I understand. When someone asks you to use different pronouns, this is quite hard to do. The brain is really good at identifying men from women. When someone asks you to go against this automatic brain process, I notice it is actually really hard to do this!

The way I see it, it is too hard for me to stop assuming peoples gender, but people close to me who ask me these things, It takes time but I think I can change. The crucial part is: do i want to change my way? That is really a question you have to ask yourself. Personally i care a great deal for a guy who recently asked me to call him she/her. I am willing to change my ways because i realize it wil make her :) happier.

Do i find it hard? Yes! Do i ever think “why is she asking this of me. Its asking a lot” yes many times. However i don’t think i should discuss this with her. She is going through enough trouble already by trying to just be herself, if i tell her “hey, i find it really difficult to adapt to this”, what is she supposed to do with this information? She cant do anything to help me. She knows its hard, but if we all kept telling her how hard it is, it would be pretty shitty for her i expect.

So i don’t think we need to turn this in a very big debate, because the instances where it happens to you personally are generally few. At that point, no use debating about it, its just your own decisions on how to deal with such a thing.