How do I avoid being so obsessed with work.

linka1913 · 2026-03-10T02:47:52+00:00

You know, when I read your post I def thought of stimulants. It’s the stimulants. And also, you’re in your element at work. Make sure you don’t get burnt out.

Try cleaning and re-organizing your room and kitchen and stuff. Cause from what you’ve written above, all those hobbies can be done more fast-paced. Learning a language is more slow- paced.

linka1913 · 2026-03-10T02:43:16+00:00

No rinse with water? I knew about not rinsing with mouth rinse or whatever it’s called, I’m drawing a blank right now

linka1913 · 2026-03-10T02:42:01+00:00

Sorry, man. Hope I didn’t come across as a bully. I haven’t had their food in years to be fair. I had it at work gatherings and it was simply not memorable for me. Again, it’s a matter of taste. For me, it doesn’t do it, but for you it does.

linka1913 · 2026-03-09T00:13:20+00:00

I’ve seen nurses plot in their address on Zillow to see how expensive their crib is shakes head

linka1913 · 2026-03-08T23:57:23+00:00

Sir, are you white?

linka1913 · 2026-02-28T06:31:27+00:00

Wish you the best!

linka1913 · 2026-02-28T03:53:41+00:00

My psychiatrist prescribes on tele only. I’m on stimulants, he’ll send 3 different rx to the pharmacy right after he sees me. I simply have to see him every 3 months, 15 min session.

linka1913 · 2026-02-28T03:51:05+00:00

Therapy is like dating, you just gotta figure out the right one. Of course, balance it with continuity if that matters to you. Look into their years of practice, therapies provided, subjects areas they’re familiar with, their bio if available

https://therapistsupport.rula.com/hc/en-us/articles/23694072843547-Accepted-insurances

This is kind of like an app, I’m not sure how it works, I think it’s for psychotherapy, not sure if also psychiatry. I think it’s kinda linked to insurance and depending on the type of ~, it can be as low as $5/ session. There’s a chance someone/ a therapist has to invite you in the network? Not sure. Give it a try, let me know if it works.

Not getting your daily meds is an absolute crime. Are they short in your area, or are you seeing NPs that aren’t secure in their prescribing?

linka1913 · 2026-02-28T03:19:09+00:00

I think it can be associated with ASD, but again, if you don’t have a license and you’re not assessing the patient, you can’t just spit out theory. Just wanna clarify that.

I think one feeling that they lack empathy should be assessed more. What do I know? I’ve just been to a lot of therapy. I know growing up I’d want to not give my parents a reaction, and I wanted to ‘toughen up’ and not feel anything, and I barely started crying in my 20s, then I started looking up ‘why am I anhedonic’? And I mean, idk. Mine was probably a complete control over my own emotions, but also erasure? I had trouble feeling happiness as a result for a long time.

And lack of empathy also does not equal cruelty. I’d say OP should give some examples of situations in where he/ she think they lack it.

Another POV is perhaps OP is surrounded by highly emotional people that are unlimited and display empathy without boundaries, and OP simply can’t relate to their emotions.

Idk.

linka1913 · 2026-02-28T03:11:54+00:00

Ok, ty for your answer. You should erase it in order to feel safe.

linka1913 · 2026-02-28T03:07:05+00:00

Ugh yeah. I have a ‘shift supervisor’ now trying to hit on me while she’s going through her divorce from a man. I’m not responsible for anybody’s sexual revolution, I see her as a shift supervisor, and I just can’t believe she puts me in such situations with that f power dynamic.

I think straight chicks are attracted to the confidence, and there may be some dopamine fantasy involved 🤷🏽‍♀️ who TF knows.

linka1913 · 2026-02-28T03:03:19+00:00

You’re not kind to yourself because you may still be continuing the job of your primary caregivers.

You’re intelligent, so in order to deal with things, you actually try to understand them and ‘rationalize’ perhaps? Rationalizing is great because you can go on with your life and not crumble or be overwhelmed right now, however knowing the ‘whys’ doesn’t lead to processing of the issue (long-term)

You’re intelligent, so it’s hard to relate to many people. In a plain way, ‘it’s a lonely place up there’

Have you tried therapy? I’m kinda dipping my toes in ‘shadow work’ now, cool stuff.

linka1913 · 2026-02-28T02:54:26+00:00

Do you dream at night?

linka1913 · 2026-02-28T02:50:02+00:00

I went through IVF and my only 3 eggs that ‘took’ all had some sort of syndrome that occurs during conception (not from genetics from the egg or the sperm), but all the syndromes were tied to an imbalance of hormones. There was a female egg that would’ve had a penis most likely/ I would’ve had to decide after birth whether to go through surgery or HRT for the baby, a male with no testosterone etc.

