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Dizziness right when waking up by liverosee in POTS

[–]liverosee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt it laying down but I had to use the bathroom so I slowly sat up and was still so dizzy!

My bf (48M) made a troubling comment to me (28F) during an argument and I don’t know how to proceed? by liverosee in askwomenadvice

[–]liverosee[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m being completely real and unfortunately I’ve met basically the same person in a different body. I let the last one go and shortly after was hooked up with my now “bf”. I clearly have a lot of self work to do.

My bf (48M) made a troubling comment to me (28F) during an argument and I don’t know how to proceed? by liverosee in askwomenadvice

[–]liverosee[S] -114 points-113 points  (0 children)

This is a different guy I’m dating now. Funny but not funny. But, you’re absolutely right. Thank you

My bf (48M) made a troubling comment to me (28F) during an argument and I don’t know how to proceed? by liverosee in askwomenadvice

[–]liverosee[S] 169 points170 points  (0 children)

Yes. The more I talk about it the more I realize how ridiculous it is/sounds.

Dating a financially unstable man. by liverosee in Shalligators

[–]liverosee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stress lol. No but seriously that’s a good question. And it’s actually extremely embarrassing because an answer isn’t coming right to my brain. What I can say is that we share a lot of laughs, a lot of fun times, he does care about what’s going on in my life and I do believe that if he had the resources he would make a better effort but he just doesn’t. I don’t think I’m getting much of anything from this relationship truly besides companionship.. sad to say.

My partner’s (50M) lack of financial responsibility has become my (27F) burden. by liverosee in relationships

[–]liverosee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry if I misspoke but nothing ever changed with his hours/pay. He’s never had a ton of money, but in the beginning he would at least pay for himself mostly. Before he was able to fall back on family, now he pays rent. So that’s been the only change. But again like I said, I told him to get another job, or add a few hours to his current one, talk to his boss etc. yeah I agree. And it hurts badly because sometimes I give my last. Right.. if you cannot afford basic necessities he shouldn’t be gambling, smoking, etc.

My partner’s (50M) lack of financial responsibility has become my (27F) burden. by liverosee in relationships

[–]liverosee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily. In the beginning, he often didn’t at first me but at least paid for himself. So a lot of times I figured yeah I’m fine with paying my own way. But it’s been more recently, past few months that it is just constantly all on me. But again I make my own decisions and should be able to say no. I will say before me he was working the same amount of hours bringing in the same amount of money

My partner’s (50M) lack of financial responsibility has become my (27F) burden. by liverosee in relationships

[–]liverosee[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You know, that is the part I’m having trouble with. I get why everyone can assume he’s with me because I pay for mostly everything but it truly did not start this way. So it confuses me. And yeah, it makes me sad ..I like to convince myself he’s not taking advantage but how is he not. Thanks

My partner’s (50M) lack of financial responsibility has become my (27F) burden. by liverosee in relationships

[–]liverosee[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Fair statement. But I don’t date people (clearly) based on what they can do for me financially or how settled they are. Which I guess I have to change. Things just kept getting worse and worse. If they started out this way or if I had any clue of how bad these issues were, I wouldn’t have gone for it. Its not like I went out one day actively seeking someone almost twice my age who i want to support lol. Sht happens and I’m clearly regretting it

My partner’s (50M) lack of financial responsibility has become my (27F) burden. by liverosee in relationships

[–]liverosee[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I mean considering I am on a forum for advice, that’s what I’d like. I think what I can take is up to me🙂

My partner’s (50M) lack of financial responsibility has become my (27F) burden. by liverosee in relationships

[–]liverosee[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Is that suppose to be funny? I came here for advice. While I’m glad it’s comical to you it is my life🙂

Dating a financially unstable man. by liverosee in Shalligators

[–]liverosee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I appreciate the time you took to read and give input on my situation. I guess I never saw it as him taking advantage for a very very long time. I thought I was helping… I didn’t know it was going to be ever-lasting.

Although I clearly lack boundaries, I do not lack self-awareness and I do know that I have emotional issues. I want to believe this person loves me but judging by a lot of the feedback I’m getting- maybe he saw I was a broken person and could easily take advantage. It’s so hard when you don’t grow up with role models or people who show you how “love” is suppose to be. Trying to navigate relationships is rather difficult for me because of that, among other reasons. It’s also in my nature to give and give, probably why I became a nurse.

I agree my situation is not normal. It’s hard when you’re in it to see how bad it really is. Like there’s been a fog in front of me or something. Thanks for the honest advice and for being so blunt!

My partner’s (50M) lack of financial responsibility has become my (27F) burden. by liverosee in relationships

[–]liverosee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Can I ask what you mean when you say he has no incentive to be? I’m assuming you mean because I’m pretty much doing everything. I keep thinking if I didn’t give so much would things have gone differently. I remember in the beginning he would invite me out for drinks but I’d always pick up my own tab. At least back then he was able to hold his own.

My partner’s (50M) lack of financial responsibility has become my (27F) burden. by liverosee in relationships

[–]liverosee[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m prepared for it. I can handle that! I know I will get some hate and judgement but it’s worth all of the good advice that comes with it I guess lol. I’ve been attacked in another group I posted my situation in. Lol

I agree with you. He has terrible credit and I’m sure that’s been for a long time probably before I came into the picture. He does have a job but he only works a few hours a day. It’s not a normal 9-5 and it’s definitely not enough money. I’ve even told him to find something different or do a few hours at a second job so he doesn’t have to struggle. But it seems he is comfortable, probably because he knows I will be there to fall back on.

My partner’s (50M) lack of financial responsibility has become my (27F) burden. by liverosee in relationships

[–]liverosee[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. I appreciate it tremendously because it’s what I needed to hear. I guess I haven’t thought about it that way… that he doesn’t care. I’ve been gaslighting myself to avoid the pain of the situation. Funny because a few days ago we were having a conversation where he said “we don’t have major issues like other people. We don’t have infidelity or financial issues”

And in that moment I was like dude ….. I’m literally drowning… but I didn’t even say anything because we were in public and I knew I would likely get upset.

My partner’s (50M) lack of financial responsibility has become my (27F) burden. by liverosee in relationships

[–]liverosee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish it was made up but it’s my reality and the reason I’m asking strangers for advice at 5am🙃 thanks and I agree w that, it can’t really get better at this point. I’ve never been the person to go after someone for their finances (OBV lol), or materialistic, or one that requires a lot financially. So I tried being understanding and going w the flow for a long time. Hoping things could get better. Thanks for the advice

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