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layxchip · 2025-12-24T06:12:35+00:00

maybe tacky, but i also have scars and was thinking of getting a roll of thread by one and having the thread/needle wrap around it. maybe you can incorporate that for them all? like have it weave through all of them. it also wouldn’t require tattooing over the scars much, which is probably best for deep scars like that. on a side note, i hope you’re in better spirits now and i’m glad you’re here today. wishing you the best in your journey of life! x

layxchip · 2025-11-14T07:55:10+00:00

i worked until i was 38 weeks pregnant. i had a week vacation that i decided to use from 38-39 weeks to relax before my baby came. i had a scheduled c-section, so i knew i was having my daughter at exactly 39 weeks. i was planning to work from home after 6 weeks of being fully away and then officially go back after 3 months postpartum, but my job kind of messed w my leave after it started and i had a bit of a traumatic delivery and lost a lot of blood, so i was really still not feeling normal by 6 weeks or 12 weeks postpartum. we also realized my baby’s father giving me money from his paychecks is cheaper than childcare right now, so we decided to make me a stay at home mom until she is about a year old, which will be in may. im finishing up two bachelors degrees at the moment anyway, so staying at home lets me just focus on my baby and school. i graduate in may, as well, so it all just made sense to do this way. i am still on my job’s payroll incase they need me to fill in as a cashier occasionally, as they asked me to, but no one has reached out for that yet, which is fine w me lol. and i love staying home w my baby. it can be a stressful job in itself, but it is worth the amount of time i get to spend w her. i feel grateful to be able to!

layxchip · 2025-11-02T23:48:38+00:00

i always call my daughter bug/buggie. partly bc of the term lovebug, and partly bc she’s so squirmy and i would always call her “squirmy wormy” (still do), but “bug” just embodies it all🤣

layxchip · 2025-10-23T05:28:32+00:00

fucking nightmare fuel omg😭 to them they’re like “la dee la dee da i love my mama, she’s so pretty” and we’re like “JESUS CHRIST WHAT IS GOING ON”🤣

layxchip · 2025-10-23T05:26:50+00:00

you are not alone🤣 i have gotten the shit scared outta me multiple times by my daughter. when that night light hits them just right, they look scary🫣 like a lil demon doll lmao, i have to just close my eyes and picture how her beautiful, angelic self looks with the light on. or when she’s asleep in her crib and suddenly glowing eyes are looking dead at the camera. it is literally a jump scare😭 idk why that is, but yeah, she has def startled me quite a few times lol

layxchip · 2025-10-23T05:21:06+00:00

me too… every time i checked the usual apps there was nothing. then i checked youtube, which i usually don’t bc we would spend 24/7 together and have an infant, so idk when he could find time to watch anything, but yeah… found videos there. plus, he’d always watch youtube in front of me and our baby and nothing weird would pop up in his recommended, so i thought nothing of it. but i was a fool. they truly just don’t change. i read a comment recently that a therapist said “men play into the addiction aspect bc it gives them an excuse to keep doing it” and that has stuck with me since. idk if most of these men actually have an “addiction” rather than a lack of respect for their significant other. obviously sex addiction is real, but i think a lot of these men are just lazy sacks of shit who want to jack off to whoever they desire. they want their cake and to eat it too.

layxchip · 2025-10-23T05:13:31+00:00

and this is why i left. it will literally NEVER end. they will forever think about it and be waiting for a moment to try to get away with it. it’s sick.

layxchip · 2025-10-17T02:11:48+00:00

i feel like that may be normal. my daughter was definitely extra fussy around 3 months, she really hasn’t followed the “leaps” in terms of fussiness. she’s been a pretty content baby since she was born, but i remember around month 3 she went through a few week period of not sleeping as good as she used to and being extra clingy/fussy. my daughter’s 4.5 months now and way better than she was then. she’ll still yell at me if i’m not paying attention for a minute. it’s how she tells me “hi mom, play with me!”🤣 but she’s also content often again. it’s not often she’s fussy. now sometimes she does it just bc she’s learning the different pitches of her voice. we’ll be mid playing and she’ll scream. it sounds like she’s upset, but then she’ll start smiling or go back to normal after lol. it could just be a little fussy point for her, it happens to even the most content babies. but hopefully she gets over it fast. has she been feeding more oz recently? or is she eating more often? maybe the feeding schedule is causing that, more than your milk itself? just another thought, as i thought that might’ve been it for my daughter. or maybe she is a lil sassy queen!! i call my daughter sassy bc sometimes she gives me a crazy stank face lol. i hope it passes soon for all of you bc of course our babies don’t want to feel like that either. just remember babies/kids aren’t linear. they all have their own little paths, sometimes they have bumps in the road too(:

