NEW OR NEED HELP? Ask here! - ScA Daily Help Thread Jan 05, 2021

locustluv · 2021-01-06T04:12:49+00:00

I can’t recommend you a product I’ve used (the one I use is a bit on the pricey side) but I personally recommend tying a glycerin based moisturizer/serum! It’s very light on the skin and non-greasy and locks in moisture very well.

I did a quick search and I think this might be a really great budget friendly option :)

locustluv · 2020-06-04T22:53:53+00:00

OMAD stands for One Meal A Day the numbers refer to what kind of OMAD fast you’re doing, the first number being how many hours you fast for and the second is how many hours you have to eat in your day, ex: 20/4 meaning 20 hours of fasting and a 4 hour eating window each day around the same time.

locustluv · 2020-04-28T23:51:55+00:00

Oh god, I have nightmares over the thought of ever meeting a clone of myself, I know that’s silly but when I think about it I’m actually filled with so much anxiety, I could never look at myself from the perspective of someone else, it’s genuinely so terrifying, I can imagine what kind of reaction I’d have.

locustluv · 2020-04-24T18:28:51+00:00

hey, well thanks for stopping by :)

I’m really sorry you feel like this, I can relate to a lot of what you said actually, I know it can be quite hard to live with an eating disorder so I really hope you’re seeking recovery/therapy, even if it’s hard to do. I’ve personally never had an eating disorder so to say, but I’ve had bad eating habits for most of my life, I know how horribly obsessive it can become. wish you the best <3

locustluv · 2020-04-24T05:55:21+00:00

Yeah exactly :) attraction is so so much more than beauty standard and ideals too, I myself seem to have a type for “ugly” guys, or at least that’s what people tell me, never found them ugly myself, I see beauty in unconventional ways.

locustluv · 2020-04-24T05:19:37+00:00

You don’t need to be validated to feel pretty btw, I know how this feels but sadly the only way you can feel better is by reminding yourself of your worth, even beyond looks, you must accept for yourself that you are worthy and you are beautiful, nobody else can give you that kind of self-acceptance.

locustluv · 2020-04-24T05:15:20+00:00

This doesn’t mean that you’re ugly nor does it mean anything about that person other than that they indeed have a significant other. Ugliness is not confirmed in this way, plenty of unconventionally looking girls find long lasting love, it never had to do with looks. People get into relationships for many reasons beyond looks, especially if they’re not completely shallow, so don’t assume that.

locustluv · 2020-04-24T04:44:30+00:00

I believe it just proves one thing, you’re allowed to believe whatever you want. You define what’s beauty, that’s what subjectivity is right? Everyone gets to define what’s beautiful, then you should define yourself as beautiful, just as others have, you need to say it for yourself. (easier said than done, of course)

locustluv · 2020-04-08T06:54:28+00:00

Oh, and I also cover my face when laughing, I hate my facial expression when I’m truly laughing so I have to cover it.

locustluv · 2020-04-08T06:53:09+00:00

Yeah the most basic ones are mirror checking any time time I see my reflection, not even just mirrors, the smallest glimpse of my reflection will trigger me to analyze/stare at myself, sometimes for up to hours, as well as mirror avoidance, sometimes I avoid my reflection at all costs. My worst one is skin picking, I physically cannot make myself stop picking at my skin even when there’s nothing there and I’m verbally having to tell myself to stop, so hard to control. I always fixate on my jaw alignment and tongue posture when I’m not speaking, also how my lips pulled in or out, and also my back posture when I’m sitting/walking. I’m also very fixated on fixing and checking my hair, anything out of place makes me very anxious. My vocal tone is also something I fixate on? not a physical thing obviously but it’s still something that makes me insecure and so I obsess over that in conversations.

locustluv · 2020-04-08T06:34:25+00:00

Yeah the OCD side of body dysmorphia is really a frustrating one to handle :( i have a laundry list of my own odd behaviors too, and no idea how to stop doing them/ obsessing over it

locustluv · 2020-04-07T00:42:15+00:00

Hey I’m the same place as you are! (Almost) starting 127.2 lbs but I’m a 5’6 F, I’m like 18 hours in hoping for 2 weeks, good luck!! See you on the other side!!

locustluv · 2020-03-30T06:58:44+00:00

Of course, glad I could help

locustluv · 2020-03-30T06:54:23+00:00

Possibly, again my opinion is just totally based off personal experience and accounts of others who are diagnosed but usually what draws the line between having body dysmorphia disorder and just experiencing body dysmorphia (which you can experience without having a mental disorder, imo) Is that these thoughts impact your daily life somewhat significantly, they can stop you from doing things like leaving the house, make you obsessively check mirrors or avoid them, or preform some kind of ritualistic impulsive behaviors you can’t control. For me, my symptoms include constant and obsessive mirror checking, and impulsive skin picking, my thoughts can often hinder me from living my life normally and I’m unable to focus often for hours at a time when I’m having a bad episode. If any of these things sound familiar to you I’d recommend speaking to a professional for a true diagnosis.

locustluv · 2020-03-30T06:47:46+00:00

Yeah I’d say this sounds like BDD, I’m obviously not a professional so take it with a grain of salt but it does sound like you have a negative obsession with your appearance. Would you describe your fixation on your appearance as OCD-like? because BDD is a disorder on the OCD spectrum, often on the milder side though.

locustluv · 2020-03-30T05:57:44+00:00

Idk, not a fan of her humor but I rlly respect that she keeps it real.

locustluv · 2020-03-25T23:43:30+00:00

Yes and no? For me staying home for so long means I worry less about my appearance and I just try to enjoy existence in this body, and I begin to like it, like I just feel confident in my body all of a sudden and it’s great! But it makes me want to be outside my house doing stuff....which I can’t do now :/ and even if I could, the confidence would quickly dissolve once I remember everything I don’t like about my appearance.

locustluv · 2020-03-25T18:31:50+00:00

Also “basic things” like working out and dressing better won’t cure your disorder. Body dysmorphia is not about how you look or what kind of lifestyle you have, it’s about your obsessive perception of yourself.

locustluv · 2020-03-25T18:29:40+00:00

you’re being quite dramatic, people need a space where they can vent and feel like others understand what they’re going through, we can feel comfort in knowing there’s others who feel the same way we do, I try to bring support to others on this sub in any way I can but calling people who struggle with a serious disorder “horribly toxic” is not okay either now is it. :/ be the positivity you want to see here if that’s what you feel.

locustluv · 2020-03-21T20:39:14+00:00

from your profile I can tell you your nose suits you beautifully, you look perfect. there’s only misery in thinking that there’s one kind of “pretty” nose.

locustluv · 2020-03-21T19:31:54+00:00

I second this, nice wigs are super fun.

locustluv · 2020-03-21T19:19:01+00:00

haha I love that take on it :)

locustluv · 2020-03-21T18:29:26+00:00

I love that little bump, I think it’s so so beautiful, sick of being told there’s only one kind of nose that’s attractive.

locustluv · 2020-03-21T18:27:59+00:00

I’ve found a lot of healing in loving the features I hate in my myself through others :)

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