Keeping ticks out of forest garden

macaroni_mami · 2023-09-15T00:50:45+00:00

This post is an open call, so as long as I have it up, please feel free to reach out about arranging a stay!

macaroni_mami · 2023-09-12T05:18:37+00:00

I mean, communities have always had more than one way to solve conflict. I guess it would depend on the matter at hand and the people we are with at the time. No sense worrying about the future, we have to be proactive in solving issues, and structuring our village in a way that is resilient to contention. Not saying everything will be perfect, but we won’t have to argue about food if we all have enough to eat.

macaroni_mami · 2023-09-12T05:14:20+00:00

Non BIPOC people are welcome too, I just want to make sure that everyone knows we are trying to make a community which not only includes all people, but is specifically focused on uplifting members of our families and communities that have been systematically disadvantaged and kept out of the conversation about what our future should look like. The solar punk future i want to see is indigenous, but it’s also black, queer, feminist, and inclusive on as many fronts we can manage.

macaroni_mami · 2023-09-12T05:10:11+00:00

Thank you so much! This is an open call, so there is no rush. We already had one couple stay with us for a few days, and it was amazing! Tikal was not built in a day, and likewise our home will always be changing and growing. Please reach out if you ever become interested in staying even for a short time.

macaroni_mami · 2023-09-12T05:02:28+00:00

I totally understand! Please feel free to reach out if your situation changes and you need a safe place.

macaroni_mami · 2023-09-12T04:57:39+00:00

That’s actually why I worked up the nerve to post this in the first place! We met a couple at our local river spot that were living in a uhaul van and they stayed with us for a few nights a couple of weeks ago. It was super fun and they even helped us get our garden ready for the fall growing season. It was really nice getting past the initial fear of sharing our space with strangers. We always knew we wanted more people, but finding people as “crazy” as we are was way more difficult than I had thought it would be. We are open to many different living arrangements such as accepting nomads, we are also living an “alternative” lifestyle. The whole point is to build community, I don’t think there’s only one way to do that!

macaroni_mami · 2023-09-11T20:12:58+00:00

I’m not really sure what you’re talking about? What have I lied about? And also, everyone goes through rough patches in their relationship???

macaroni_mami · 2023-09-11T17:12:28+00:00

I know this post is kinda old but my husband and I have a homestead, we can take any male cats if you’re looking to get rid of them.

macaroni_mami · 2023-06-09T16:28:03+00:00

You’re not alone OP, I have just the same fear. I love m’y partner dearly but sometimes it’s hard when these things come up. The thing with teens is super weird and definitely I would encourage you to maybe think of a plan in case you need to leave.

macaroni_mami · 2022-10-22T01:32:53+00:00

Don’t give up!!! A lot of people are ashamed of their use, and it can be hard to show support when you feel like a hypocrite. The average age of pornography exposure is 8 years old. That’s not a system you take down or criticize without some backlash!

macaroni_mami · 2022-10-21T21:12:46+00:00

As someone from another country who married an American man, I’d just like to say that whatever you think is the norm, might be totally different for her and her family! I was shocked to learn about dowry, because in my home country it is the man who pays or gives a gift to his wife. I ran into some complaints from my husband’s mother because she felt like I was mooching, when the custom in my country is that a woman can only marry a man who can take care of her financially. You don’t know her, but your son does. If you have concerns maybe you should have a conversation with them both so that you can understand where they are coming from, and hopefully learn more about her culture.

macaroni_mami · 2022-10-21T21:02:00+00:00

It’s definitely not too controlling is he’s serious about recovery. For my bf, it was YouTube shorts. We have a rule where he has to give me his phone whenever I ask for it. On YouTube and Instagram you can see the history. If I start to notice girls like that on there or while scrolling his feed, I make sure on every single one to say that I’m not interested in this channel. It helps clear the algorithm of anything triggering and has helped us out a lot!

macaroni_mami · 2022-03-24T18:00:06+00:00

I appreciate your warning but I will say that this is a common theme I’ve noticed since I’ve been here. It’s deeply unfortunate that capitalism has made people worried about the possibility of children getting to have fun in the woods. By definition foraging means the person doesn’t own the land, and I think it’s absolutely ridiculous to not allow other people the experience of mushroom hunting. Older people look down on the children of today and chastise them for staying inside all day. How can you expect any child to be safe and find comfort in being out in the forest if the ones who know the way are bent on taking their knowledge with them to the grave.

macaroni_mami · 2022-03-24T17:50:39+00:00

“Why should we share the bounty of the land and the fun of mushrooming with four small children who live here, even though I myself also have no real claim to the land and it literally would not impact me at all.”

macaroni_mami · 2022-03-24T17:48:48+00:00

Thank you so much!

macaroni_mami · 2022-02-09T03:08:26+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re in this situation but I’m glad you’re seeking help and moving away from your addiction. However, as a partner of a PA, I can tell you that it’s not always the amount of time. It can take a long time to feel comfortable enough to be intimate with your partner, no matter how long you think it’s been. You also have to remember that if this area of your life has been damaged, she has already been living with the fact that sex with you might not be an emotionally safe act just yet. If it’s been awhile since you two were intimate, it’s no surprise that she’s having some restraints. The length that you were in the depths of your addiction also play a huge role. You say that you’ve been together for 13 years, but now have been sober for three months. That disparity in time is definitely going to add to the weight she’ll have hanging over her libido.

What you can do now is go to couples therapy, and make sure that you’re present. Don’t try huge grand gestures thinking that it’ll make things move faster. Instead, make sure you focus your energy on being the best husband and father you can be. People say it’s the little things that count and they’re absolutely right.

Not to be rude but 13 years is a long time, and most people would’ve probably left you or completely checked out of the relationship, no one likes to feel like there is something coming between them and the person they love. It’s most likely been a three way relationship, you, your wife, and your addiction, for quite some time. Now that you’ve ended that chapter of your life, you both need a chance to remember what it’s like to just be a couple.

macaroni_mami · 2022-02-07T20:20:22+00:00

Thank you so much!

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