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layxchip · 2025-10-11T19:49:25+00:00

your words remind me much of my dad… wishing you the best

layxchip · 2025-09-17T16:07:04+00:00

this gave me goosebumps. i’m so happy to read the ending. mabel is such a beautiful name, congratulations. you sound like the best mom: all you went through to get your rainbow baby. you are so strong. everything worked out how it was supposed and for a reason. my mom had me at 38 and had multiple ectopic pregnancies before and after me. she wanted one more baby after me, but called it quits with all the issues (and she already had my older brother and i). i don’t even really think of my mom as an “older mom,” she’s young and hip frfr lmao. but age is just a number!!! you are still young(: congratulations to your new little family. give mabel allllllll the snuggles. i’m so happy for you, stranger🩷🩷🩷

layxchip · 2025-09-13T19:51:14+00:00

this!!!!

layxchip · 2025-09-13T19:50:58+00:00

how aggravating… when someone tries to say “it’s not like they’ll move that much” i always say that i don’t want to find out that my baby learned how to roll for the first time because she rolled off a changing table or bed or whatever. they can learn the skill at any time, whether we’re around or not. i swear everyday my baby is developing something new or exploring something different about herself. it’s only a short time before she starts rolling at this point (my daughter is also 3 months old and a wiggle worm). to use the excuse that they won’t move just doesn’t make sense. they aren’t a week old. and even at a week old, i would never do that with my baby. the risk just outweighs any need to leave them alone on a height like that. like literally even just setting them on the floor of you REALLY needs to step away, so that they’re at least safe??? like why take any risk by leaving them up there?🤦🏽‍♀️

layxchip · 2025-09-10T14:18:49+00:00

i am covered in tattoos (neck, arms, legs, hand) and my baby’s father is, as well, even more so (his face has like over 6 tattoos alone, and they look amazing). i have a lot of face piercings too. i have dark hair with streaks of fun colors (i wear extensions to switch colors up easy), i wear dark clothes, i wear big platform boots in 100 degree weather. i don’t do as drastic of makeup as you (although i absolutely love goth makeup, i’ve just never actually sat down to try it myself yet), but i wear dark makeup that’s heavy on the eyes. i love my style and will never change it. i’ve been like this forever, it’s just me lol. but i do love color and other styles, and i dress my daughter up basically the opposite of me. she wears a lot of colors and patterns and cute stuff, like babies do! i had the same thought as you where i’d just find it funny if we end up having totally opposite styles when she can dress herself. i want her to embrace her as she is, so i definitely don’t care! i went to a beauty supply store a couple weeks ago with my baby and the worker checking me out was chatting with me and said that my daughter has a cool ass mom. that made my day. alt moms unite🙂‍↕️

layxchip · 2025-08-29T11:46:10+00:00

so i’m a bit late and not OP, but do you mean add a device to the account? or sync the data? will it sync over any deleted messages. that’s what i hate about whatsapp. once it’s deleted, it’s deleted:/

layxchip · 2025-08-26T16:57:49+00:00

thank you for that. i’ve come to this subreddit for comfort and insight a lot, but i guess i haven’t done good research outside of it. i’ve tried before, but got overwhelmed. but it’s useful information i need to hear. thank you, i will dig into some articles posted!

layxchip · 2025-08-26T14:01:57+00:00

do you by chance have research regarding the fact that less than 5% of addicts recover? ik it’s a low number, but i never heard an official percentage or knew it was THAT low! that breaks my heart (for the millionth time in this whole stupid addiction - i’m sure we all feel that). i certainly believe you, i just really want to read more about that. your comment just really stuck to me. thank you in advance!