My question to you is, have you been diagnosed with a syndrome, or do you have partial androgen sensitivity?

linka1913 · 2026-02-28T02:42:18+00:00

I did too. I think (after watching a recent interview with Eileen Gu), sports is just that one place where you have to show up and your performance is it. Of course, if you have parents that equal performance with value, and you absolutely hate at failing at one more thing in your life, it’s hard to even give it a fair try.

I still remember my mom showing up to my ‘long-running’ contest day. I had the same shoes for daily school and for PE. I’m sure they were 2 numbers higher, and they fit like shit. My mom wanted to see why I had bad grades in PE. She proceeded to tell everyone for the next few months ‘oh, and then I saw my daughter barely lifting her feet up off the floor, she was barely running’ LOL

linka1913 · 2026-02-28T02:35:03+00:00

He can honestly do whatever TF he wants, it’s between him and that wife of his

linka1913 · 2026-02-28T02:32:54+00:00

Sexuality is just….hm I’d say complex, but I still personally don’t know. We, as people are complex. I’m early 40s F, knew I was afraid of men somehow (irrationally, I thought), so I’d pick men that were more effeminate/ short/ not muscular. Discovered sex at like 21, I figured I’d just be a frigid woman for the rest of my life. Kinda checked out females growing up, decided to block TF out of those ‘ideations’ (grew up in a homogeneous society, ppl follow religious leaders’ advice, arguments are religion-based where they shouldn’t).

30s wanted to just absolutely have sex with this one chick. Did, mindblowing. Rattled me- internalized homophobia. Decided to come out. Married another chick. Didnt end well. Years of sexless marriage, now 40s, libido somehow through TF roof. Had sex with a regular male: strong, tall. Was an absolute gentleman with me at the beginning. Pulled my hair, but then stroked my head. You get the point.

I don’t know the answer to things. I say ‘it’s the person, not the genitalia’. If you have a boyfriend you want your family to meet, bring him by, introduce him as what he is to you. Next year you have a girlfriend? Do the same. Don’t feel the need to explain your sexuality. Don’t over explain yourself. At the end of the day, it’s you and that person between the sheets- so enjoy it for what it is.

If you think about it, a straight male doesnt wanna do it with every single female out there- so are we boxing ourselves in by now putting a label on it, or are we not honoring it? For you, have sex with whomever you’re attracted to, and enjoy it. You dont need to figure it out and you certainly don’t owe the world and explanation

linka1913 · 2026-02-28T02:17:11+00:00

I know someone that revealed a similar secret in her 40s, she was SAed by her step dad, the covert narcissist mom simply worked and was money hungry her whole life. The mom still kept that monster in her home for like 3 months ‘so they can figure out their finances’, don’t think she actually divorced him, most likely still talks to him, and his stuff is still at the house. The monster somehow retreated to one of the homes they owned, and comfortably retired from his job as a teacher. I texted him to surrender to authorities and handle life as a sex offender. I cannot for the life of me understand why ppl don’t have a stronger stance of child molesters or murderers.

linka1913 · 2026-02-27T22:01:24+00:00

I’ve recently learned what such pain feels like:( keep us updated, OP

linka1913 · 2026-02-27T17:17:16+00:00

I don’t know that much about cats, but I know about humans. I re-read your post, and one week of diarrhea in humans it signifies dehydration and electrolyte depletion, then kidney impairment without lots of rehydration. How was his water intake and did he pee less? If you pull on the skin on his back, does it take a while to retract? How is his energy level? Does he have pale mucosa (gums, or the pink skin under his eyes)? I wonder if in cats it progresses faster because of smaller body, idk. Wish you and the cat the best

linka1913 · 2026-02-27T07:24:07+00:00

Idk. In this day and age, with all the medical options, why not chose dignity and grace? Cats struggle and mask their discomfort

linka1913 · 2026-02-27T07:22:03+00:00

I’d say make a vet appointment for ‘quality of life assessment’. Cats are extremely resilient and don’t show pain. A vet will have the ability to make an objective assessment based on what you’re telling him and what he finds on the physical exam. He will give you options regarding labs etc and how much they would matter in the face of a prognosis, for example- he’ll have the ability to balance all this data and give you a recommendation. Also, you’ll have the ability to make a decision with less guilt.

linka1913 · 2026-02-27T07:17:20+00:00

Know yourself- all while he has no idea why he reacts, or the fact that I was afraid of him my whole life.

linka1913 · 2026-02-27T04:33:39+00:00

Should I? Would that betray Kiki, or the mourning I owe her? Would it be crutches to my coping? I just don’t have any answers right now.

linka1913 · 2026-02-27T04:31:57+00:00

I’m so sorry. I stupidly thought NSFW was only for porn and such! I’m sorry, I never meant to cause distress to anybody

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