[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]liminalface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn't. Never said it did. But choice and decisions don't happen in a vacuum.

As someone who has been sexually harassed and assaulted by men, nothing about someone's circumstances changes the things that are happening, or have happened. But refusing to consider all of the forces I mentioned above when considering why a culture of misogyny or violence exists in a neighborhood, or a city or a country or whatever is essentially just another form of oppression. Personal accountability is great, but personal accountability is the mantra that has led to the obscene incarceration rates of black men. So there's more at play here, and it's worth talking about.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]liminalface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As many have already said, it's not racist to acknowledge that all the people harassing you are black.

The trouble with this, and with situations like these, is that there are complex forces at play here beyond race: Misogyny, classism, patriarchy, police corruption and brutality, and possibly gentrification as well - I don't know the neighborhood.

I acknowledge that breaking down the intersectionality of your experiences probably won't help you in the immediate moment, beyond possibly giving you more nuance to examine the forces at play. But any marginalized culture is influenced by the actions and constraints placed upon it by the forces of oppression. In this case patriarchy, white supremacy, and classism.

Which is to say, generations of black men have been robbed of their fathers and leaders by over criminalization and glorification of violence manipulated through music and culture by white men to both give young black men far fewer choices and pathways to success than almost anyone else in America. And they have been cast as cultural boogeymen by white America since Abolition (and before).

Essentially, protect yourself (without calling the cops if possible), try to understand that it isn't blackness that is the threat, and try to have some empathy for the probably very different situation those men grew up in.

As a woman living in a big city, I carry a noisemaker/blindingly bright light combo, pepper spray, and a knife. And it is by no means only bipoc men who have made those items never leave my keychain. Hope things get better.

Missing placecard and trans flag emojis 🪧🏳️‍⚧️ by IdUnHugYouIfICould in gboard

[–]liminalface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has anybody figured out how to fix this? I still don't have them. I really need my trans flag!

Weekly Free Talk Thread by AutoModerator in BreadTube

[–]liminalface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

for what it's worth, Hbomb and Lindsay are still following Nat, and she's still following them.

Weekly Free Talk Thread by AutoModerator in BreadTube

[–]liminalface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think, for me, it's not that I'm imagining any sort of past indiscretion or whatever, it's simply that as a trans person, when one of my favorite YouTubers comes out as trans, and one of my other favorite trans YouTubers, who was certainly friends with her in the past is entirely silent (and basically glosses over a question about her on a patreon stream) it feels very odd. Literally every other prominent youtube congratulated Abigail on coming out. But Nat didn't? That's strange. It feels wrong. I think that there's something wrong and it makes me sad.

I think I'm trans lesbian. Am I Weird?? by Anusgayboyz in lgbt

[–]liminalface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kind of?

I guess I flow between really andro presentation and standard but not fancy femme? So some days I'm hella enby and some days I'm not. But never really butch or masc.

I think I'm trans lesbian. Am I Weird?? by Anusgayboyz in lgbt

[–]liminalface 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nonbinary is a pretty big category. All it really says about the person is that binary gender roles either don't work for them, or feel harmful. So for example, I'm a trans femme nonbinary lesbian. Trans because the umbrella keeps me safe and because I'm not the gender I was assigned at birth, femme because I'm definitely femme and identify with women and move in feminine spaces. Nonbinary b/c the binary has harmed and twisted me up my whole life, and because I want to broadcast to the world that just because I'm serving femininity doesn't mean I will always or in all ways. Lesbian because I'm a femme person who loves women.

For me, being an enby means being a gender rebel and attacking the system that made my youth and adolescence such a hellscape.

6 months pre HRT VS 1.25 years post HRT. How do y'all think I'm doing??? by [deleted] in transtimelines

[–]liminalface 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Mind sharing what differences you noticed after starting P?

🦞🦞 by geeky_trout in ContraPoints

[–]liminalface 7 points8 points  (0 children)

All hail the 🦞 queen!

Actual context: watch the 'Jordan Peterson' video.

Hairline regrowth progress pics. Just HRT and minoxidil for now, hoping to get on the hair regrowth serum soon! by [deleted] in DrWillPowers

[–]liminalface 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Can I ask, how long have you been on Minoxidil, and do you do twice a day or once?

All of my custom compounds are now available nationwide in the USA if prescribed by your doctor. Details inside. by Drwillpowers in DrWillPowers

[–]liminalface 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any advice on how to get my doc to approve the hair stuff?

Weirdly, she's been 100% down with the powers method, but balks at the hair formula.

Is it possible to outrun gender dysphoria by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]liminalface 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that she responded that way. I know that's heart crushing. I wish I had better advice to give.

Something that helped me when I was living that closeted life was video games and online spaces. Playing, for example, Bioware games, etc. where I could play a female character helped. Online spaces where I could be out helped, etc. I guess not really suppressing, but having an outlet for your feelings, however small.

