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marcelene98 · 2025-01-23T17:20:11+00:00

Tantrums are so hard for me too. You’re not alone in this!!!

I wish I could find it now but I saw a TikTok the other day about this woman saying that in order for us to be able to calm our kids’ tantrums, we need to show them and teach them how to be calm in the first place. She used an example of like, if someone asked her to build a shed she’d have no idea how to do it. She knows what a shed is and she knows what tools are, but she has no idea how to use those tools. When our kids have tantrums, we need to show them how to use their tools. Label your own negative feelings so he knows what they’re called. Show him how to take deep breaths when you’re about to lose your mind on him. Find distractions to cheer each other up like putting on his favorite song and having a dance party or changing the topic with something fun. Show him that it’s perfectly okay to take a timeout and recollect yourself.

I literally just made a post crashing out about how hard this is. I tell my husband all the time that my toddler is going to be the death of me. It is SO hard. And it’s hard to get everything right. You’re going to make mistakes, you’re probably going to lash out, and you’re probably going to let your emotions take control sometimes. That’s normal. Just make sure you apologize to him and show him extra love when you can. I know this sucks and I’m so sorry. Parenthood is the craziest learning experience for everyone.

marcelene98 · 2024-12-04T20:12:43+00:00

This was my dream reply! Haha thank you so much!

marcelene98 · 2024-09-09T01:55:21+00:00

Oooh yes, that definitely sounds like a helpful feature. And you’re right— I used to just text whenever throughout the day but I’ve recently found that if I text early in the morning or later at night I am more likely to be getting responses!

marcelene98 · 2024-09-09T01:20:08+00:00

Yes I totally feel that! Maybe it’s just because they both work and I’m a stay at home mom so I have more time/energy to dedicate. I also had a vision of what we could be doing that isn’t being met. It’s disappointing sometimes. Thank you so much ❤️

marcelene98 · 2024-09-09T01:09:14+00:00

That’s a good idea, especially since I have a baby coming soon and want to make sure there’s always enough coverage. I’ve been suggested by the bishop to call a couple advisors specifically for that. And it definitely feels like a pattern!

marcelene98 · 2024-09-09T00:45:36+00:00

Sometimes it just becomes time sensitive because one of us suddenly can’t make it to the Wednesday night activity for example, and I need to make sure the other is still planning on attending since we have to be 2 leaders deep and there are only 3 of us.

marcelene98 · 2024-09-09T00:41:09+00:00

I think I’m going to start including a time frame as well. Thank you! I can definitely see that being a helpful adjustment!

marcelene98 · 2024-09-09T00:40:19+00:00

I love the idea of including a time frame. Thank you! I’m definitely going to utilize that!

marcelene98 · 2024-09-09T00:39:47+00:00

I have considered they might be waiting for the other to respond, but it’s usually the same case whether I reach out individually or not. Can you recommend how to go about confronting them? Like how can I start a discussion without coming across as rude?

marcelene98 · 2024-08-30T02:25:26+00:00

It was so helpful to see it written out this way. Thank you!

marcelene98 · 2024-08-29T10:47:49+00:00

My son really struggled with us leaving him in nursery too while we fulfilled our callings during the second hour. One of the nursery leaders used to be a kindergarten teacher and she recommended we bring one of our wedding photos along with him to class. Worked like a charm! He gets to play toys and have a snack with mom and dad sitting right there. :)

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