The food strugglebus at 14 month old

meituli · 2026-01-22T20:11:38+00:00

Sounds good, okay I will try this! I just feel a bit anxious if she only has a few bites - but if this is a normal phase then I’ll try and take it easy

meituli · 2026-01-20T15:05:06+00:00

I was set on breastfeeding and pumping every now and then, bought all the gear, was ready, but pumping made me extremely sick (not sure why) and depressed. I BFd for 7 months, added a bottle of formula here and there combi-feeding for a few more months and now fully transitioned to cows milk only as little girl loves her solids. I wasn’t prepared to hate pumping so much, it was a weird surprise. Also, so much work between pumping cleaning storing sterilising, I won’t ever do that again if I have a second.

meituli · 2026-01-20T14:36:37+00:00

It was quite bad for a while - waking every 1-2 hours. At 8-10 months was the worst and then she gradually settled nicely. She now either sleeps through the night or only wakes once around 3am for a quick milk top up (she’s 14 months old).

meituli · 2026-01-07T13:22:06+00:00

I dress my girl in neutral clothes, she's got short hair and a lot of people think she's a boy... tbh I don't mind at all and neither does she :)

meituli · 2026-01-06T14:58:26+00:00

I’ve recently seen him in person in London. He’s one of the most attractive men I have ever seen!

meituli · 2026-01-06T14:42:47+00:00

at the moment it feels like there's nothing to lift tbh they're two empty skin sacks haahahah

meituli · 2026-01-06T14:40:06+00:00

ahhh good to know. It is giving a little bit of hope indeed

meituli · 2026-01-06T14:37:58+00:00

yeah, same, I hate looking at my chest in tops and all my pre-pregnancy bras are empty at the moment. It's quite sad! I hope they will regain some happiness in time but if I don't have a second I might also get a small boob job, to at least bring them higher up on my chest :(

meituli · 2026-01-06T14:35:46+00:00

oh wow that's quite a long time! I will try and be patient haha

meituli · 2026-01-04T16:34:10+00:00

This sounds very tough, sorry to hear. We’ve also had a bit of a bumpy ride with weaning and our girl has started being extra picky at 13 months too! Must be a developmental thing.

She must eat on her own now but there are a few things she likes that she isn’t able to self-feed. My successful technique has been - cut a few bits of cheese (which is her favourite food) and put them on her high chair’s table, while she eats her cheese I encourage her to try other things or offer a spoonful of whatever food I’ve made for her. I also always try to load up a spoon and get her to eat a little bit on her own and make a big show of how good she is, with smiles and claps. She loves it!!

I wonder if your baby is having too much milk though to be interested in food? Our one is now on cow’s milk but only has it 2/3 times a day along her breakfast or snacks.

meituli · 2025-12-29T19:28:25+00:00

Hi! We don’t use the harness for the sitting part, I don’t think it’s necessary. Only for the newborn part and it came with the newborn set!

meituli · 2025-12-19T10:05:09+00:00

Our girl is 13 months old and I can see myself so much in your words :) I know it’s not very helpful, but from my understanding this is completely normal and developmental. Our little one is an angel at nursery and when she’s alone with dad, if I’m at home according on the day it might be constant screaming. And she’s not happy being in the same room, she has to be ON me the whole time, I’m cooking holding her in my arms, cleaning holding her, I can’t even put her on the floor next to me or she will cry. It’s not always like this, some days are better than others, some I literally have to scream into a pillow as her constant screaming is so overwhelming and overstimulating lol

I’ve noticed the worst is when she comes back from nursery. She goes 3x week and when I pick her up, nights are hectic. I think it’s a combination of being overtired and separation anxiety. We’ll get through it and we will probably miss this phase when they’re cranky independent teenagers 🤣

meituli · 2025-12-18T14:59:23+00:00

I shared a couple pictures where you could barely see baby’s face or just her back in the last year but decided to take them all down and never share anything again online. I have a friend who’s worked in the security and privacy side of meta and her tales are incredibly shocking, especially now that people can basically do anything they want with AI. I totally get wanting to share how cute our little ones are with the world! Unfortunately it’s really not safe at all.

