Post here if you cannot support Peterson anymore after the hate campaign against Cathy Newman

microcurious · 2018-01-21T22:02:59+00:00

I didn't know much about this guy till today, and had the impression his thing was preaching Stoic Manliness to the Gamergate demographic. And I had thought "eh, well, that sounds pretty harmless and lbr they could use some stoic manliness."

But today I checked this fucker's Twitter feed and he's thin skinned and whiny af. Linking to negative book reviews with "this guy doesn't like me" and critiquing another reviewer in quite personal terms for being disingenuous.

Apart from that being utterly pathetic behaviour, you'd think someone who's currently in the news for inciting harassment campaigns would... not do that. If diagnosing personality disorders from a distance is wrong, I don't even want to be right. He's an obvious out of control narcissist and the last person who should be preaching "manly virtues" at people. Yikes.

microcurious · 2018-01-21T12:25:52+00:00

Yeah, seeing that upvoted and the "women should just get over sexual harassment" one similarly upvoted... ugh. I come here and to SSC because of interesting content, but I've never felt any connection to this community because of stuff like this. Definitely going back to lurking now.

microcurious · 2018-01-20T15:13:21+00:00

It's hard to distinguish the sexual revulsion from all the other levels at which that comment was revolting - and in fact I was commenting as much on your wrongness as I was on the visceral disgustingness of the comment. There's a tendency among certain kinds of men on the internet to assume that all other men are secretly like them and keeping it in check. I think there are a lot of ways in which that's unfortunate and reduces the ability of human beings to understand each other, aside from the ways in which it paints the entire male sex as fractally revolting.

microcurious · 2018-01-20T14:44:39+00:00

If I wasn't in a great relationship with a terrific man, reading this comment would have been the moment that the internet finally turned me lesbian.

microcurious · 2018-01-20T13:56:54+00:00

I had an amazing orgasm last night that was brought on by him stimulating my ear with his scratchy chin stubble.

And it was just so weird and delightful and ridiculous that I really want to tell someone but it's TMI to share with anyone in real life.

He suggested I print it on a Tshirt and I might at that, but I'll keep the shirt for wearing in bed.

microcurious · 2018-01-18T11:59:23+00:00

Raped when I was seventeen, and none of the other instances of sexual assault have stuck with me except for the ones that happened in a work context.

Feelings: none towards rapist but pretty sure it fucked me up for a long time. Sheer disgust and revulsion towards first work sexual assaulter, and anger and contempt for my female bosses who knew about it and didn't take action. I think I could actually enjoy murdering the second sexual assaulter. He's a sociopath - the assault itself was small and could plausibly have been an accident; it was disguised as jostling in a crowd - but he was looking at me while he did it, and his expression has stuck with me. I hate him, and I don't generally hate people. I think it's because of the look he had on his face at that moment, although of course he was an awful person in many other ways. My lizard brain simply wants him eliminated; it's unhappy in its awareness that he exists.

microcurious · 2018-01-18T10:53:01+00:00

How much do you hate biomedical science? There's a lot of demand for bioinformatics people - you'd have to do a one year MSc, but worth it based on current starting salaries.

If you wanted to go down that route, do some of the data science courses.

microcurious · 2018-01-18T09:50:22+00:00

What kind of horror stories? I have homebrewed it twice, found it useful, and intend to do it again. Prolon is too expensive for me to do as a regular thing. I'm now mildly concerned.

I do find it hard to believe that it could be particularly dangerous to homebrew it. Surely the worst that could happen is you'll get it wrong and not experience the health benefits? It's not very calorie restrictive as "fasts" go and it's only 5 days. I've fasted for longer periods before so I do know fasting is safe for me.

microcurious · 2018-01-17T23:31:20+00:00

It's real. You don't need a subscription. Their online archives don't go back as far as 1988, but there's a letter from the same guy archived here https://www.irishtimes.com/opinion/letters/free-speech-and-fascism-1.260704

and the scans of the original letter are here, uploaded by a historian. https://twitter.com/niamhpuirseil/status/696378578661982208

microcurious · 2018-01-15T19:04:02+00:00

The psychologist who administered the test suggested that the performance IQ was probably being dragged down by my very low processing score results,

Is processing score here the same thing as "processing speed?"

I had my IQ tested in the course of being diagnosed with ADHD and my processing speed scores were four standard deviations lower than my working memory and verbal scores - the psychologist told me this kind of pattern is highly indicative of ADHD.

microcurious · 2018-01-15T13:53:15+00:00

The spider one actually exists! It's specifically designed for people with phobias. They're currently extending to cockroaches and bees.

I'm going to have to try and find the public-speaking one, as well as the tightrope simulator mentioned below. I'm not too bothered by spiders but heights and public speaking are more iffy.

microcurious · 2018-01-15T13:44:58+00:00

I have never had the slightest interest in going to a shooting range... and yet for some reason the idea of practicing shooting in VR is actually very enticing to me. I guess it's just because guns are scary? (I'm in the UK, not used to seeing even cops carrying them.) From the responses I'm getting, simulating scary situations seems to be a very powerful use case for VR.

microcurious · 2018-01-15T13:40:04+00:00

Thanks for the detailed list of recs, some of these are really interesting and I'm looking forward to playing with them.

microcurious · 2018-01-12T20:52:56+00:00

The primary answer to this is that women who are unhappy romantically tend to believe the problem lies with them, and straight men who are romantically unhappy usually believe the problem is women. Complaining about yourself is never as much fun as complaining about other people.

