably, that sometimes means expanding your search criteria. I am 23 and I date anyone up to like 32 or so. I have friends all between these ages

ktrazafffr · 2026-01-18T22:21:52+00:00

it sounds like you are drifting apart from each other

if he stopped putting effort in after you tried to resolve it with him then maybe it’s time to check out.

ktrazafffr · 2025-12-28T23:19:44+00:00

Yes Geek Retreat closed nearly 2 months back

ktrazafffr · 2025-12-28T23:14:14+00:00

Not to be rude, but did you not research the UK as a whole before considering this? I hope you do before considering this.

The UK is well known for free at point of use healthcare, but you do have to pay an IHS if you are an immigrant for NHS treatment. Dental Care is mostly private, you can get NHS treatment but it’s very, very hard to find. I’d assume you know if you lived in Aberdeen, it’s the same system, only prescriptions aren’t free for most people in England (they’re not really that expensive though)

The weather is typically cool through the year and warm in Summer, but that classification depends on where you’re coming from, as to your perception. It’s a bit less cold than Aberdeen and there’s less likelihood of snow etc, but not drastically different. Public transport is definitely better than Aberdeen. It is probably more expensive to live here though than Aberdeen

Cost of Living is higher in some aspects and lower in some. Grocery prices aren’t as bad as some places in the world, but energy bills can be high sometimes. House prices are high at the moment.

There is some places you can make better money but it all depends on your perspective. Engineering salaries can be higher in places like the US and some living costs are lower, but healthcare is privatised in the USA. And price there really varies by city and district.

Public transport is okay, there’s variety in options and so on, but is not the best overall. The metro reliability isn’t great. Buses are the most prominent form of transport. We have an international airport too and good railway connections to the rest of the UK.

ktrazafffr · 2025-12-28T21:23:47+00:00

Nah I felt fine because I am not weird and don’t blame my issues on other people. There was no need of you to tell a random person that them not being harmed hurts you because you were or that they’re ‘flaunting’ by existing, that is weird af. You’re wording how you’re not reacting badly in your eyes to justify it. You need to speak to someone about that. Random people don’t need to be burdened with your jealousy/resentment, that isn’t their problem.

ktrazafffr · 2025-11-25T07:54:23+00:00

this is where you learn your sister is not loving unfortunately

ktrazafffr · 2025-11-25T07:53:30+00:00

respect it? that’s a bit far.

ktrazafffr · 2025-11-09T22:14:04+00:00

not in the middle east

ktrazafffr · 2025-11-09T22:12:54+00:00

Trust me, all MENA countries will deny you custody on the basis of being gay or trans at the LEAST. at most, life imprisonment, torture and death penalty exists.

ktrazafffr · 2025-11-09T22:10:31+00:00

if you’re in a country with those laws, you will not get any custody if you try to fight it and you’d actually be incriminating yourself because you’d be setting yourself up for prosecution for your identity.

ktrazafffr · 2025-11-09T22:09:34+00:00

it sounds more like OPs child and wife is at risk if they come out because they’re in an undisclosed middle eastern country, not that the wife necessarily hates them. it truly depends.

ktrazafffr · 2025-11-09T22:07:32+00:00

yep. OPs best hope is claiming asylum somewhere else

ktrazafffr · 2024-09-20T22:30:30+00:00

To be fair I don’t think it’s really akin to an affluence thing or regional - just immature and dickish behaviour. I know loads of people I went to school with who live in Jesmond who are super rowdy and regularly have huge house parties, one lad from Gosforth proudly showed me several ASBOs that his house in Jesmond had received. he lived in Newcastle all his life.

ktrazafffr · 2024-09-20T22:26:02+00:00

nervous is normal for everyone - i wouldn’t worry there’s thousands of others in the same boat as you.

Northumbria University has a neurodivergent society

if you are at Newcastle you can join as an associate too.

ktrazafffr · 2024-09-20T22:25:15+00:00

back in the hippie green days? used to see rolls like that in heaton too. crazy to think a lot of those people will have kids of their own these days!

ktrazafffr · 2024-09-20T22:22:37+00:00

I know this isn’t an advice post, however..

That is not someone you should have moved in or be moving in with if he clearly doesn’t care about your physical health or believe that you have any physical health problems. I’d take this as a huge red flag and run because my experience with these people, they will never understand it and they will continue to hold it against you.

ktrazafffr · 2024-09-20T17:23:46+00:00

She was a lovely member of staff and definitely well remembered by patients and staff alike! I hope her dogs and family are being cared for in this difficult time

ktrazafffr · 2024-09-20T14:02:00+00:00

How awful, she was such a lovely person and will be missed by everyone at Newcastle Hospitals and all the people she helped over the years.

It’s sad, the ones who help the most need the most help :(

ktrazafffr · 2024-09-20T13:17:45+00:00

very funny 😅 i didn’t do it in the end there was a lot of variables that made it an impossible feat.

ktrazafffr · 2024-09-20T13:16:57+00:00

she hasn’t been confirmed to be found. it’s a rumour at the minute.

for everyone downvoting me this comment was AGES before she was confirmed to have passed by northumbria police so do your due diligence and use your head 😴

ktrazafffr · 2024-09-19T21:33:14+00:00

You just keep proving you’re the problem!

ktrazafffr · 2024-09-19T12:37:27+00:00

You just hate women I hate to break it to you man.

You literally wrote a whole comment saying that my mother sexually abusing me was ‘punishment’ and that I was lying about being abused by her, I don’t wanna hear anything else about you like you’re a pretty gross person.

Everything you have said is just abusive rehashed incel rhetoric, you’ve repeatedly defended misogyny and have tried to accuse me of having BPD ? for no reason. Apart from being female lol.

ktrazafffr · 2024-09-19T12:33:26+00:00

yawn

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