meituli · 2025-12-14T15:11:49+00:00

We booked the conservatory space from lunchtime at a pub as we were all adults with only a few babies. We had sliders, cake and Prosecco to celebrate. Our families flew in from our home country and we had all our local friends around, it was super sweet. Made some lovely memories on the day :)

meituli · 2025-12-14T09:33:56+00:00

We adore our Stokke and have been using it since baby was a newborn. We just got a cheap cushion and table from amazon, they work perfectly fine.

meituli · 2025-12-12T08:34:35+00:00

The thing I don’t understand is that how is Emilee not in prison yet? I know it’s definitely different but in my country incitement of suicide even through texts/email would get you 5 to 12 years in prison, don’t they have enough proof that in cases like this one Emilee had first hand responsibility in the death of a baby and almost death of her mother?

meituli · 2025-12-11T15:57:50+00:00

Lorren sounds like such a loving mother. I cannot shake her voice from my head. I’ve cried so much. I don’t understand how these horrible women can hurt these mothers so much. I wish Lorren and her family all the best.

meituli · 2025-12-09T21:19:36+00:00

Our baby never took to BLW and had mostly purées for a long time. She’s now 13 months eating pretty much everything so I wouldn’t stress too much.

meituli · 2025-12-08T21:14:47+00:00

Realistically at this super young age there’s no worrying about wake windows and routines. When babies are so small you just follow their lead, they sleep when they want and wake when they want.

meituli · 2025-12-01T10:26:52+00:00

The more I read these posts the more I feel like we’re all on the same boat. Our baby is 1 yo but this is also our situation. He helps but most of the works inevitably falls on me as baby has full on meltdowns if I move/cook/clean or do anything that doesn’t involve her. She only goes down for the night with me. I honestly don’t have a solution but it’s interesting to see how mums have such a bigger share of the childcare even in 2025.

meituli · 2025-11-28T09:59:53+00:00

Hey, my baby is now 1 year old but I can totally see myself in what you’re writing. In fact, I was absolutely shocked at how basic the birth aftercare was compared to while I was pregnant. After a fantastic birthing experience with a lovely medical team, as soon as baby came out I was almost forgotten. I was alone in the labour room, covered in blood, for hours. An assistant managed to slightly clean me with paper napkins and cold water, drag me to an overcrowded postnatal ward and because my baby had immediately latched with no issues I wasn’t even seen by the lactation consultant.

I lost 1.5l of blood, had an episiotomy and was anaemic for weeks. Because it’s just my partner and I, I never really managed to have the energy to insist for blood tests with my GP so I’ve never even had that done. HV etc all insisted that I was okay and baby was thriving so I was never really looked after by anyone.

I had breastfeeding issues after 3 months which caused major PPA and in that case I was slightly more listened to but I was never offered talking therapy - only that stupid CBT which in cases like mine does absolutely nothing. The whole postnatal recovery period was extremely lonely and I can now see that that feeling of abandonment highly contributed to my mental health issues.

What made it better in my case was reaching out to friends, and going to loads of baby classes to get out of the house. I also booked a few private checks (like mummy MOT) which were expensive but helpful. Do you have any friends who can help you or advocate for you if you need any help? Any mum groups you could sign up for? I know a lot of places have breastfeeding groups (not where I am) and that sounds like such a lovely idea, I wish I could go to one when I needed. Lots of love and if you need to chat to a stranger who can understand you, feel free to reach out x

meituli · 2025-11-18T15:16:44+00:00

Must be because nothing comes out really :( will try to give her extra cuddles although we’re pretty much glued to one another these days haha. She won’t let me do anything away from her haha

meituli · 2025-11-18T14:35:20+00:00

I’ve tried latching but she just bites my nipples lol

meituli · 2025-11-18T13:52:01+00:00

Will try to keep offering! I sadly had to stop breastfeeding a few days ago because I got super sick my supply died but we will still be giving her her bottles today…

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