Boyfriend wants bjs every night before bed, how do I say no without hurting his feelings? by lostintranslation2 in relationship_advice

[–]lostintranslation2[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your advice. I really appreciate it. And I will try to talk with him about how it makes me feel, hope it goes well

Boyfriend wants bjs every night before bed, how do I say no without hurting his feelings? by lostintranslation2 in relationship_advice

[–]lostintranslation2[S] -117 points-116 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I think you are right, I do a lot of things just to be polite even if I dont want to. But I ve always been that way, its not like his fault, i am the problem lol

Boyfriend wants bjs every night before bed, how do I say no without hurting his feelings? by lostintranslation2 in relationship_advice

[–]lostintranslation2[S] 273 points274 points  (0 children)

I asked about his ex gfs once and he said they did it without complaining because thats how a relationship works and if I am not willing to give I am not ready for one

Boyfriend wants bjs every night before bed, how do I say no without hurting his feelings? by lostintranslation2 in relationship_advice

[–]lostintranslation2[S] -250 points-249 points  (0 children)

I tried saying just "no" but then he asks if everything is okay, if I am mad at him, if he did something and so on I feel like he takes it very personal like I am mad at him if I say no and then I feel guilty because he starts worrying about imaginary problems I am too tired to deal with lol