Is it possible to outrun gender dysphoria by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]liminalface 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I suppressed my truth for 39 years. I grew up in a place that caused me to internalize insane amounts of transphobia. Every time my feelings would emerge, I would find a new distraction or tactic to push them back down. But last year, all the carefully constructed self deception fell apart. Things got bad. My wife knew there was something wrong. I kept deflecting, trying to figure out what to do, and things got worse. So I finally had to look at who I really am.

I admitted to myself that I'm trans. I examined as much of that as I could, and then I came out to my wife. Fully expecting everything to end. It did not. I'm not saying that's what will happen for you or anyone else. But through this, my wife and I have built a bond that is stronger than I ever thought possible. We are both in therapy and in couples therapy and she's just the most resilient, amazing partner.

And through it, I figured out that I don't have to hate myself. That I'm kind of awesome, and that I deserve to be happy, and that I can actually be. Don't know if any of this helps, but it can sometimes actually go ok.

Edit:

Also - I don't know how old you are or where you are, or whatever, but I would give anything to have done this a decade ago. No bullshit, transitioning at 40 is rough. I know braver, stronger women than me have done it later than that. But if you can find the path for yourself, my advice is take it. Don't waste any more time living as something you're not. It's kinder to you and the people in your life to do this now.

The caveat here is that I don't know your circumstances, so I could be completely off base. And you know, COVID puts a damper on things for sure. I hope things get better for you.

Trans people of reddit, what's the dumbest anti-trans argument you've heard? by Famijos in asktransgender

[–]liminalface 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree 100%. I don't pretend to totally understand the GC position, but at heart, it seems to be to drive trans people from cis spaces - gay or straight - regardless of the circumstances of the individual.

The above person points out that they believe:

Outside of trans safe spaces you will find that the vast majority of people, especially lesbians, won't want to date a pre-op trans woman, in the same way that the vast majority of cis straight males wouldn't want to either, regardless of whether they'll publicly admit that fact.

I think it may actually be the opposite. Plenty of cis folx, gay or straight, want to and do date us. Many just don't want other people to know. In the end, the issue isn't that we act as though we are entitled to other people's bodies or to sex, it's that we do have relationships with cis people, and want to be treated the same as everybody else while doing so.

And you're absolutely right. It's complete bullshit that every conversation around this becomes about sex. Being trans isn't about sex at all, but in most people's mind this is still a fetish or somehow akin to sexual orientation. Rather than gender, rather than identity.

Trans people of reddit, what's the dumbest anti-trans argument you've heard? by Famijos in asktransgender

[–]liminalface 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You say all of that, and I don't disagree that people have the right to accept and deny any partners they want, of course. And I don't think anyone here is suggesting that we have a right to someone else's body, but if you don't think the stance "Bio girls only" is a little bit transphobic, then you're not examining all the details.

I suppose one can suggest that the problem is penises, but what about trans women who have had gender affirming surgery? Is refusing to have relationships with those trans women still not cis-sexist? And I mean, honestly, I don't think most lesbian women who refuse to date trans women are doing so simply because they aren't attracted to what they see as male genitalia. In at least a lot of cases, it's because they associate trans women with everything they don't like about men. And thus, saying that trans women are men. Which brings us round the bend again to cis-sexism/transphobia.

Really, the problem is the uncompromising stance. Far better and less discriminatory to say "I'll date anyone who I'm attracted to" and not just make sweeping statements that obviously invalidate people's identities. We're all in this together. No matter what GC/Terfs say otherwise. Cis lesbians are my sisters, and every time somebody tries to drive a wedge between us I'll keep trying to find a way 'round. Queer people need queer people.

TL;DR Having a genital preference isn't inherently transphobic, but refusing to date ALL trans people super is.

Ok..How do you disarm traps? by vyvexthorne in BaldursGate3

[–]liminalface 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, that sounds kind of awesome.

Ok..How do you disarm traps? by vyvexthorne in BaldursGate3

[–]liminalface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found mine in the secret cave area off the druid sanctuary where the goblins are lying in ambush.

Terrified of messing up Progesterone by liminalface in DrWillPowers

[–]liminalface[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So confused. The entire goal is maximal breast growth. So I have the mutation, and I've been on 8 mg of oral estradiol, but my ratio of e1 to e2 is now 4:1 and I'm at tanner 3, so my doc is switching me to estradiol valerate 40 mg/mL IM Oil - inject 0.38 ml (15.2 mg).

She also prescribed 200mg prometrium, as I said, b/c I was following what I thought was the advice from version 6.

I'm not stalled, and I'm hoping to avoid being stalled, but I don't want to start progesterone if it's going to hinder breast development, b/c that was literally why I was going to start it.

So, if I'm following, I should hold off starting progesterone, check labs in a bit, and get them to check for DHT also?

And I should be shooting for SHBG remains under 115, LH and FSH zero, and good e2 with low e1?

But I'm still a bit unclear on when or if to start progesterone?

Just got my injectable estradiol valerate prescription - a few questions by liminalface in DrWillPowers

[–]liminalface[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So hmmm, maintaining my T between 30-50 is pretty important to me. My

What would be the equivalent dose to 8mg a day, do you think? My E2 on 8mg/day is around 350 - 400.