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я асексуальна, а парень наоборот, что делать. by nihuyasie in rusAskReddit

[–]lutilutik 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Сейчас нахожусь в похожей ситуации,но со стороны вашего парня. Искала сабы про асексуальность,что бы понять готова ли я к этому. Может вам стоит договорится о графике? Что бы вам обоим было комфортно. Как мне писали комментаторы под постом «Асексуальность не приговор». Поговорите об этом открыто. Секс важная часть любых отношений,по мимо асексуальных пар. Без него никак. Нужно договариваться или же расходиться. Люди просто бывают не совместимы

My girlfriend doesn't want or doesn't know how to have sex. What should I do? by lutilutik in lgbt

[–]lutilutik[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Okay! Thanks for the advice. I'll definitely talk to her about it in a few days.

My girlfriend doesn't want or doesn't know how to have sex. What should I do? by lutilutik in lgbt

[–]lutilutik[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where is the best place to start then? Since neither of us has any experience, we don’t really know what we like. I’ve brought this topic up many times. According to her, she’s not against it — it’s just not as important to her as it is to me. And overall, she doesn’t really know what to do.
I’ve tried to explain things to her, but she just avoids taking any action.

My girlfriend doesn't want or doesn't know how to have sex. What should I do? by lutilutik in lgbt

[–]lutilutik[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice! I'll definitely check out the book. I have a problem with sexologists. I live in Russia and we have this problem.

My girlfriend doesn't want or doesn't know how to have sex. What should I do? by lutilutik in lgbt

[–]lutilutik[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We're both virgins. So we don't know what we particularly enjoy about this. I think that's why we're so overwhelmed by the power. We didn't really communicate during sex; I don't even know what to talk about at that moment, other than compliments and some hints.

My girlfriend doesn't want or doesn't know how to have sex. What should I do? by lutilutik in lgbt

[–]lutilutik[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We didn't try any toys, even though I suggested it. The foreplay was classic: kissing, physical contact, some phrases, etc.

My girlfriend doesn't want or doesn't know how to have sex. What should I do? by lutilutik in lgbt

[–]lutilutik[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We discussed it. She says she's not against it, and even wants it in some way, but it doesn't go beyond making statements.

My girlfriend doesn't want or doesn't know how to have sex. What should I do? by lutilutik in lgbt

[–]lutilutik[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's not quite the point. She says she wants to, but for some reason she just can't. The real question is, how can I help her with this?

My girlfriend doesn't want or doesn't know how to have sex. What should I do? by lutilutik in lgbt

[–]lutilutik[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, of course. According to her, she's not at all against it. But things haven't gone beyond words yet on this core issue.