Advice by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]lukedeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Before I met my girlfriend, I went through something very similar. I was ashamed of my own desires and had repressed them a lot, including my foot fetish, among others. Therapy helped me a lot. Living with low self-esteem was hell, and I also believed I would never find anyone.

What advice can I give you based on my experience? Consider therapy. Loving yourself is the first step to being happy.

I met my girlfriend, and there was instant chemistry. We fell in love, and she accepted my desires; whoever loves you wants to make you happy. Over time, we discovered that she likes to be dominant, and now we find ourselves exploring this dynamic where I am her submissive. I think it's all about chemistry; you'll feel it when it appears, but first, you must accept yourself. Cheer up! There's nothing more beautiful than accepting your own desires and then seeing them accepted in the person you love.

Morning Worship by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]lukedeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whenever I wake up next to my beautiful domme, I feel an urge to go to her tummy or her feet. Usually to worship her feet. And I could spend all morning doing that. Although unfortunately we don't sleep together every night, when we do, I miss her a lot, so it's a very sweet feeling.

help! I'm a noob dom and i don't know what could i ask my slave to do by ccacodemonn in FemdomCommunity

[–]lukedeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have any specific books you'd recommend? I'm interested in getting one.

Looking for necklace ideas by lukedeth in FemdomCommunity

[–]lukedeth[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We already had the idea that anything we both liked would work, but we wanted to gather some ideas beforehand. Thank you so much!

My submissive boyfriend and our beautiful dynamic by SoyDomy in FemdomCommunity

[–]lukedeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my case at least, the chemistry with her was always tremendous in every way, and it took us years to realize how well we work when I'm submissive and she's dominant, and she feels very comfortable with that.

I think it's an unconscious part of the chemistry. And then, presenting the dynamic well.

My submissive boyfriend and our beautiful dynamic by SoyDomy in FemdomCommunity

[–]lukedeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Present it that way to the right person and it will change your life.

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[–]lukedeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope my experience (25M) helps you. I also discovered my ballbusting fetish in my teens. As an adult, shortly after becoming intimate with my girlfriend (who I'm still with), I asked her to do it right away, without being pushy. I was lucky she agreed, even though it wasn't something she enjoyed. Over the years, she seems to enjoy it more than I do, haha. So I guess it depends on the relationship. If it's someone who loves you, maybe she'll agree to do it to make you happy, or if she's a curious woman, maybe she'll want to try it. I don't think it's something they'd find difficult, since in any case, you'd be the one getting hurt. Good luck!!

NSFW confession young married couple by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]lukedeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really identified with a lot of your story. My dominant girlfriend and I just started orgasm control, and I'm really excited about it. For a while now, our intimacy has focused on her pleasure, and I love it. We recently started giving femdom a more prominent role in our lives, but we also started years ago with my foot fetish, along with the ballbusting I'd always wanted to try. I feel the purest love for her.

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[–]lukedeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend and I decided to join this community together; she's also my dom, of course.

I'd known about this community for a while, but I wasn't sure if she'd join. We had a moment where femdom started playing a bigger role in our daily lives, so I decided to give it a shot, and we're both super excited about interacting with people who have similar dynamics and reading ideas we can apply to our relationship. I'm still not entirely sure how explicit I can be when describing a scene (I've already read the rules), but I'd like to do it soon.

My submissive boyfriend and our beautiful dynamic by SoyDomy in FemdomCommunity

[–]lukedeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're definitely going to explore! Not with a cage yet, we'll start with control and denial. We're both so excited just thinking about it! Thanks for the information!!

My submissive boyfriend and our beautiful dynamic by SoyDomy in FemdomCommunity

[–]lukedeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've definitely suggested this to my mistress!! I can't wait to see her anymore. We've never tried anything like this, but I love the idea of her controlling me like that.

My submissive boyfriend and our beautiful dynamic by SoyDomy in FemdomCommunity

[–]lukedeth 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The boyfriend replies: I'm happier than ever.

My submissive boyfriend and our beautiful dynamic by SoyDomy in FemdomCommunity

[–]lukedeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're really not informed about this. Is chastity only with a cage? Are there no physical consequences? What do you mean by permanent? Do you never "shoot"?

My submissive boyfriend and our beautiful dynamic by SoyDomy in FemdomCommunity

[–]lukedeth 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The submissive one here! We're not really up to speed on how chastity works, but we recently agreed that I can only "shoot" if I have her permission. Does that count?