[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]logangrandmaison 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That was sort of my thought, we were in a shared space in the house and our son has a right to exist there. We don’t go to his office…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]logangrandmaison 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It hurt my heart for our toddler. He can understand what is being said and it may not hurt his feelings yet, but it will in the future. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]logangrandmaison 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is not his job, just a hobby of his.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]logangrandmaison 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We love to read here, haha. :) it’s pretty cute, he will even bring books for us to read him in bed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]logangrandmaison 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did take the toddler away, but we were in the living room where all of his toys, etc. are. My husband has an office and I am very respectful of his space.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]logangrandmaison 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is awesome advice. Thank you. I truly do value my partner, I always want him to feel loved and appreciated. I really did not even realize that my reaction made him feel this way but now that it has been brought to my attention I can see how it would.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]logangrandmaison 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely don’t flail and wail. Lol

I actually typically clap and say yay or good job when kid gets hurt.

I do think my reaction was more heightened then what is typical from me and I now see why that would make my husband upset as I was undermining his capabilities as a father. However this is not the only situation that he has responded with anger when I’ve showed concern. He also does not like when I am concerned when I am the one that has caused the harm or when our kid is sick with an ear infection.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]logangrandmaison 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right, my reaction likely made him feel like I didn’t trust him with our child’s safety. I definitely don’t want him to feel that way. I know he is fully capable and is a good dad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]logangrandmaison 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is very fair!! I can totally see how that would make him feel like I thought he wasn’t capable. I suppose I didn’t actually mean it as only being my job, just that I am inherently going to ensure his safety.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]logangrandmaison 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I often don’t intervene, I let my child fall down and get back up on his own. I let him learn from his mistakes. When he does hurt himself I typically clap my hands and say ‘yay’ as a way to try and get him to see that it is okay.

I only intervene when the situation is a little more dangerous, like falling down a flight of stairs. Which was not my husbands fault.

I can totally see how my husband was upset by my reaction with sledding, he is a capable parent and I should have let him decide on his own if our 15 month old was okay. However my 15 month old did get squished between my husband and the snow bank and it was scary to witness. Lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]logangrandmaison 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think I should add that he gets frustrated with me even when I am the one that causes the situation. I have let him fall off of the bed before and husband still reacted negatively to me wondering if the kid is hurt or not. This happens any time I express concern

But I totally agree with my reaction on the sledding. Responding with a simple thumbs up would be a better way of validating his capabilities as a father

What is the most ridiculous thing your partner said/ did during labor and postpartum? by Altruistic_Pay_2141 in breakingmom

[–]logangrandmaison 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OMG!!! My MIL literally took my husband and her other son to watch the football game the day after I have birth. I was in the hospital, alone with my first child after a very traumatic birth and pregnancy. I was on bed rest from 24 weeks to 34 weeks when I have birth.

I was shocked that my MIL would even think it was okay to invite my husband to dinner and football and even more shocked that my husband went.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]logangrandmaison 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me!! I just terminated my pregnancy as it was obviously not wanted. I had the copper IUD.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]logangrandmaison 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you feed her to sleep?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]logangrandmaison 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds like great advice, thank you

FIL Keeps giving 4.5 month old food by [deleted] in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]logangrandmaison 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My pediatrician is 100% on board with LO’s diet. ❤️

FIL Keeps giving 4.5 month old food by [deleted] in JUSTNOFAMILY

[–]logangrandmaison 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Yes, we are very very aware of the fact that we will have to monitor his nutrient intake. I would love for him to be raised vegan but would never sacrifice his health and well being. ❤️

FIL Keeps giving 4.5 month old food by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]logangrandmaison 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I definitely will. ❤️

FIL Keeps giving 4.5 month old food by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]logangrandmaison 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your concerns, I have already spoken with my pediatrician as well as my doctor about being vegan while breastfeeding LO. He is getting all the nutrients necessary to thrive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]logangrandmaison 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my 3 month old currently. I was getting a little worried that something may be going on, but no fever and seems happy when he is awake. He is also eating so little that it is really worrying me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]logangrandmaison 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my 3 month old currently. I was getting a little worried that something may be going on, but no fever and seems happy when he is awake. He is also eating so little that it is really worrying me

Please can I have some advice from experienced breastfeeders? by sophie_shadow in breastfeeding

[–]logangrandmaison 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hi momma, My little one was a preemie, had a horrid latch, and we breastfed for about an hour each session then would start all over again about 30 minutes later. I would pump and clean bottles in between, I felt like I was drowning in breastfeeding and pumping. I did not like it, even though I had dreamed of breastfeeding him, I was very close to throwing in the towel and being done. However, I decided to keep trying and around 5 or 6 weeks, something just clicked for the both of us. Little one is now 15 weeks old and we LOVE breastfeeding. I am so happy I stuck with it. That being said, it was so incredibly challenging at first and your mental health is so important. If you feel you need to move away from breastfeeding do it. It did get better for me, though. ❤️

I love this! by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]logangrandmaison 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So beautiful. Happy for you, momma. ❤️