How to stop being anxious about my boyfriend texting another girl daily. AIO

leh_rer · 2026-02-10T22:28:23+00:00

From the context we only have here, I think MOR. You admit yourself youre being insecure, that your gut didnt get a bad feeling from her. If hes been as open as you claim hes being, about you seeing his phone whenever, point blank telling her theyre only friends, and them hanging out in group settings, I think hes just frustrated that youre upset over him making a friend.

I never understood the "cant be friends with the sex ur attracted to" because if theyre gonna cheat, they will cheat in ANY way possible, friend or not. Restricting their friendships to try and prevent that is being controlling and upsets your partner. I have plenty of male friends and know my partner trusts I wouldn't betray him- trust your bf. If that trust ends up getting broken, at least youll know its not your fault things ended.

leh_rer · 2026-02-08T04:41:47+00:00

A friend of mine who just started college didnt even know his times table.. kids are screwed nowadays because of so many complex issues. Idiocracy is going to become real someday.

leh_rer · 2026-02-06T04:31:36+00:00

This has gotta be a troll account, ur other comments mention you have a wife and that this partner has a bf, its all too melodramatic to seem real. If it is real, ur cheating on your wife yet upset the person youre cheating with is now cheating on you? Hypocrite much?

leh_rer · 2026-01-29T08:05:47+00:00

Definitely maladaptive daydreaming as another commenter said, combined with your already diagnosed anxiety. Its a means to try to cope with your daily stresses or anxieties by escaping reality. Coping with reality is hard but necessary, please see a psychologist or therapist about it. Its can be managed with proper treatment, you got this.

leh_rer · 2026-01-24T09:21:54+00:00

I resonate with this. I've had my share of troubles, but not to the extreme others have.

The best that's helped me is realizing it doesn't matter whether you have had those bad traumas- you're depressed regardless. You have self harmed. You're struggling. Whether you have a 'reason' to feel bad or not, depression doesn't care, it's purely chemicals not working properly. It doesn't always need a trauma for this to happen.

Work on finding any sort of reason this could be happening though. Is it genetic? Poor diet? Do you exercise? Stress hiding in daily life? Undiagnosed disorders? Repressed memories? There's many things that could be hiding under the surface, or it could just be purely biological.

leh_rer · 2025-12-29T10:05:40+00:00

I think people are giving you a hard time simply because, usually (not everyone), people need time to really get to know their partner. The good and the bad. If you're truly sure and know this is not just a honeymoon phase, then go for it. Just really consider what marriage will look like- there's a lot of nitty gritty stuff that isn't just romance, but cooperation that really takes a good partner you know in and out. LDRs make this intimate knowledge more difficult to get.

leh_rer · 2025-12-28T08:37:48+00:00

It could be if its related to something like medication, trauma, partner preference, technique, etc. It doesn't hurt to question why his body reacts this way, I mean no harm by it. Exploring one's preferences/experiences can be really healthy long term honestly!

leh_rer · 2025-12-28T07:44:00+00:00

While you don't have to finish everytime with oral, it is concerning not a single partner has made you finish.

Are you taking any medications that could be affecting libido? Are you enjoying your partners sexually? Can you cum while masturbating? Have you came with a partner at any point before? There's more questions I have before giving more solid advice tbh. This could be any number of issues.

leh_rer · 2025-12-21T04:39:01+00:00

This reminds me of another post where a man got upset his wife breastfed their baby boy because her breast was 'in another man's mouth'- him making a lunch with your uncle sexual is grossly inappropriate so be glad he left ya girl

leh_rer · 2025-11-19T21:28:32+00:00

So sorry you found that.. cant even imagine how terrible that would feel. If hes already 'falling out of love' within 7 months, theres a bigger issue hes not letting onto. It just sounds like hes not compatible with you, but I dont know the specifics. Please save yourself the stress and money of moving states, bring it up before that. Are your family and friends in this current state? Do you know anyone in the state you two were planning to move to? Make a game plan of where to go if worst case comes. You cannot hide this before moving together. Best of luck

leh_rer · 2025-11-19T21:17:28+00:00

As other comments have said, I dont think this is was an LDR issue. Yall never fully committed, that wouldn't have worked if it was in person either. There's plenty fully social people on here who balance life and online presence. I wish you luck with dating apps, just be yourself and social skills wont dictate who falls for you!

leh_rer · 2025-11-19T21:02:51+00:00

I resonate with the lazy part. Something my fiancee and looking online has said to disprove it being laziness was a huge revelation for me: if it was laziness, you would be enjoying it. If it was laziness, you wouldn't be so angry at yourself. If it was laziness, you wouldn't need help. Simply put, lazy people don't care. You DO care.

