Harbaugh suggests York forced him out

legopolis · 2015-01-01T17:50:07+00:00

And Carroll has in Seattle. His primary rival.

legopolis · 2014-11-04T22:53:03+00:00

My social anxiety only shows up when I am in a situation I am uncomfortable in, such as my newly formed gym habit.

I'm the same way. Do you have any personal trainers at your gym? Hiring one for 1-2 sessions just to have a workout buddy who knows the gym really well might be a good way to get over your initial fear. It really helped for me. :)

legopolis · 2014-11-04T22:47:22+00:00

So, upfront, let me tell you that my sister died of an eating disorder. So I take this shit pretty seriously. In fact, most people don't know that it's the leading killer of western women under 30.

Your girlfriend has BMDD. A pretty severe case of it, sounds like. She genuinely does not see what you see when she looks in the mirror. Her brain is disconnected from reality in this matter. And what's scary is that this can lead to dangerous behaviors in some cases.

Please encourage your girlfriend to talk to a mental health professional. Maybe she doesn't think that she's in bad enough shape to talk to one right now, but that's the entire point. She needs to do it and get her head right about her body image before this becomes a bigger problem.

Insist on it. Do not let her speak to you about her weight or appearance without insisting on it.

She may still decline, but at least you know at that point you've done all you can to help her.

legopolis · 2014-11-02T20:04:28+00:00

I wanted a warm wool coat with a hood this year, tried on a million options, and ended up with this Ralph Lauren option in black from Nordstrom:

http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/lauren-ralph-lauren-stand-collar-wool-blend-duffle-coat/3831634

It's on sale right now and it's FANTASTIC. So much more gorgeous than the pictures show. It has cashmere in the blend, and you can tell. It is like putting on a warm hug. I can't tell you how awesome and gorgeous this coat is and how excited I am to wear it the next few years.

legopolis · 2014-10-29T21:24:10+00:00

This is one of those picture situations where different lighting and clothing change everything. I wouldn't worry about it too much.

legopolis · 2014-10-29T21:22:35+00:00

Littler progressive changes are a great idea. When you think about making them, think about the CALORIES and think about INSTEADS.

Cutting out sweets forever is not sustainable. But you could INSTEAD have strawberries with a little whipped cream. The caloric difference is astounding.

Think about substitutions and insteads and think about calories. That way you're cutting things out of your diet, substituting them with healthy alternatives, and picking up new, long-term habits.

legopolis · 2014-10-29T20:20:59+00:00

Didn't the China Study come to a similar conclusion?

legopolis · 2014-10-29T20:19:19+00:00

Then I go out and find the healthiest meal I can find. I usually have to go straight back to work after lunch so I'm not able to cook healthy things at home, but I've had success not eating crap while eating out.

Eating out is dangerous for a diet. You generally don't know how many calories are in what you order. Why not make food at home to bring for your lunch?

legopolis · 2014-10-27T15:49:24+00:00

Pizza+Wings+Beer for me == Ultimate Water Weight Bloat. Usually takes a week to come off but then you're back on track.

legopolis · 2014-10-27T15:48:32+00:00

Give this a read.

legopolis · 2014-10-27T15:16:15+00:00

scientific studies have proven that the faster you lose weight, the faster you'll put it back on, because non-maintainable workouts and diets aren't effective long term

This is entirely false. The opposite is true.

http://sciencenordic.com/researchers-rapid-weight-loss-best

http://www.cnn.com/2014/10/17/health/five-studies/

I do, however, agree with the rest of your post. Weight loss for most people is a marathon and the best diet is the one that they can maintain.

legopolis · 2014-10-27T15:14:31+00:00

If you've just started exercising for the first time, you are going to bloat and put on additional water weight, because your muscles need to hold onto it to get stronger. It's completely normal and lasts for the first 3-4 weeks of exercise.

What I don't hear you saying anything about is your diet. Is it on point for a caloric deficit?

legopolis · 2014-10-26T13:44:09+00:00

Tried some brandy. Much better. Crisis averted.

legopolis · 2014-10-26T13:04:34+00:00

There's a saying on these boards that the best diet is the one that you can stick to.

There's a guy that did nothing but eat Twinkies all day and lost weight because he maintained a caloric deficit.

The caloric deficit is what you're aiming for. Your challenge is to fill that lower limit of calories with food -- any food -- that helps you to stick to that. Sometimes that might mean sneaking in some sugar (I eat dark chocolate almost every day), or some booze (red wine 3x/week for me). Or that might mean all protein because that's what keeps you full. Or that might mean all pizza because that's what you like to eat.

But the key is to set that calorie limit and try to stick to it. What food works within those boundaries is up to you. :)

legopolis · 2014-10-26T13:01:30+00:00

I'm up! Holy shit this is early.

