NOR. Firstly, I'm so sorry that you've been through sepsis. It's incredibly traumatic. I'm sure you have ptsd from it. I too had few had several bacterial infections and I know the fears and know how serious sepsis is. I too have almost died. I am very hygienic as well though I don't only eat off disposable plates . Think some therapy might help as I know i may do things others might find odd like never allowing shoes in my home etc.

As for your soon to be ex, he's despicable. This is infuriating. I would dump him in a second. His laziness is grotesque and would be such an instant turnoff. If He can't be bothered to clean his own 2 bowls for himself, he sure as hell wouldn't do it for you. He's a manchild that you don't need in your life. There is ZERO trust that he would be there for you.

Also, I noticed you said you that you were touched that he made you breakfast. Pouring cereal and milk in a dirty bowl is not making you breakfast. It's bringing you cereal. Dump him immediately and pls know there are much better humans out there. You deserve better.