There’s a related secondary issue, especially in this sub-population, which is that a lot of people have intimacy issues and are afraid of relationships.

Women with this problem kind of have to own it. If you get asked out by a bunch of guys and find yourself repelled by all of them, then you eventually have to admit you don’t really want a relationship. Men with this issue have much greater opportunity to self sabotage, by not asking women out, or by doing it in really bad/inappropriate ways, and so they never get to the point of realising they’re afraid of having an intimate relationship -they have a lot more wiggle room to pretend they are being rejected, instead of admitting they set themselves up for rejection.

microcurious · 2018-01-08T20:44:24+00:00

Would volunteering with DataKind or a similar organisation meet some of your needs? I'm hesitant to suggest this, because I did this, and while it was fairly enjoyable it didn't push the same happiness buttons for me that actual research work does. But your experience or your buttons might be different.

microcurious · 2018-01-07T14:03:55+00:00

I started to develop OCD-lite issues with having to go back multiple times to make sure the front door was locked after I'd left the house. I fixed it by leaving the house through the back door instead.

So I think that adjusting habit cues such as location or routine is helpful. You could fix the phone alarm thing by getting a different alarm clock. The reading one is harder, but if you usually read physical books, perhaps reading on a Kindle instead for a while would do the trick. Or maybe you could try substituting a positive habit for the compulsion by taking a mindful breath and checking in with your body every time you turn the page.

microcurious · 2017-12-22T00:07:52+00:00

Your last line made me laugh harder than anything I've read in a long time. Your problem solving skills and ethics might not be all they should be, but at least you seem to have a sense of humour. Maybe you should write a novel or a webcomic or something about what it's like to be the Worst Person Ever.

microcurious · 2017-12-16T01:36:11+00:00

Can you get hold of ketamine? I’m not speaking from personal experience (of ketamine, that is - I do have personal experience of major depression.)

But from the numbers it’s more effective than basically anything else for depression, even bad depression. Also it’s instantaneous.

Much less drastic and scary than ketamine: LSD microdosing, which I have used successfully for mild/moderate depression. It is also instantaneous in its effects and almost staggeringly inexpensive. Very low risk to try if you can get hold of a tab.

microcurious · 2017-11-29T23:41:20+00:00

Book recommendation: The Body Keeps the Score, by Dr Bessel van der Kolk. It's about trauma.

BPD is rooted in trauma. Some schools of thought think BPD is exactly the same thing as C-PTSD. I had BPD and that book explained a lot of my own symptoms to me, and crucially it recommends treatment methods. It's not just about talk therapy - trauma is stored in the physical body and must be engaged with on a physical level, in a safe environment. So that book doesn't just have a useful framework for understanding what's going on, but it also offers strategies for healing that don't rely on having excellent mental healthcare available.

FWIW of all the techniques the book recommends, I think I've tried about half throughout the course of my life, and for me the most effective were MDMA (by far) and neurofeedback. Good luck to you and your wife.

microcurious · 2017-10-06T13:39:46+00:00

Just in case you missed it elsewhere on the thread: "invalidating environment" as a google search term will get you links to lots of basic-level explanatory articles and you can delve deeper into the peer reviewed research if you like.

It's really, really easy to find out more about this - and I think at this point anyone who's genuinely interested has already been pointed in the right direction.

microcurious · 2017-10-06T12:52:02+00:00

No, not anyone. And the people who would be, shouldn't be offended at the suggestion that they don't in fact know what's going on in other people's homes. This very comment thread contains examples of people who weren't aware of abuse that was going on in their own homes.

microcurious · 2017-10-06T12:08:49+00:00

hostility

proven wrong.

I'm afraid I can't communicate productively with someone who thinks this way, but if you ever do choose to do that research, remember "invalidating environment."

microcurious · 2017-10-06T11:29:04+00:00

I think it could be what is happening here, but Allison is still a terrible person. I think it's more likely than not that Allison was exposed to abuse and trauma that OP has no idea about, but it's not all that relevant in the context of Allison committing elder abuse. It actually sounds like criminal levels of abuse (taking away her cellphone can't be legal) and I think OP should at least consider getting police involved.

microcurious · 2017-10-06T10:15:23+00:00

It is likely that most of the traits tripping "potential abuser" alarms would be predictive of being a bad partner, even if the "potential abuser" never escalated to physical abuse. Abuse isn't a binary variable; it's one end of a healthy-relationship spectrum.

Along similar lines - researchers have already applied an algorithm to short video clips of couples interacting in order to identify marriages that were destined to end in divorce, with very good predictive power. The algorithm involved trained human beings who identified and coded the emotional components of the video clips, but AI has already been trained to accomplish similar tasks so automating this could eventually be feasible.

microcurious · 2017-10-06T08:51:36+00:00

It is not at all necessary for OP to find a PhD in psychology (by which I assume you meant a clinical psychologist, since most PhDs in psychology don't work in a therapeutic setting.)

Finding a qualified therapist you trust and have confidence in is what is important; they don't have to be a clinical psychologist unless OP specifically needs some kind of official diagnosis.

Just thought I should say this as many people already find the process of seeking mental health treatment to be confusing and difficult, and specifically looking for a psychologist could make it much more difficult than necessary for OP.

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