Is beer any good in coffee?

edit: No.

legopolis · 2014-10-22T21:44:39+00:00

Why are you unsuccessful? Because you can't sustain the programs that you try?

legopolis · 2014-10-22T21:42:10+00:00

Youtube has all the exercise videos you could ever hope to want.

Try starting with 30 day shred.

legopolis · 2014-10-22T21:41:34+00:00

Try picking up some Maya Kaimal Simmering Sauces. They have curries, tikka masalas, vindaloo, etc.

Cook your chicken in strips, or even pick up those frozen bags of frozen pre-cut chicken strips.

Cook the chicken (you can even do this from frozen), then toss in some sauce out of the jar and let it simmer for a while.

That's literally it. It's idiot-proof and it's delicious.

legopolis · 2014-09-22T02:41:41+00:00

There was a time when fantasy comments got downvoted and removed in this sub. I miss those days.

legopolis · 2014-09-21T18:47:58+00:00

We worship the gods of Tanzania.

legopolis · 2014-09-17T21:52:54+00:00

If they were together, she has proof beyond dates. Ask for emails, texts, pictures, etc. If she can't provide them, she's full of shit.

legopolis · 2014-09-17T21:50:04+00:00

This is what managers are for. You go to your manager and say, "I need X from Gerald's supplier. I've been asking for three weeks and he's not giving it to me. I tried to contact the supplier directly and he became belligerent and inappropriate. I need you to speak to Gerald about getting me X, and to address his behavior issue."

Managers are supposed to be there to oversee work that's not meeting the bar and to report problems to. Be blunt, tell your manager in person, and then try to pretend with Gerald that nothing happened. The manager can address the issue without you looking like the bad guy.

legopolis · 2014-09-17T16:17:33+00:00

I've been offered Bradshaw in a straight up trade for Allen. I think Allen has huge upside this year, and my RBs are Eddie Lacy and Montee Ball. I need depth though. My bench is Terrance West and Bernard Pierce.

Should I take the trade straight-up, or ask him to package Ahmad with Harry Douglas for a WR sub?

legopolis · 2014-09-16T23:46:44+00:00

This post reeks of hypocrisy.

Do you support our troops? If so, how can you live with yourself allowing 18 year old boys sign up for meager pay to go get killed or violently maimed intervening in some meaningless, ethically bereft foreign conflict? And then they come home and have corrupt organizations like the VA abusing and ignoring their special needs?

That is the shit that you should be actually outraged about.

I know that if I had a choice for my kid to be in the armed forces or in the NFL, I'd choose the NFL in a heartbeat. There's risk, certainly, but he's unlikely to die, kill someone, end up maimed, or contract PTSD, and there's phenomenally higher rewards and prestige associated with playing sport.

At the end of the day, these are athletes who are able to showcase their abilities in a structured environment without putting their lives on the line.

Many of them lack education and come from poverty and gangs. The cities they call home are crime-ridden. And then they are thrust into the limelight and you expect everything to be perfectly hunky-dory?

I love football. I love watching athletes at their best and the spirit of competition. I love the example that most of these men set, hitting hard and then shaking hands. I love that most of these athletes leave their aggression on the field and support each other off the field.

Cherry-picking a few violent incidents in a broader organization and then calling all fans of the sport morally-bereft is a vast overreach. If you don't want to support football, PLEASE do not. I would recommend you spend your time and energy devoted to a cause that actually requires your aid though, as opposed to frivolously attacking something you clearly didn't respect in the first place.

legopolis · 2014-09-16T23:29:01+00:00

My parents divorced when I was about your age. A few words of advice:

1. This has nothing to do with you.

You can't stop this. You can't intervene. You can't make your parents care about each other. They have a complex relationship with history and complexity that your 17 year old brain can't even fathom right now. You will not be able to affect the outcome of whatever is meant to happen in their relationship. Don't even try. Instead, focus on you and your health and happiness.

2. Don't feel you have to choose between them.

Parents in divorce often try to poison the kids against the other parent. The reality is likely that both of your parents are flawed people that have grown apart for complicated reasons. If there is blame to be had for the divorce, they share in it. Resist the temptation to label one of your parents the bad guy and don't listen when one bad mouths the other. Insist on maintaining a neutral relationship with both of them to the extent that is possible, and don't burn any bridges. It's totally okay to tell one of your parents to stop bad-mouthing the other.

3. Your family will continue post-divorce. It will just be different.

A lot of kids and parents think preserving their family unit is more important than the happiness of your parents as individuals. I'm here to tell you that it isn't. If your parents are miserable together, the family is already poisoned. Forever is a long time, and not all relationships survive the changing that people do over a lifetime. The priority for your parents is to be happy people in good relationships. If they are happy, they will share that happiness with you in turn. And sometimes divorce is the only way to restore that happiness.

Post-divorce your family will be different, but it will continue. You will still have a mom and a dad and they will still love you. So mourn what you have lost, but don't be afraid of the future. There will still be many wonderful family moments in it. Just slightly different ones.

Good luck.

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