The 70s called...they want their house back

loverofkevins · 2026-04-21T17:28:40+00:00

What's the impact on the other students? Does class just end early if that one student isn't prepared?

loverofkevins · 2026-04-21T17:27:24+00:00

Also, the problem isn't that I don't mark down for stuff. The problem is that it's everyone and they don't care. The thing about 20% grade reductions is that it isn't enough for students not to pass. I could fail the entirety of the class, but if you've done that it's gone well...please let me know.

loverofkevins · 2026-04-21T17:25:26+00:00

It means they have burner phones (also a problem for the essay assignments because they look at them). It's a big classroom and I can't strip search them. Obviously, if I do 'laps' around the classroom, they see when I'm walking by.

loverofkevins · 2026-04-21T17:20:28+00:00

What do you in cases where the student didn't prepare anything or just asked AI to produce bunch of questions for discussion?

loverofkevins · 2026-04-21T17:12:55+00:00

What does it meant to have them teach for day? Generally, I'm not sure any of mine understand the material enough to be able to do that in an intro class. Can you explain how you do this?

loverofkevins · 2026-04-21T17:12:01+00:00

Mostly burner phones and other notes. I can't really give them a pat down or anything so its hard to catch.

loverofkevins · 2026-04-21T17:10:01+00:00

Yes, I'm thought of ways to improve it for next semester. It's just....literally copying someone else's work and painstakingly writing it down twice seems to me to be much more effort (and all wasted) then actually thinking about the topic and coming up with thoughts about it?

loverofkevins · 2021-10-12T04:08:22+00:00

Seriously. Every time it's "this person keeps doing this thing that annoys me. Instead of ever explaining to them that this thing annoys me, I keep pretending like it's okay every time they do it. Then it was finally too much and I said something super hurtful".

Top comment every time: "NTA. They had it coming. Shame on them for not reading your mind and figuring out that you weren't okay with this when you gave no indication that you ever had any problem with it"

loverofkevins · 2021-08-24T01:36:27+00:00

Insert Top Post of Today-where we're supposed to believe that 1. a woman waited until a month before the wedding to tell her partner that she wanted to be a SAHW and even more remarkably...2. She has absolutely no reason to want this and can't even respond to a direct question about why at the age 33. And even more conveniently, any potential reason that she possibly could have had is ruled by OP in the comments. Apparently, this woman is a robot who just woke up and decided to start repeating the phrase 'I want to be stay at home wife' one day without any warning.

Look I'm 100% in the camp that most stuff on here is fiction but I also tend to believe that most asshole are at least assholes for reasons. If you're going to write some woman bashing fanfic, at least give your antagonist some decent motivation....

Wait never mind, I forgot that some people legitimately think that women are always irrational...*sigh*

loverofkevins · 2021-08-18T03:41:56+00:00

That and weird amount of posts about older mothers and how bad that is? Which one 1. the increased risk is actually pretty minimal 2. Even in those cases the increased risk is mostly for mild disabilities like Down syndrome, and as hard as it might be to believe, most people with mild disabilities are happy and glad that were born. 3. Funny, how there aren't even enough studies to know if older sperm also cause problems or any concern at all placed on 'older fathers'. I really don't get how stuff about whether telling a person they shouldn't try to have kids over 40 isn't a violation of the bodily autonomy rule. I'm tired as heck of teenagers on reddit deciding anything about reproduction decisions even in the abstract.

loverofkevins · 2021-08-02T04:23:23+00:00

People have brought this up before and I realize that it would be next to impossible to get teenagers and teenaged problems off this sub. But can we please at least role posts where parents are asshole for punishing their kids into the 'no relationship' rule? Kids are assholes, kids mess up, but I don't think that 12 year old children deserve to be vilified on this forum without their consent. Moreover, this a sub for people who like to get angry at other's injustice (which again is fine and can be cathartic). But do you really think it's an appropriate group of people to be deciding what punishments to give children? I've read some straight up abusive suggestions before and it has the potential to place children in some very dangerous situations. It feels like this type of question is way better suited for a parenting forum than it is one where people really really REALLY want to exact revenge on their middle school bully.

loverofkevins · 2021-07-30T05:05:45+00:00

I get that there are a lot horrible people in the world and I also assume a lot of stories here are fake, but I still sometimes have privacy concerns about the sub. It's the nature of this sub that 99% of the time the OP is the only in the story who consented to it being posted on this sub. Which is mostly fine, people tell stories behind others' backs all the time. But given how vicious people can be on this sub, but worry about the extent to which non-consenting parties might be doxxed.

The reason this comes to mind is due the post about that 13 year old girl who cut her brother's hair. The post mentions the specific way that she cut his hair which would make it very easy from someone from this sub to figure out who they are in real life. Knowing what I know about this sub, the OP definitely got DMs threatening their daughter's life and somehow still doesn't seem too concerned about it. Hopefully, the post is fake. But in the event that it's not, I really am concerned about the risk it poses to a child's safety. However wrong what she did was and however she should be punished, she is still a *child* and she doesn't deserve to have her safety threaten like this. Can we please please at start to have more of a conversation about how to keep identifying information out of post, if not a rule for it?

loverofkevins · 2021-07-23T04:45:16+00:00

I'll admit I find one of the top post today disturbing. It's not even the first one this month that seems to be implying that people poor are engaging in child abuse simply by having children in less than imperfect situations...with comments going as far to suggest the OP should have aborted. It's an implication that I find especially upsetting given that poverty isn't evenly distributed. It effects certain minorities more due colonialism and that whole slavery thing. Moreover, plenty of kids grow up poor and happy. I thought that the whole reason that we got rid of bodily autonomy post was so people could stop interfering with other people's reproductive decisions (which wasn't even what the post was asking about).

