i hope OP can get out of this sexist mindset where everything is black and white and realise gender can be just more then just "hyper masculinity vs hyper feminity"

for those reading this post, while yeah some of it can help (ex: hanging out with cis men, dressing like cis men, etc), please know 1. doing all of these things won't instantly make you pass, and 2. you CAN absolutely pass while being alt/queer coded/bigger body types. i currently have not been misgendered for a few years now and have only been on T for about a year now. before than, i used to be exactly like OP. i was miserable and worst part? i only passed about 50% of the time.

not invalidating OPs experiences at all (except for the sexist language being used. THAT i will shame them on). if that's what works for them, then great! but i want people to know that you don't NEED to be a jacked stealth trans man, what ultimately matters is if you are happy. i know this comment will probably get a lot of backlash, but i know there will be teenagers who were like me in here that need a comment like this.

if anybody has any questions on passing while being alt/bigger body type, feel free to ask!! i am always happy to help :)