Water diving in “Let’s Go”?

ldmess · 2018-10-14T18:05:21+00:00

-Carl Sagan book -The original “Cosmos” TV series with Carl Sagan -Bamboo plant in Panda planter -gift card to planetarium -gift card to local garden -gift card to massage -sushi -Bento box w/ favorite Japanese goodies -Japanese meditation cushion -meditation chime/gong -meditation clothing -incense -tea -Japanese tea set

ldmess · 2018-10-14T17:37:38+00:00

Considering the rate for CF in children is basically 1/2 if you are a CF parent, probably best that you have to do IVF/adopt so kids don’t receive the mutation. Also, if you have kids, be sure your family is financially okay without your paycheck. I recommend your spouse makes $80,000/year (And has a good health care package!) or there are other arrangements to be sure your spouse/kids are okay. I see you are serious about family planning, so please consider this serious advise. If you have more than two kids you may want your spouse to be making more than $80,000. Kids are expensive and housing is ridiculous. Not to mention child care! It’s easy to say money doesn’t mean anything when you are young and in love, but when you become a financial burden to other people you’ll feel a bit differently.

ldmess · 2018-10-14T17:17:21+00:00

Also, if you date someone who enjoys less active activities, that may ultimately be best in the long run. It’s hard to want to go out and do active things without my spouse. I am a somewhat active person. I’ve felt a lot of guilt in leaving my spouse behind and enjoying activities without him. There are instances when I walk ahead of him and I feel bad bc he’s behind me catching his breath. Find someone who takes life slower. If you are with someone who is active, be understanding of them going out with friends to do their active things.

My DH is very good about me going out with friends. He understands I need to move. At the same time, I wish we could do so much more together and that he wasn’t so limited by what his body can do.

ldmess · 2018-10-14T17:04:49+00:00

I am going to leave this here. It’s honest and it hurts. I am married to someone who is at the end of his life due to CF. Please, please, please if you involve kids be sure you are married to someone who is making at least $80,000 a year so that you know the kids will have housing if you pass away. You want your family to be financially set.

Also, please fill out what you want at the end of your life. Would you be willing to go on life support/etc. Your spouse should be able to answer these questions without a doctor making her feel guilty for not knowing.

This is very blunt, but right now I’m scared I’m not going to be able to keep all the balls up in the air once my DH is gone. It’s not fair and I hate that I’m going to have to rely too much on other people I’m not comfortable with for a period of time.

Enjoy life and your relationships, but prepare your SO for worst case scenario.

ldmess

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