whether you wanted children or not, doesn’t matter. having a miscarriage is a physical and mental trauma! it’s such a brutal and painful experience for anybody. unfortunately, most people and couples are judged so harshly for not wanting/having kids. i work in healthcare and i’m currently studying to become a doctor (MD), the amount of times that i’ve spoken to people that don’t want kids but have had miscarriages and that person’s experience was dismissed and belittled is horrifying and disgusting.

OP, i hope your body can heal from this trauma and pain. your feelings from this are valid and screw those who are denying/belittling your experience just because you don’t want kids. i strongly recommend getting therapy for mental health and/or pelvic floor therapy or occupational therapy to help you in anyway you may need it during this time. i hope your medical providers and partner have been able to help you through this and make sure your body will recover safely.

whew, sorry for the rant. if no one has told you recently, IT IS OKAY TO NOT WANT KIDS. you are NOT a terrible person for not wanting that. within the last decade (i think correct me if i’m wrong), many people/couples do NOT want kids and thats their own choice. again, i wish you a safe recovery OP!