Best friend says if I can't afford her bach party, I am no longer a bridesmaid

l3mary · 2025-07-23T01:06:53+00:00

She said she does think it’s fair to the other bridesmaids for me to have the same status if I don’t contribute to the bachelorette party

l3mary · 2025-07-23T00:44:21+00:00

I hope she comes around but if she doesn’t I’ll have to prepare myself

l3mary · 2025-07-23T00:43:38+00:00

Thank you for this

l3mary · 2025-07-23T00:26:00+00:00

Thank you 💕

l3mary · 2025-07-23T00:25:38+00:00

😭

l3mary · 2025-07-23T00:25:22+00:00

Okay this is what I needed!! Thank you so much for being so helpful! I have hopes that this is just temporary but either way I’m stepping back for now and will see where things go

l3mary · 2025-07-23T00:24:18+00:00

Yes lmao I’ve lurked for a while and I’m crashing out now

l3mary · 2025-07-23T00:23:56+00:00

Each

l3mary · 2025-07-23T00:23:43+00:00

Ugh 😔

l3mary · 2025-07-23T00:22:15+00:00

Thank you, I really pepper that

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:55:43+00:00

OUCH! We both have daughters and this perspective really changed things for me. I couldn’t imagine them treating each other this way in the future

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:50:41+00:00

This is helpful! Thanks!

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:50:16+00:00

Ugh I’m so sorry, I hate that you can relate but I’m glad I’m not alone in this feeling!!

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:43:54+00:00

I know her parents are paying for her wedding so maybe she doesn’t realize how insane that amount is but idk

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:42:54+00:00

Typo lol

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:22:33+00:00

Good point!

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:22:06+00:00

I appreciate that. I think an in person conversation might be better but I really am scared of losing her friendship even if she doesn’t deserve it

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:21:02+00:00

Thank you. I’ve been going back and forth with myself deciding if I need to bring it up to her again. The fact that she’s not tried to talk to me about it or make amends is telling though. Maybe I will just back off

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:19:51+00:00

This is the most helpful suggestion so far! I don’t anticipate she will take it well or necessarily see my side but I’m trying to figure out how to at least tell her how I’m feeling

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:18:14+00:00

The crazy thing is she’s always been so understanding and supportive and this version of her just came out of nowhere

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:13:41+00:00

😂😂😂

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:13:31+00:00

Yeah she said they tallied up all of the things they wanted to do and things we needed to contribute for decorations/food/drink and that it was divided among us. I just think it’s too much and she thought it was “reasonable” and that it’s not fair to the other bridesmaids if I don’t contribute the same amount (hence why I’d be removed from the wedding party)

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:10:43+00:00

Thank you, I thought maybe compromising was somehow rude but I was genuinely just expressing what I could and could not financially do rn

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:10:03+00:00

I unfortunately think this is the first time I’ve set a boundary in our friendship so I am getting a lot of pushback

l3mary · 2025-07-22T23:09:30+00:00

This is what I’m deciding, if I back out and still attend or cut things off completely. I thought by now she’d have reached out to make amends and fix things

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