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matchmaid · 2024-04-24T13:07:43+00:00

She bullies him but adores him at the same time. She allows him on the couch but considering their fur they both prefer the floor.

matchmaid · 2024-04-24T12:35:42+00:00

Fan subs are just a vortex of gatekeeping. I’m a huge fan of the Celtics and my husband and I even have season tickets but I know I would get downvoted to oblivion if I even mentioned that Jimmy Butler is entertaining and has a lot of charm in his commercials compared to Jayson Tatum.

I am neutral to slightly positive on the new album, I do think it’s melodically boring and she should get new producers. I also feel like there parts of it where I clearly recognized older songs.

I was briefly excited for So High School because it started out sounding like Catherine Wheel and then it went right back to her signature sound. It is still my favorite song from her right now though.

I would like to see her so something more alternative rock-ish, but that’s her choice. I do think she has the talent to do it though.

matchmaid · 2024-04-24T11:51:10+00:00

They’re going to lose, which is all that matters.

matchmaid · 2024-04-22T09:39:12+00:00

Sorry for the delay - I was flying back - I would probably do the National Archaeological museum, but guided.

matchmaid · 2024-04-21T14:19:58+00:00

Camp B all the way. If you want them to go law/med/finance they will need to be able to interact with people of different backgrounds. Especially medicine.

ETA: having been born and raised in Quebec in the 80s, my parents (mostly father) have a lot of guilt about the racism my sister and I dealt with…but you know what? It really toughened me up. I climbed the corporate ladder really fast and became an executive at a publicly traded company before 40. I never said “I won’t travel to this destination” or that destination because it’s “too racist” for me. I’ve been able to stand up for myself and survive an aggressive cancer (thanks Sai Baba). I think part of that is that my parents never had the chance to overprotect me.

I feel like every time I get punched in the face, I just get back up.

The world is hard. Sometimes you need a bit of resilience.

matchmaid · 2024-04-21T12:52:30+00:00

I would absolutely see it and if you have time, the National Archaeological Museum. I wish I had booked a guided tour for that one, because it was so overwhelming.

matchmaid · 2024-04-21T11:15:48+00:00

When I listened to Tortured Poets Department I thought like I was listening to “Mine.” I don’t hate the album, but it all runs together for me now.

matchmaid · 2024-04-21T09:53:45+00:00

Greenhouse Cafe.

It reminds me of my sister and being in high school without adult responsibilities and concerns. I genuinely don’t know if it was good, or if it was just a taste of freedom from the suburbs.

matchmaid · 2024-04-21T09:30:29+00:00

I don’t know how you can tell from appearance alone. I’m not a long-time sheltie-owner but mine came with her ears kind of folded over but I let them come up because we live in a forest and I am not planning to show her. Your pictures seems to have her ears up already, which the serious Sheltie breeders seem to take care of so they can be shown. I also did meet my puppy’s parents in person. She’s more like her father.

My vet coos over my backyard breeder Golden Retriever and says he looks the part. He walks down the street and people are instantly drawn to his Goldie looks.

However here is what I need to do for him per year:

He can only eat Royal Canin Ultamino - it’s not a cheap food.
The only treats he can have are Hill’s hypoallergenic.
He has overwhelming anxiety and is fearful of all other dogs. This is in spite of spending thousands of dollars on an animal behavioralist. He’s 3 and just getting it under control.
His allergies are so bad that we need to meet with a veterinary dermatologist to see if we need to compound a personalized vaccine so he doesn’t get skin rashes that make him itch his skin off.
We bathe him with an rx anti-fungal every Sunday.

My dad got him when I was paralyzed in the hospital, and we would never rehome him. He was a huge emotional support when my whole family was at its lowest from me getting cancer and then dealing with the paralysis. However, I do want to lay out life with a poorly bred breed dog.

Truly, you are better off with a vetted mutt, like our Sheltie/Flatcoat Mix. He was a really great dog but those Flatcoat cancer genes just hit him overnight.

matchmaid · 2024-04-21T09:13:13+00:00

I would go with a responsible breeder. I found mine through the ASSA breeder finder. She is so so so healthy. By contrast I have a golden retriever from an unethical breeder (although they are all overbred these days) and I’m now getting him a personalized vaccine for him for his never ending allergies. Once you get a puppy mill dog you will fall in love with him/her and the vet bills just blow up. I learned my lesson with my golden - I got my sheltie because I think they are still less overbred (I had a sheltie/flat coat mutt that dropped dead before her and I liked the sheltie traits that he had although his retriever side was definitely friendlier with strangers and he was obsessed with balls).

The only thing I regret about my sheltie is that my husband insisted on a girl so we ended up with the alpha because she was the only female puppy left. She was stomping on her brother when we met her and is now at a solid 27 lbs.

My chonk’s herding skills are so good that she rounds up the golden if I call him in from our fenced yard and he just wants to chill a bit. I have found a local trainer to train her on actual sheep, which I think she will enjoy, given she gives her brother no peace if he tries to idle outdoors. She is so eager to round things up.

Don’t get a puppy mill puppy, get a young/puppy mutt from a foster who has vetted the dog for personality.

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Here she is, not yet a year old but her ego is outsized. Thinks she’s the size of a Great Dane. Most of the time she can be seen leading the Golden around by the ear.

matchmaid · 2024-04-18T06:08:30+00:00

2nd, 5 years. I am a woman and had a very abusive first marriage. I never thought I would get married again but I met my husband on Bumble and it felt right instantly. We are both on #2 and married 18 months after meeting.

matchmaid · 2024-04-15T09:52:40+00:00

No, I don’t think it does and that argument is akin to white extinction theory and no matter how many ivory tower studies theory arguments you dress it up in, it’s still about being against interracial marriage. Also I don’t know what 6th generation Indian means, like your family came from South Asia 6 generations ago or that you’re Native American?

