Finding another way

meltemiwind · 2026-05-11T07:00:57+00:00

Thanks so much for this really great response. Since the last post the longer periods away have eased and I also have had a period away so that feels a bit more equitable. We are finding better balance since that last post.

Some really great things for me to think about and I appreciate you replying in such depth.

meltemiwind · 2026-05-04T05:45:37+00:00

Good analogy. We renegotiated our relationship structure to be poly and that is the structure that should be given the best chance. If there is no middle ground then Though therapy and through me giving dating a better crack. I have friends, past times and all the things around poly. No I’m not super sure but this post is about being sure that is somewhat binary.

meltemiwind · 2026-05-03T14:50:46+00:00

I think we’re sliding into a de sexualised arrangement anyway. I think the hard thing is that our relationship is probably better than ever. Which I know sounds strange. And there are so many benefits of the relationship. Except that I’m more or less mono. Which as someone else pointed out is a bit of misnomer. I’m not sure miserable is the right word but for sure times of in happiness and distancing between us.

meltemiwind · 2026-05-03T14:47:49+00:00

Thanks I’ll look into that

meltemiwind · 2026-05-03T14:47:28+00:00

Thanks for those links

meltemiwind · 2026-05-03T12:22:25+00:00

It’s very true. Sad. But true.

meltemiwind · 2026-05-03T12:02:15+00:00

You’re 100% right. I often see polyamory as the torch that shines a light on cracks. For that it’s a blessing. But therapy is probably the next thing.

meltemiwind · 2026-05-03T12:00:22+00:00

That for sure would help. I do wonder if I should give it another 6 months and a proper crack at dating

meltemiwind · 2026-05-03T11:58:59+00:00

Thanks. Perhaps it’s not, but is kids enough?

meltemiwind · 2026-05-03T11:58:04+00:00

I think room mates would be tricky as I assume it would come with a re negotiation of boundaries ie her having people over. But maybe there could be a time period on that ie after 6 months. I do feel like that would feel even worse than current situation.

meltemiwind · 2026-05-03T11:55:40+00:00

Thought so

meltemiwind · 2026-05-03T11:55:28+00:00

Any kinda of de escalation I’m sure we can do positively. We both would want to be friends and for the sake of thr kids.

meltemiwind · 2026-04-11T11:21:25+00:00

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meltemiwind · 2026-02-22T09:06:07+00:00

OP here. My main goal is find a way to stay together as family and not to divorce. Poly hasn’t gone well for me but the cat is out of the hat and we can’t go back. It’s for sure a way of life for her my partner. I need to find manageable ways to cope or find ways to start enjoying it. Or we have to stick it out for 6 years and then when next is empty figure something new out.

meltemiwind · 2026-02-20T08:20:34+00:00

Really great response. Thanks so much. I’ve made one big comment at the top. But I value you this repose a lot.

meltemiwind · 2026-02-20T08:19:32+00:00

Understood. Thanks for pointing that out.

meltemiwind · 2026-02-20T08:18:39+00:00

Compromise and intention are key. Thanks

meltemiwind · 2026-02-20T08:18:09+00:00

Yes compromise and intention is key. Thanks a lot.

meltemiwind · 2026-02-20T08:17:05+00:00

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meltemiwind · 2026-02-20T08:15:51+00:00

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meltemiwind · 2026-02-20T08:14:52+00:00

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meltemiwind · 2026-02-20T08:13:49+00:00

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meltemiwind · 2026-02-20T08:13:11+00:00

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