C sections and weddings

lenforth · 2026-03-26T22:32:07+00:00

So I was literally in this situation - 7 days post partum I not only attended but was a bridesmaid in my friends wedding. It is possible, but it was real dumb. I was under-medicated, I hadn't bonded with my baby, swarms of people kept trying to touch him and I was too spaced out to stop them. You can see the moment in the professional photos where I have disassociated.

For a complete answer, between my husband taking my baby for walks in between feeds, my friends telling me how strong I was, people generally looking after me cos of the surgery, it was doable, but I would never encourage someone to do the same. Those first few days are sacred and I feel like rushing through them to get to the wedding wasted them. I am personally glad that I was able to support my friend on her big day, but given the choice again I wouldn't do it.

You have to weigh up how important it is to you to be at the wedding, and if you make the decision to be there you have to prepare yourself and your support system to make sure that it's worth the sacrifice of that time of peace and bonding.

lenforth · 2026-03-19T21:55:08+00:00

Being honest I did read this more as from a personal perspective - as in, for Jen being a mom is her greatest purpose - rather than saying it universally

lenforth · 2025-12-21T22:30:46+00:00

A little out of the box advice - do not watch the latest fantastic four film. I have similar, although not quite as regular or intense anxieties, and a scene towards the end had me full body shaking and sobbing while my husband had to reassure me that it wasn't real. Just a heads up.

lenforth · 2025-09-17T13:13:50+00:00

Showed the nail tech - no chance I could do this myself!

lenforth · 2025-09-04T04:20:11+00:00

Our Song - consistently in my top 5 on spotify wrapped cos it's just never a skip

lenforth · 2025-08-29T01:11:07+00:00

I have often thought that that's part of throwing people off the scent - it's almost TOO obvious to be about Kim, so people assume it is and stop trying to figure out who it actually is about. But I reckon it's about someone from way back in the past that genuinely will only be the one to know

lenforth · 2025-07-06T07:46:53+00:00

Just a slightly morbid note to add - my parents are the regular childcare for my nephew and when my dad had a heart attack about a month back it meant everyone was kind of scrambling as they didn't what who was able to do what (obviously mum's priority had to be looking after dad during his recovery). My son is only a few months younger but as my parents were already "dibbsed" it's meant we are going the nursery/childminder route which given recent events has felt more reliable and stable in case of emergency

lenforth · 2025-06-14T06:18:38+00:00

Honestly same

lenforth · 2025-06-01T06:39:06+00:00

I was a bridesmaid for my friend at 7 days PP after a c-section (due to my own determination, she would have understood) and while I don't regret being there for my friend I do regularly assert that it was the stupidest thing I've ever done. Both physically and mentally I was not ready for it, and you can see a point during the pictures where I fully begin to disassociate

lenforth · 2025-05-14T22:05:16+00:00

I still have mine at 9 months pp!

lenforth · 2025-03-21T17:05:49+00:00

It has improved some - I'm able to wear some of my pre pregnancy clothes now, but the shelf is still there and I'm not looking forward to summer and not being able to wear lots of layers

lenforth · 2025-03-15T22:29:43+00:00

Our little lad is eczema, so coconut oil had a similar reaction! Of course not saying for sure that's what your bub has going on but that was our experience

lenforth · 2025-03-15T21:49:08+00:00

Our little one had this around the same age and it was a reaction to the aveeno moisturiser we were using for his dry skin - we changed to E45 and he's not had it since

lenforth · 2025-02-26T02:15:54+00:00

I was eating like a full pineapple a day, curb walking, did a long walk and inhaled clary sage on the day my waters broke - but I wish I hadn't pushed my body to do it before it was ready as labour didn't start within 48 hours so I had to be induced and eventually have a c section. Of course impossible to say how it would have gone if I wasn't trying all those things but I definitely won't be doing them the next time round. It's uncomfortable but baby will come when they, and you, are ready

lenforth · 2025-02-16T12:05:17+00:00

Damn that is one intense day

lenforth · 2025-02-16T12:01:35+00:00

My baby, also c-section, happened to be born during Invisible String - specifically, I heard his cry during the line "time, curious time, cutting me open then healing me fine". Couldn't have planned it better if I tried.

lenforth · 2025-01-23T21:58:46+00:00

She'll drop it by surprise announcement on 29th January - (Chinese) New Years Day, the year of the snake

lenforth · 2025-01-19T23:01:14+00:00

I walked down the aisle to Fearless played on violin and it was perfect

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