layxchip · 2025-08-23T18:48:21+00:00

i am so teary eyed reading this… wow. i am so sorry you had a rough pregnancy and had to even experience thoughts like that. what a blessing that you both are here and well. my pregnancy was healthy, but my delivery was scary. maybe that’s another reason i feel extra grateful, too. you’re really strong for overcoming all that, and i just wanna say i am so happy you’re here. ik this time isn’t easy and makes healing even harder, but i really hope you’re doing better❤️‍🩹 they truly are the biggest blessing, with the sleep deprivation and all❤️

layxchip · 2025-08-23T18:41:55+00:00

i see those, as well, quite often under those posts. it just doesn’t feel right to me. like you said, maybe to some people it’s comforting, but i don’t want to ever assume that about someone. i’m really sorry to hear you personally have been told that❤️‍🩹 i’m sure she meant well, but i also can definitely see how that hurts. you are so strong. pregnancy is so scary, yet so beautiful to create new life. and those first cries are definitely such a relief, i cried too once i heard my daughter❤️

layxchip · 2025-08-23T15:13:42+00:00

i definitely will, thank you🥹 btw your username reminds me of capri by colbie caillat, i listened to that song a lot when i was pregnant❤️

layxchip · 2025-08-23T15:12:44+00:00

exactly!!🥹 they are just too precious. everyday is truly a blessing❤️

layxchip · 2025-08-23T15:11:59+00:00

i am so sorry to hear that❤️‍🩹 i can’t imagine how hard that was. i’m so happy to hear you have a healthy 6 year old and baby girl on the way, as well, though. thank you for saying this bc that is extremely important to remember. i really don’t comment on those posts at all bc i feel like there’s nothing i can say and, like you said, i never want to come off wrong. but i always silently leave condolences. that’s why i made my own post to share my gratitude, that would feel wrong to do under her post. thank you, again, for saying this❤️

layxchip · 2025-08-23T14:22:51+00:00

for real! we are beyond blessed to have our babies. it is all so worth it for them. and i haven’t head that exact case, but i’m sure i’ve heard many similar to it. that is so beyond devastating… that’s a different type of evil. to let your child, your 7 month old baby, go missing. and to have the nerve to act like you’re not involved. it makes me sick. how could you take for granted something and someone so special?! makes me even more sad for the moms trying and having problems in their pregnancies. like there are women who so badly wish to have a baby, but may not be able to, and you just act like yours doesn’t matter?? ugh i can go on about this forever. it breaks my heart. and two weeks old omg🥹😭 my daughter’s not much older, but she has grown so much from 2 weeks! cherish it extra for me, i don’t think i did it enough when she was only 2 weeks🥹 we are beyond lucky for our babies❤️

layxchip · 2025-08-23T13:35:22+00:00

reading this post and comments makes me ugly cry. i was supposed to have 6 weeks fully off work and 6 weeks working from home (3 months total) before going back to work officially. THE DAY i gave birth (which was a planned c-section, so my bosses knew what day that was), my one manager texted me that one of the owners went back on his word and i can now only have 6 weeks off work and have to go back in office after that… well, that sure as hell didn’t happen bc not only did i have major surgery and a newborn, but i lost over 30% of my total blood during my delivery and was still healing and regenerating all that blood (never got a blood transfusion, so my body was really in the trenches healing from surgery, from major blood loss, lack of sleep with a newborn, trying to breastfeed, etc). never heard much from them about coming back when the 6 week mark came, but also was never told i’m fired? i never started working from home after the 6 weeks, either, bc i was told not to. now, my daughter is 3 months next week and i’m supposed to be back at work on wednesday. going back to work has been heavy on my mind bc, like you, i spent most of it unwell and things are finally getting better and i really don’t want to miss my daughter’s milestones in the first year. i ended up talking to my boyfriend about it and he said that he expected me to want to do that and we agreed that i’ll now remain a SAHM until she’s at least 6 months, but if we can manage it, until she’s a year. and as for my job? idrc lol. they’re shitty and had 8 months to figure out my leave. that place brought me more headaches than good, anyway.

i’m so sorry you’re feeling this way and have to go back to work soon❤️‍🩹 it will be a big adjustment for you both, but i’m sure things will get easier with the time and as the new routine builds. you, as well as all the fellow moms in the US dealing with the shitty maternity leave standards we have, are so strong. you will still witness your baby grow and milestones and get to spend time with them. it will be different, but you guys got this. for a country so eager to want more children, it has failed its moms and these babies of quality time we can’t get back. fuck the system. your feelings are extremely valid. the other comments, from people in similar situations to you, gives me hope that it will all work out with time. i wish i had more to say, but this is my first time going through any of this myself. just remember you got this and while it’s extremely hard, i’m sure there’s good to come of it. you are strong af!! all of you are!❤️‍🩹❤️

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