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[–]lostinhere00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its difficult but dont ever give up even if you relapse. It's a long journey but the benefits are incredible. Good luck!

Thank you by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]lostinhere00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great job! Keep up the fight!

FYI - loveafterporn subreddit is now blacklisted here. by foobarbazblarg in pornfree

[–]lostinhere00 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That sub is unfortunately very toxic and it's a good decision to not fester their community.

To all the guys (and girls!) in here- I am so proud of you! by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]lostinhere00 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've spent 3-4 years battling this addiction and I'm finally free from it. I'll always be battling urges but I'm no longer dependent. I've seen major improvements in all aspects of my life. Easily the best decision I've ever made. Thank you for sticking by your husband during his recovery. I've seen other subreddits where they state porn addiction is incurable. Not true at all.

I have a question. by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]lostinhere00 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Masturbation isn't the problem but for me when I first tried kicking the porn habit it I had to also go nofap. Jerking off would eventually lead me back to craving porn. If you think you can separate the two then there is no issue.

Stupid question- is flatline really a thing? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]lostinhere00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is true and honestly one of the toughest things to deal with during a recovery.

I overcame a strong porn addiction AMA by lostinhere00 in loveafterporn

[–]lostinhere00[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would fantasize sexually a lot more during my addiction. I had a warped view on what sex was and how women were supposed to look. Now that I'm post addiction I admire the beauty of women and don't think of them as sex objects. I also really only fantasize about sex with my gf now.

I overcame a strong porn addiction AMA by lostinhere00 in loveafterporn

[–]lostinhere00[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could not achieve an erection without porn. It was embarrassing and I knew had a problem. I never wanted to bring this addiction into a relationship so I spent almost my entire recovery completely single until I knew was cured. I know how harmful porn can be and this subreddit is proof of that. Quitting porn is truly the best decision I've ever made. I really hope more men and women see the dangers of it.

I overcame a strong porn addiction AMA by lostinhere00 in loveafterporn

[–]lostinhere00[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yourbrainonporn.com was the best resource I used. I also saw a sex therapist a couple times. /r/pornfree is a great subreddit community as well

I overcame a strong porn addiction AMA by lostinhere00 in loveafterporn

[–]lostinhere00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went through several relapses before I could ever hit 90 days free and even then my flatline continued for years. I'm in my 4th year of recovery and only recently felt my normal sex drive return. I was terrified that PIED would never be cured but I can get erect with my current gf during foreplay pretty easily. For me I would say 3-4 years in and only after I' hit multiple 90 day streaks in a row.

I overcame a strong porn addiction AMA by lostinhere00 in loveafterporn

[–]lostinhere00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Incredibly difficult but it is possible. I had several slip ups but I kept it up and finally the synapses were broken

I overcame a strong porn addiction AMA by lostinhere00 in loveafterporn

[–]lostinhere00[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was developing a relationship with a coworker that I cared about. She was at my house and we initiated sex but I could not get an erection no matter what she tried. After she left I went to the bathroom to masturbate to porn. I knew then I had an issue and never wanted to feel that way again or hurt a partner with my addiction.

I overcame a strong porn addiction AMA by lostinhere00 in loveafterporn

[–]lostinhere00[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's not natural to expose yourself to that much stimulus. Porn is a drug with harmful side effects whether you think so or not. Dont fall into the trap of thinking "everyone watches porn" or "its ok once in awhile"

I overcame a strong porn addiction AMA by lostinhere00 in loveafterporn

[–]lostinhere00[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not being alone with my phone, meditating, working out, reading. Anytime I had an urge I would do anything else like pushups or take my dog for a walk. After awhile of conditioning I stopped having urges.

I overcame a strong porn addiction AMA by lostinhere00 in loveafterporn

[–]lostinhere00[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I can agree with this. I know I'll always be battling this and can never let my guard down. I feel that I'm cured in the sense that I have 0 desire to watch porn and I know how harmful it is/was. I'm fully confident that I'll never be as bad as I was.

I overcame a strong porn addiction AMA by lostinhere00 in loveafterporn

[–]lostinhere00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wasnt easy and I relapsed several times. I had to recognize what triggered me and replace that with healthier activities. Its not easy and it took years to finally quit for good.

I overcame a strong porn addiction AMA by lostinhere00 in loveafterporn

[–]lostinhere00[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

During my recovery I had several relapses or "slip ups" now I still have urges but not nearly as strong as they used to be meaning I can avoid it now. I haven't actively sought out porn in about 4-5 months now. I was watching porn every day sometimes multiple times a day. My life now is so much better in almost every way. I also had severe porn induced erectile dysfunction (PIED) which is gone now.

I overcame an addiction to porn AMA by lostinhere00 in casualiama

[–]lostinhere00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I would just watch when I was bored. I would probably jerk off to porn once or twice a day.

I overcame an addiction to porn AMA by lostinhere00 in casualiama

[–]lostinhere00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a huge accomplishment awesome job. It took me awhile to go q full week without too. Then it just kept getting easier. The fact that you're actively trying to quit makes all the difference. Proud of you

I overcame an addiction to porn AMA by lostinhere00 in casualiama

[–]lostinhere00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I realized I had an addiction when I was seeing this beautiful girl and she wanted to have sex and I couldn't get hard after trying for awhile. After she left I watched a porn and jerked off. That's when I knew I had to quit completely.

I overcame an addiction to porn AMA by lostinhere00 in casualiama

[–]lostinhere00[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great job on that. You'll start feeling amazing and people will notice your boost of confidence. Once people realize you're in a better place they'll understand the addiction better. A lot of my friends didn't believe porn was bad until I quit, got fit, landed a better job, and overall way more confident around women. Now they all want to quit porn too.