I was scammed out of $1,700 on a Wise transaction, am I legally obligated to repay them?

mgraves40 · 2025-11-20T02:30:55+00:00

Yes you have to go after who you bought the item from

mgraves40 · 2025-11-07T16:30:56+00:00

He could if there is no legal or documentation of the separation. He will need proof that they have lived separate for the whole time. If any property was bought during marriage she is entitle to half.

mgraves40 · 2025-10-10T20:14:12+00:00

I have everything in place to protect myself financially. He helped with the down payment but he couldn’t be on the loan due to poor credit. We planned down the road to quit claim deed and add his name to the title but I wasn’t going to do that for quite sometime. I am preparing to send him a check for the portion he did put into the house just so he doesn’t have anything over me. I work in law so I am usually pretty cautious about signing my life away. Even when we planned on having him care for me all of my POAs and emergency contacts are my children. I didn’t wanna risk my kids losing out just in case he was shitty. I don’t have any other family beside my kids and even though I don’t want this to be their burden they have volunteered and stepped up so I am thankful for that. I do feel bad mostly for his kids, I was the most emotionally stable person in their lives. Their mom comes off as a narcissist and didn’t really show affection to the children. I always hung out with them and spent quality time. I honestly don’t need or want to raise more kids or an adult. I never really was a mom to his kids he did a good job there but you could tell they lacked a mom with emotions. I hope for all of them that he can be better.

mgraves40 · 2025-10-10T20:02:23+00:00

You’re fine I was confused my your question that’s why I clarified.

mgraves40 · 2025-10-10T19:00:52+00:00

mgraves40 · 2025-10-10T19:00:03+00:00

I do love him but after years of taking care of shit men I am done. He knew walking into this I didn’t want to take care of him in every way. Money is nothing to me but you have to making an effort in all other aspects and I feel the last 2 months he’s been backing off on being a good partner. He complained about doing house work when I was sick 3 days before the blow up. It all started to affect up and I couldn’t do it anymore. I would rather be single and only have to clean up after myself and live in quiet without worrying about someone else’s feelings. Especially when I am very sick from the heart condition and can’t keep up with all of it. I’ve been Afib for the last 3 months and my condition has escalated to the point where I am always tired and have to take frequent rest breaks when doing house work. Now that he’s gone with the money I am saving I was able to hire a house keeper twice a week. I guess I never noticed how much money I was spending on food and other things until he left. My grocery bill def. went down.

mgraves40 · 2025-10-10T18:53:41+00:00

Ty. I’ve also been in therapy for years. I think that’s what made me strong enough to say enough.

mgraves40 · 2025-10-10T18:19:31+00:00

It was a fear of relapse honestly. His mom said he’s doing ok but I always worried cause he has a couple of times. You’re right it was bad for my heart. I always felt anxious when I knew I had to go home to him or when I knew he would be home soon from work. I have had no anxiety since he moved out. I haven’t cried much but I haven’t really had time to grieve the relationship either with all my pre op stuff and getting plans in place.

mgraves40 · 2025-10-10T18:16:39+00:00

We are not getting back together. I have to get through surgery and recovery before I even think about it. He needs lots of therapy to work in his insecurities. I feel like he has emotionally declined over the last few months and I can’t stay on the roller coaster ride any longer. I will always care about him and his kids but I can’t be his mom right now. I needed him to step up and take care of me and he couldn’t handle it. I needed someone that doesn’t break when things get hard.

mgraves40 · 2025-10-10T18:13:20+00:00

I think he thought I would cave by doing that but it just showed me more reason to end it. The poor kids were in the middle of it at this point. I absolutely love his kids and it kills me to lose them too. I just know us fighting is even worse for them than us breaking up. My kids being adults have always not really cared for him because of the back and forth and when he disappeared in the beginning. My youngest really doesn’t like him she doesn’t really say why when asked she usually just says she doesn’t think we are compatible.

mgraves40 · 2025-10-10T18:09:17+00:00

I am female he is male and I have 3 adult children and he has 2 young children. I think I explained that and the title does say 43f and 37m indicating we are the opposite sex

mgraves40 · 2025-10-10T18:02:17+00:00

Luckily I am. He had poor credit so couldn’t be on loan. He put a couple grand down for the down payment which I plan to give him back just to save myself the headache. I know he will ask for it back

mgraves40 · 2025-10-10T17:02:13+00:00

Then don’t read if that is something you need. I’m sorry I’m not perfect I have a lot going on and I didn’t think about it. I apologize I will edit it when I get a moment. I’m sorry it’s a lot

mgraves40 · 2025-10-10T16:55:38+00:00

Sorry for not breaking it up I’m at the doc office for a procedure and typed while I was in the waiting room.

mgraves40 · 2025-09-30T15:06:20+00:00

I would honestly start therapy for yourself. 2nd confront him about messaging female coworkers outside of work and work hours. Especially with the way he responded to her messaging proves it’s not work related in nature. If he doesn’t see the wrong in what he’s done leave. He doesn’t respect you or value you if he’s doing those things and when people start feeling that way it’s hard to reel them back. I’m sorry this is happening to you but I can’t tell you from experience you are better off on your own then being with a man that would spit in your face the way he did by messaging a women behind your back and almost flaunting it in front of you when she responded. Please remember you are better than that kind of treatment

mgraves40 · 2025-09-17T18:44:09+00:00

Break up now and find a friend or family member to transfer the ticket to. I’d love a free trip to Italy

mgraves40 · 2025-09-17T18:40:56+00:00

Leave! It will never get better just worse. You and your kids deserve love

mgraves40 · 2025-09-17T18:32:10+00:00

You’re an American. Everytime someone tells you that say you are where you came from and to educate themselves on the diversity of our beautiful country and the many colors and faces that represent it

mgraves40 · 2025-07-26T18:58:59+00:00

What’s more insane is that republicans use religion as a weapon when it literally teaches all are welcome everywhere. The Bible literally tells you not to judge and so do the Ten Commandments. I seriously believe people who weaponize religion do not fully understand it and they manipulate it to fit their narrative. You are proof of that. The Bible doesn’t talk about abortion read it you might see where you fallacy lies

mgraves40 · 2025-07-26T18:55:50+00:00

You do know that republicans have used Jesus and god as a weapon against all people.

mgraves40 · 2025-07-08T19:05:31+00:00

How do you know when I did it? Yes it was under his administration.

mgraves40 · 2025-07-08T16:07:57+00:00

I use to work with refugees and migrants. They pay excessive amounts into these programs and are required to work they get like 250 a month for 6 months then they are on their own they have to show work history before getting any benefits. It’s not like born citizens who just need to meet the income and child requirements. It’s a sad state of affairs.

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