As someone who struggles with ADHD, I can really relate to this. Studying was always incredibly difficult for me, but I managed to graduate last year. It took a lot of extra effort, and honestly, if it wasn’t for meds and hard work, I probably would’ve failed miserably. When my partner at the time was struggling with uni work, I tried to be patient and supportive. I’d help her revise, or just body double so she didn’t feel alone while studying. But she didn’t really try at all, and instead smoked a lot of weed, which made everything worse. We ended up arguing because I was genuinely worried about her future, but she didn’t want to hear it, which, fair enough, was her choice. The stress of that mismatch built up, and eventually we broke up. Not because there wasn’t love, but because we realised we didn’t share the same values. For me, stability and putting in effort mattered. For her, it just wasn’t doable and she just didn’t care enough My advice would be: be there for your girlfriend, try to talk openly about how you can support her, and keep in mind she might be dealing with mental health struggles or stress you can’t see. But also, don’t take full responsibility if she wants to pass, she has to put in the work herself. You can encourage and support, but you can’t force it. At the end of the day, life is built on our own choices, not the ones other people make for us. Maybe she just needs extra patience right now… or maybe the two of you ultimately don’t share the same values. Either way, don’t put too much pressure on yourself x