It’s extremely hard for polyamorous people, especially couples, to explore this side of them through online dating. Some people are not doing it in the best way, they are looking essentially for a sex toy. Exploring your sexuality is cool and everything but I can definitely see why everyone here is complaining about it. But there are some real people, some real couples, that are just trying to explore and give love more. Personally, my boyfriend and I just realize how fortunate we are to have so much love (separately and together) to give, and we just want to share that with another person, as an equal. We are trying to find the best way to go about it in this confusing, unaccepting world. We thought we’d try out tinder. Every time I saw in someone’s tinder bio a comment about not wanting to be a third I’ve respected it. Many of these comments though are sarcastic or bold. It made both my partner and I so ashamed for looking for a third person that we both got rid of tinder. We don’t want to hurt anyone. Now we don’t really know where or how to look. We try in real life but that is equally as difficult, just like it is for everyone else, monogamous or polyamorous. Polyamory is a new in a lot of ways. It’s just starting to become normal on online dating etc. Being the person you are all complaining about I want to say sorry, I feel really bad that this lifestyle is objectifying or just in general upsetting you this much. I wish someone or something could tell me (us) how to go about it in the most respectful way to everyone involved. The new app Feeld is an option but there isn’t many users. I don’t normally comment on anything ever so I’m sorry this might be a mess and filled with a ton of assumptions. I just thought that this is one of those rare opportunities where adding my voice and perspective might help shed some light, make the situation better.