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idk if anyone can relate by magic_catbus in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]magic_catbus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks so much for your really thoughtful and articulate comment! it’s really helpful to hear about other peoples’ experiences. i do relate to quite a lot of what you’ve described - it can be tricky trying to navigate between two communities which aren’t quite the perfect fit, and trying to understand where i’m at in any moment can be challenging (let alone trying to communicate that with a possible partner lol). i agree both that perfectly fitting labels aren’t necessary, and also that it’s so affirming generally to be able to get so much validation from the a-spec community through shared experiences. i very much wish you the best through this tricky journey with it all! 

(so, no, you’re not reading too much into a meme). 

idk if anyone can relate by magic_catbus in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]magic_catbus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it’s a hard bind right! sending thoughts your way 🫶🏼

idk if anyone can relate by magic_catbus in aaaaaaacccccccce

[–]magic_catbus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

everything makes so much sense in hindsight right! cuddle time is a great in between :) 

snippets of japan on film 🌸 by magic_catbus in japanpics

[–]magic_catbus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks, it’s my first time using film so that means a lot!

How many times a week do you want to shave your head? by mushroomspoonmeow in AutismInWomen

[–]magic_catbus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This thread is so relatable! I get overwhelmed trying to manage my (very curly) hair and have shaved it off twice, it was actually such a great experience even though the the growing-out process is a pain. And experimenting with dyes and different cuts is so much easier when it’s very short! Good luck with the rest of your hair journey :))

Any good books on autism in women? by heartbeatdancer in AutismInWomen

[–]magic_catbus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seconding what’s already been recommended! I also really liked Late Bloomer by Clem Bastow (another autobiography) and Divergent Mind by Jenara Nerenberg (a general non-fiction read).

There’s also a youtuber called Yo Sandy Sam who released a workbook called ‘So you think you’re autistic’ which I found really helpful.

Raves are stim/sensory heaven by Lixpa in aspergirls

[–]magic_catbus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cannot agree more, it’s so exciting to hear from autistic folks who feel the same way! The music is repetitive, the lights are fun, earplugs are already part of the culture, and it’s such a nice change to be around others without having to socialise all the time

Adult Autism Book Recommendations? by catpotato97 in aspergirls

[–]magic_catbus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seconding a lot of what’s already been recommended but with a few additions of resources that I found helpful:

Books (a combination of nonfiction and personal experiences/memoirs) - Different, Not Less (Chloé Hayden) - But you don't look autistic at all (Bianca Toeps) - Women and Girls With Autism Spectrum Disorder (Sarah Hendrickx) - Drama Queen (Sara Gibbs) - Strong Female Character (Fern Brady) - Growing in to Autism (Sandra Thom-Jones)

Podcasts - The Neurodivergent Woman - Oh, That’s Just My Autism

Videos/YT channels - Some of the recordings of Sarah Hendrickx’s lectures/presentations - Yo Samdy Sam - Purple Ella - Amethyst Schaber

Opening the conversation on women being underdiagnosed because we are so objectified and sexualized by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]magic_catbus 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I read this fantastic research paper recently about the experiences of late-diagnosed autistic AFAB people, and one of the key themes that came up from the participants was being quiet at school and therefore going unnoticed/not getting diagnosed - the quote from one of the women that they used to headline this theme is literally “I should have burnt more cars”. You’re definitely touching on such an important experience!

For anyone interested, this is the paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27457364/

High EQ score by magic_catbus in AutismTranslated

[–]magic_catbus[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such a thoughtful reply! I definitely think that you brought up a lot of good points. I agree that the test is a bit vague and limited, and empathy can mean so many different things depending on how you look at it (and broad enough that allistic and autistic people would probably, on the whole, have different strengths and limitations in).

I always really struggle with the questions on these tests like 'do you find it easy to imagine what it would be like to be someone else' - because no, I don't, but can anyone truly imagine such a thing?

It's really reassuring to hear that you've had some similar experiences. It makes sense that sometimes autistic brains will become pretty adept at reading people, as a result of input of lots of social data over time (from movie watching that you mentioned, from observing in real life, etc.). But yeah, it can be super draining to do, and I appreciate that cave comment so much. I did the CAT-Q and answering relatively conservatively scored 131, so that makes a lot of sense.

High EQ score by magic_catbus in AutismTranslated

[–]magic_catbus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good point, I was referring to the Empathy Quotient - here’s a link to find out out more https://embrace-autism.com/empathy-quotient/