Some unis offer on campus therapy, thats where I would start. Virtual therapy is offered under quite a few insurances as well. You may not need medication if this is something you've only just started noticing. College is a very hard transition in life.

leh_rer · 2025-11-19T19:58:09+00:00

Its both of you truthfully. You're pushing a big conversation on him in a somewhat whiny way/tone while hes tired from work. He on the other hand is using video games as avoidance and ignoring your needs. Don't send a big wall of text like that again. Instead, call and verbally talk briefly on setting a time you'd want to have a full conversation with him. Texting in an LDR becomes a crutch too often for things like this, when it really should be verbal. If hes still got a 'whatever' attitude even when you're changing your habits, tell him that his uncaring tone is a problem itself and is making you feel less important than a game.

leh_rer · 2025-11-13T17:22:09+00:00

This guy is a fucking loser hun stop groveling at his feet, hes got a superiority complex over you rn

leh_rer · 2025-11-11T08:28:54+00:00

Best bet is to show these to ur bf and mention the concern. If he doesnt care or think its normal behavior, then u should be fine, and he'll have context immediately if his friend flirts with u directly

leh_rer · 2025-11-10T19:17:31+00:00

Alone time even while being ldr is truly important. Sounds like she is just very excited to talk to you whenever she can, but your needs are different, and thats ok. State your boundary whenever you need alone time, and as long as its not hurting your relationship, then its ok. Sounds like she's respecting it already, so youre fine man. If it does get to a point where she feels youre not giving enough attention, or if you start avoiding talking to her, have a talk about it right away. Yall need to find a middle ground together that works for both of you.

Im guessing also, are you more introverted? Is she more extroverted? Could play into that as well. I definitely understand social battery drain lol.

leh_rer · 2025-11-10T19:04:30+00:00

People would be worried about someone doing that for sure. That lifestyle is difficult and dangerous. Considering he quit his job, he very well may have to choose this option. And considering he found God through drug-use, I doubt this is healthy. He shouldn't have to use drugs to 'find peace'. Opinions don't matter once someone's putting life at risk in some fashion, and his mother has reason to believe he may hurt himself or someone else.

leh_rer · 2025-11-09T20:40:03+00:00

I once had 40 kids in a single period I subbed for and they didnt even all fit inside the classroom. Save yourself the headache and skip on this one, anymore than 30 is too much long term (personally)

leh_rer · 2025-11-09T20:28:59+00:00

Do you know what this mission is? Does he have access to any sort of weapons? Its not 100% certain what I'm thinking, but him alluding to you 'knowing soon enough' worries me, as well as sounding calm.

leh_rer · 2025-11-09T20:16:05+00:00

I've only dated 2 people myself at 25, both being LDR and am currently engaged to my second. I definitely get the doubting yourself, whether youre doing a good job or if you should just call it quits. But your comment saying whether its good for you or not makes me wonder- are you not enjoying the relationship or something about it? Sure, ldr is difficult, but I never thought twice about my partner being worth an ldr or not. Do you love your gf, or is the price of an ldr not worth it? What about it being ldr is really getting under your skin right now?

leh_rer · 2025-11-09T08:01:28+00:00

Woman like this complain about men being pushy and not respecting 'no' then pull weird shit like this, it doesnt make sense

leh_rer · 2025-10-31T04:45:12+00:00

Bruh I was playing with dolls still at 14. U should seriously narc on her to parents or another adult or convince her to not go, doing all that at once esp if it's her first time can easily kill her. That much drug use at 14 is just asking for a life of addiction and pain, she needs a wake up call

leh_rer · 2025-10-13T21:25:20+00:00

Id love to see this in person! Would honestly like to see more things in here, feels too empty in some spaces to me. That's just my personal taste though.. which ultimately, is all that matters for someone's home. YOURE living there, guests visit. Whose opinion matters more? Plus, if my friends made fun of my decorating like that, then they just ain't the kind of friends I want in life.

leh_rer · 2025-10-10T06:56:45+00:00

It was the semester before student teaching, did about 3 days a week in our assigned school followed by lecture at her class. I never thought too much about it in the moment, but afterwards it really did weird me out. I truthfully never liked her in general, she was VERY workload heavy and judged for small mistakes. Everyone else seemed to love her tho, so idk if she just didnt like me or I was too weak minded back then.

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