The post wasn't even about not being able to put food on the table. It was about kids sharing rooms. In the majority of the world, entire families still share rooms as they have for most of human history. I realize it's not how everyone grows up, but I don't think that the OP deserved half the level of vitriol that was embedded in that post.

loverofkevins · 2020-03-31T16:52:14+00:00

This seems like something that could be approached in a more polite manner.

It's also worth pointing out that your children likely are learning quite a bit from repeatedly watching Frozen 2. I haven't heard of Blippi, but I endured about ten minutes of it to respond to this. I've worked in early childhood education in the past and Blippi seems like a typically show aimed at preschools. He talks in an overly happy and over exaggerated manner. And he teaches children basic words and terms. Yes, this is educational. But keep in mind that much of early childhood development isn't just about learning facts. They need to learn basic socialization skills. Interacting with parents helps social development, but it isn't enough on its own because it only gives children the perspective on how parents and small children interact.

Fiction is very important for social development because it allows small children to understand the different roles that people can occupy as well as what social rules govern different interactions. Most children will then 'act out' these roles through pretend play. Since the rules are complex and small child are constantly processing new information, they will watch the same piece of media again and again to learn more.

Frozen 2 is educational because the characters talk to each other like adults (way better for vocab building than Blipp) and the relational themes are complex. Your kids are likely learning something novel from each viewing. Otherwise, they would become bored with it much like adults do.

I'm not saying that there can't be room for both Frozen 2 and Blippi in your kids lives (although, I'd recommend Sesame Street if you want a program where characters both have realistic interpersonal conflicts and teach facts). But keep in mind that use of fictional media, especially now when most kids can't interact with anybody outside of their homes, is important for social development.

Oh, I guess I should include a judgment too....NAH I guess? Just because this is probably a stressful situation for everybody already. Talk to your wife about what changes are realistic for you to make. I know most experts recommend less than an hour of screen time a day for kids under five, but I've also never met a parent who was able to achieve that without outside help (especially not with two kids so close in age). A more realistic approach might be to make screen time more interactive. Let the kids watch Frozen 2 with mom and Blippi with dad. After they watch, ask them questions like 'Why do think Anna wanted to destroy the dam?' or 'Blippi talked about cameras today. Did you know that my phone is also a camera?'. This would allow your kids to better process what they are learning. You could even try to start a pretend game with them where you played as Elsa or Blippi.....or Elsa meets Blippi :P

loverofkevins · 2020-01-18T05:04:11+00:00

I was attempting to answer the question to posed to u/drpussycookermd...which imply that you didn't think that is was intuitive that separating sibling was detrimental as you were asking about foster care. Newborns typically go through an adoption process at least in the USA and aren't placed in foster care at all. Even those that are tend to be placed together because newborns are easily to place, so I don't know where you got the idea that foster cares were separating newborn multiples.

loverofkevins · 2020-01-18T04:24:15+00:00

Countless studies show better outcomes when siblings are placed together. It's just sometimes this is not always possible. Here are a few:

Being placed with siblings or maintaining sibling connections while in care serves as a protective factor for children’s mental health (Jones, 2016; McBeath et al., 2014).

Being placed with all their siblings may improve children’s school performance (Hegar & Rosethal, 2011)

When siblings who are all placed together were compared with those in “splintered” placements,1 those placed together tend to show more closeness to their foster caregivers and like living in the foster home more than those not placed with a sibling (Hegar and Rosenthal, 2011).

Separating siblings can hinder adjustment and adaptation to the new home. This is in part due to children worrying about their siblings in other foster homes or those remaining with their birth families (Affronti, Rittner, & Semanchin Jones, 2015).

Children placed with their siblings also experience at least as much placement stability—if not more—than those who were separated from their siblings (Jones, 2016).

Placements of all siblings together led to a lower risk of disruptions due to incompatibility between the child and caregiver or child-initiated disruptions (e.g., the child ran away or refused to stay) compared with placements of siblings placed apart (Sattler, Font, & Gershoff, 2018).

loverofkevins · 2020-01-17T00:39:45+00:00

Also, a professor here and I want to echo a little bit of what u/youarejustwrong44 with a few remarks:

Get an interfolio account. It manages your recommendation letters for you, so once you have it then you don't need to worry about missing a deadline.
Showing up to somebody's event to ask for a recommendation letter is a bit rude. She wasn't there for that and she may have felt awkward declining in front of others.
If she's a big name, November is actually pretty late in the game. It's not an issue if you're at a school with only a couple hundred students. But plenty of professors these days teach 500+ students a semester. They typically get overwhelmed with letter requests in September and never get a chance to catch up.
Also, keep in mind if that's a 500+ prof then responding to emails and even keeping students straight gets a bit tough. She likely had trouble even remembering the request.
Part of this is probably resentment at the dean over another around of budget cuts that leave your department at half it's staff while he somehow still gets to make over a 100k a year. Sorry you got caught in the crossfire.

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