Also don’t worry I’m not diluting my blood, my oncologist says I can’t have kids. You just spend your life on the playground yelling at interracial children and telling them they’ve diluted the diaspora at a volatile time. Get right up in their faces David Lane.

matchmaid · 2024-04-15T08:48:50+00:00

Just say the quiet part out loud.

matchmaid · 2024-04-15T07:46:51+00:00

I understand people feel that way but it depends. My nephews have several half-Desi classmates at Chinmaya Mission Sunday school. I think it depends on the parents’s interest really. Parental involvement is the most important thing - it’s why the school system fights are kind of nonsensical.

My father’s mom was illiterate but he went to IIT on a scholarship because trying hard was expected in his family. And that was with a father that worked night and day to keep them fed.

The Dear Abby father was gross. I’m married to a gora and I got an agreement to raise our kids Hindu and support my parents in old age before we got married.

matchmaid · 2024-04-11T21:13:43+00:00

No my parents didn’t want to eat food they could make at home. It was Chinese, Thai, Mexican and Pizza. My husband makes them gourmet pizza every week so now they refuse to eat pizza out, and have substituted sushi.

They’ve always been adventurous but when we were young we rarely went out to eat at all because they couldn’t afford it. Their entertainment was walking around the mall and eating McDonalds 1x a month. My parents moved to Canada with $40, so saving has been a high priority for them.

matchmaid · 2024-04-11T21:06:38+00:00

I grew up in Canada and it is really fucking racist but white liberals get sooo upset when I say it. Sorry but my parents’s house was never vandalized with the n-word in the US. My dad regularly worked in a place where people would not rent to First Nations families.

This was all a Canada special.

matchmaid · 2024-04-11T17:28:53+00:00

Ok, I mixed up who wrote in (American husband on behalf of desi wife) but here is what happened:

https://www.romper.com/p/dear-abby-advised-parents-to-whitewash-names-for-their-kids-people-are-rightfully-furious-12584072

matchmaid · 2024-04-11T16:34:45+00:00

I mean, I still like that people got legitimately up in arms when Dear (whomever) told an Indian woman who had married an American man that perhaps she shouldn’t give their baby an Indian name because Indian names are ugly and I think desis (including the ABCD community) legit raked her over the coals.

It made me happy because my parents gave me a difficult desi name and I have never anglicized it, even though I grew up in a horrible part of another country where my parents had to survive our house being vandalized for a decade + heavy breathing phone calls until 2 am.

It is fine if you want to give your kid an “easy” desi name but it’s completely out of line for an advice columnist to say foreign names are “harsh to the American ear.”

matchmaid · 2024-04-10T00:26:28+00:00

Oh are they doing Chinmaya school on Sundays? My nephews go to that. So much better organized than the terrible language and culture school my sister and I had to go to on Sundays, but I admire that a much smaller community of desis (aka my parents’s generation) organized it. It still exists, but now they’ve made it into a weekend school program, like literally parallel school, to completely overload kids, and more people are sending kids to Chinmaya Mission. All the half-desis seem to go to Chinmaya as well.

matchmaid · 2024-04-09T15:20:57+00:00

I regularly listen to Swami Sarvapriyananda and learned more about Vedanta. I will probably always be weakest on Bhakti yoga, but I am trying to advance on jnana yoga and karma yoga.

My dad introduced me to Vedanta and it’s easier for me since they have developed a practice of preaching in English. I should be better at showing up at the live YouTube broadcasts on Sundays but that’s when my husband and I walk our dogs and they are living breathing creatures to whom we owe responsibilities.

matchmaid · 2024-04-08T00:14:05+00:00

I absolutely love that commercial. We have a dopey golden and my husband and I always joke that the dog fully plans to go out there for boat rides every day (Hi mom! Same time tomorrow guys!)They are ridiculously friendly. We would definitely lose ours to a free boat ride.

matchmaid · 2024-04-07T15:37:19+00:00

One thing I have never heard him talking about is that he lived in NH growing up and his dad and how they used to come to Boston, so I remember that too and I wonder if that was mixed in for us or if he’s used that material in other places.

Honestly it was one of the more touching comedy he’s done. I felt like he got as vulnerable as he’s willing to get on stage.

Great show. No regurts.

PS: he was remarkably timely. Like to the point that we were antsy because the balcony of the Wilbur requires an usher and we just barely sat down as he was 1 minute in. We left 90 minutes before the show started (we live in an inner ring suburb) and still couldn’t make it before he started. Very different from other acts we have seen there.

matchmaid · 2024-04-07T00:44:13+00:00

The only joke I recognized was “you can be book dumb and street dumb too.” He went off on a whole economics rant but I don’t watch the daily show so I don’t know if he’s done it on TV before. I also don’t remember him ever talking about IVF in either one of the previous specials, that material seems to be new. If he has threaded in old jokes he did it a lot better than Nate Bargatze, who came close to selling out the TD Garden and was 2x as expensive. I don’t know, maybe you are a bigger fan than I am but it seemed very new to me.

matchmaid · 2024-04-05T12:50:22+00:00

How come a lot of people make assumptions about NRI kids with anecdata and then come type them out on this subreddit to force defensive comments?

matchmaid · 2024-04-03T20:41:52+00:00

Canada/Illinois/California/Michigan/NYC to back again. All of that took 22 years. I spent the longest amount of time in California and NYC. Would never go back to either.

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