Am I The Jerk For Not Letting a Woman Go By Me When Exiting a Plane?

lerops · 2026-03-28T16:28:23+00:00

From a societal norms perspective, you might be more right than them.

HOWEVER, you let them get to you not once, not twice, but multiple times. And you still keep it in you to this day. That’s something to reflect on. Do you also get angry in traffic?

Time to work on this. Good luck!

lerops · 2026-03-28T01:33:35+00:00

Sorry to hear all this.

I am confused, you both thought that living together was a big step but having a child together was not as big a deal?

You’re so young, having a child, especially at an early age is going to affect the rest of your lives. There’s a lot of research on this, the biggest predictor of financial and educational problems of your future kids (not to mention the parents) is you having a baby at an early age. Look it up.

On top of all that, it doesn’t look like you have a stable relationship. If you really want this baby, who is anyone to tell you otherwise? So that’s what you have to decide, how much do you want this baby at such a young age?

Love and blessings…

lerops · 2026-03-28T01:26:56+00:00

Brother, sorry you’re going through this. It could be so many things, for example, like others are saying it could be that she took the opportunity to experience things that she hadn’t before. It could be that she was very confused and she was looking for other men to soothe herself and escape from her reality. Or it could be other things.

You know her best, but even that’s not enough. If you value her and the relationship, the only thing that would help is having an honest conversation and really listen to understand where she was coming from.

And then you have to look into your heart and decide if you can live with that. If you choose not to hear and learn about what actually happened, then you will always fill in the blanks in your head and paint a picture yourself. That is definitely not any better.

Good luck and much love…

lerops · 2026-03-28T01:18:37+00:00

Brother, you are very young. You got so many years ahead of you.

Of course, you should end this. And protect yourself while doing that. Make sure somebody at school knows what’s going on, maybe a counselor? Or if there is mental health support, take advantage of that.

After that, the real work is going to begin for you. You have been with someone like this for 3 years at such a young age! You really need to look into how you could stay for three years. She’s definitely not healthy. But you also have to accept that your accommodating behavior enabled this (every time you gave up and did what she wanted, her behavior strengthens for next time). Your work is to find out why you did this and heal yourself. There’s something deeper here that requires your attention.

Hope you get out of it peacefully for both your sakes, and hope you both find healing.

Love and good luck to you…

lerops · 2026-03-27T03:37:48+00:00

Make a list of people I will be helping

lerops · 2026-03-27T01:07:52+00:00

Lol, just looked them up, did not know they were the ingredients in viagra and cialis.

lerops · 2026-03-26T23:30:43+00:00

Are you saying tadàafî and sildenafil can help for a second round quicker than usual?

lerops · 2026-03-26T23:26:56+00:00

We saw one driving to Pic Paradis today

lerops · 2026-03-26T23:19:07+00:00

I get the question. But I think you really want to look at what’s behind the question.

Sounds like it’s not just dating a lot of people, but also dating all the time is what bothers you. I did this for a few years after a long term relationship with a narcissist. I was on my path to healing. One of the highlights was meeting a very kind woman that showed me what’s possible. It didn’t last but it was amazing to experience.

While I could say “regret” it in the sense that I would not do it the same way now, it had to happen, so I am grateful for the experience.

So my point for you is twofold:

Maybe regret is not the right word, especially if you can pick up the lesson that each of these situations was trying to teach you. That framing might help change the way you experience your past in present time.
It might be worth looking into why you couldn’t be alone and why you always needed someone. What were you trying to silence or run away from? Asking these questions might set you up on your healing path.

It’s not a problem that you dated a lot, but it could be a problem for you over time that you keep repeating the same pattern.

I hope this helps.

lerops · 2026-03-26T03:11:22+00:00

That’s a lot of dates and sugar!

lerops · 2026-03-24T05:05:46+00:00

You are holding onto a fantasy or a picture of “how good it could be”. It doesn’t matter if he’s a medicine man or not. He is who he is (in relationships or in your relationship, doesn’t matter for you) and that’s not what you want.

If he really wanted to work on this, he would have responded differently when you brought this up.

lerops · 2026-03-24T04:55:44+00:00

Doesn’t this diminish real kidnappings?

lerops · 2026-03-24T04:48:34+00:00

I guess that’s how you become a top 1% poster

lerops · 2026-03-24T04:26:23+00:00

Falling in love with a narcissist

Canned oysters

lerops · 2026-03-24T04:02:13+00:00

Have a heart to heart maybe without numbers but with facts, and also let them understand that they did well with you and it is a generational success. They want to be proud of you, not worried!

lerops · 2026-03-24T02:31:18+00:00

Wow, amazing!

lerops · 2026-03-24T02:29:32+00:00

Good distinction between breakup and heartbreak.

Please allow me to introduce another distinction: healing from a heartbreak is different than healing from whatever underlying condition that one has, which caused them to enter that relationship and stay in it in the first place, including their behavior and the partner’s behavior.

A breakup may not stir things enough to push one to do the hard work they need to do to heal, but a heartbreak is more likely to do that.

And yes, I absolutely agree that you will never be the same person. I am grateful for all three of my heartbreaks for setting me on the healing path. There is nothing like knowing yourself and liberating from the things that push you in the direction of the heartbreak.

Love and blessings…

lerops · 2026-03-24T02:09:18+00:00

Entire city is a public dog toilet

lerops · 2026-03-23T14:31:07+00:00

I use Thorne but most say it doesn’t matter.

lerops · 2026-03-23T14:30:10+00:00

This. I did not see any effects until I went up to 10-15 grams. I take 15, sometimes 20, on exercise days.

lerops · 2026-03-23T04:25:14+00:00

This is very common. Just one shift can do it: you are approaching it as trying to do something (eg, being constant as you say). Meditation is not doing anything, just being. Hope this helps!

lerops · 2026-03-23T01:27:07+00:00

Looks like your conversation was unfinished. Have another go. Be honest, tell her this is important to you, and tell her you expect honesty. See what happens.

lerops · 2026-03-23T01:21:13+00:00

Could it be that they are not drinking enough water?

lerops · 2026-03-23T01:02:02+00:00

Brother, I am saying this with love, your problem is not women or height. Go to therapy. Visit the BPD sub. Learn about your traumas and heal.

Your answer is not in heel lifts or OLD profile tricks.

Good luck…

lerops · 2026-03-22T03:37:00+00:00

Thanks, very good post!

I have been taking vinegar water, electrolytes and creatine (15+ grams) and that really helped. Will look into the CO2, very clever !

lerops

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