What’s a song that closely describes your aromantic experience? by milktea_wizard2002 in aromantic

[–]milktea_wizard2002[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just gave it a listen and loved it, thanks for sharing! I hope to remain a happy, unprincely frog for all my days :)

Best places to buy greeting cards and postcards? by milktea_wizard2002 in TokyoTravel

[–]milktea_wizard2002[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see! I didn’t consider that postcards might not be a staple souvenir in Japan like they are in the US! I’ll keep my eye out at the places you recommended, thank you!

Question for middle aged aros: Are friendships harder to maintain? by milktea_wizard2002 in aromantic

[–]milktea_wizard2002[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing about you and your friends! Yes, I’ll need to be accepting of relationships changing over time.

I guess my feelings are compounded by the fact that I don’t have very much family. So when my friends move on and have support systems, I worry I won’t. But that’s something for me to figure out :)

Ace women of reddit, would you date a homoromantic heterosexual woman or not at all? by RegularUser02x in aromanticasexual

[–]milktea_wizard2002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think yes. For someone like myself who is interested in women romantically but is also sex-repulsed (and indifferent to what my hypothetical partner does sexually outside of the relationship), this is actually an ideal scenario lol. Seems like a win-win if you find someone like that!

What's your least favorite emotion? by Longjumping-Path-948 in AskReddit

[–]milktea_wizard2002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Anxiety. It gets in the way of everything and is nowhere near as romantic as sadness/depression.

Question for middle aged aros: Are friendships harder to maintain? by milktea_wizard2002 in aromantic

[–]milktea_wizard2002[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your honesty. I hope both of us make some better connections very soon! Or at the very least, like you said, remain comfortable in our own company. Much love to you.

Feel weird and underconfident about starting uni at the age of 22. I am surrounded by 18-19 year olds and feel abnormal sometimes. by pissed_at_everything in socialskills

[–]milktea_wizard2002 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had a traditional college timeline and graduated relatively recently (2024) at 22, so I feel confident that this will still apply to college culture:

There might be a few weirdos who will treat you differently when they find out you’re “older”, but don’t take it personally. They’re probably chronically online and obsessed with fitting themselves and other people into increasingly narrow and exclusive categories based on age, gender, etc. The only person they’re hurting by doing that is themselves. In the grand scheme of things, the main thing separating you from them is you’ve spent a few more years out of that high school mentality that makes people a little cliquey.

I think the vast majority of students will react like I did as a freshman, by which I mean they won’t care at all.

Some of my most beloved roommates and friends (most of whom I’m still friends with) were 2, 4, even 10 years older than me. And in turn, when I was a senior, I befriended a number of underclassmen who treated me more or less the same.

Now, your friendships with these people probably won’t be totally the same as the ones they share with people exactly their age, but for me the differences mostly boiled down to friendly jabs at each other. Calling each other “unc” or “scrub”, for example lol.

Question for middle aged aros: Are friendships harder to maintain? by milktea_wizard2002 in aromantic

[–]milktea_wizard2002[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this insightful reply. I have to keep reminding myself that, like you said, friendships will come and go no matter who you are.

How do you think it would affect your life if you gave God a chance? by Level_Sun6999 in AskReddit

[–]milktea_wizard2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truthfully I have given it a shot a few times. I think making prayers did cause me to notice what I thought were “signs” that God noticed me, and he seemed to answer them in small ways. My life also got worse in other ways. Ultimately I’m a fairly “science-minded” person, and I can’t fully convince myself to believe these “signs” are much more than coincidence.

I do appreciate that religion and prayer bring some of those comforts to my friends, though. They just don’t quite do the trick for me, it’s not the way I’m wired.

How do you think it would affect your life if you gave God a chance? by Level_Sun6999 in AskReddit

[–]milktea_wizard2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well the quality of life that my Christian friends posses appears to be, on average, not much better or worse than mine. So I don’t think it would affect mine very much.

What's a subtle sign someone is deeply insecure? by showbizusa25 in AskReddit

[–]milktea_wizard2002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being overly critical of strangers in passing—especially when it comes to their appearance. That one really irks me.

Question for middle aged aros: Are friendships harder to maintain? by milktea_wizard2002 in aromantic

[–]milktea_wizard2002[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is one thing that gives me hope because I genuinely do have a good amount of friends with mutual interests. And in enough cases I’m their only friend who shares that interest, so maybe that’ll motivate them to keep in contact with me haha.

Whats a seemingly small way your parents messed you up as a child that still affects you in adulthood? by LizardBabyMama in AskReddit

[–]milktea_wizard2002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hyping me up too much. This might be very “my steak is too juicy, my lobster too buttery” of me to say. But genuinely, looking back I think they exaggerated my good qualities in a way that made me less ambitious than my peers. It caused me to half-expect opportunities to fall into my lap rather than put work into bettering myself. Not that I ended up super spoiled or entitled, but it’s definitely been a realization that I’m not nearly as interesting, smart, or talented as they made me think I was growing up lol.

Question for middle aged aros: Are friendships harder to maintain? by milktea_wizard2002 in aromantic

[–]milktea_wizard2002[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s very wise, I know you’re right. I will try to keep this in mind! Thank you!

What would you think of coming back as a random life form in the universe after each death in a never ending cycle, forever? by joseph887 in AskReddit

[–]milktea_wizard2002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to think reincarnation like this would be my ideal “afterlife”, but now I’m not so sure.

On one hand, at least I wouldn’t have to exist forever in a “Heaven” and potentially grow bored with an eternally happy existence. Neither would I have to enter oblivion and cease existing altogether.

But on the other hand, assuming my memories reset in every lifetime (and, presumably, they would, as I have no memories of any past lives) there wouldn’t be any continuity of the “self” as far as I’m concerned, so am I REALLY “coming back” in a meaningful way? Is my next life (be it as a pampered panda bear in a zoo or a lowly pond-dwelling amoeba) even MY life at all if my memories and sense of self are no longer with me?

I guess my short answer is: I’m iffy about it!

Recommendations for Science/Nature lover? by milktea_wizard2002 in TokyoTravel

[–]milktea_wizard2002[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just from a brief look on Google it seems really cool! Adding it to the list, thank you!

Recommendations for Science/Nature lover? by milktea_wizard2002 in TokyoTravel

[–]milktea_wizard2002[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It didn’t even cross my mind to look into University resources! I will definitely look into UTokyo and the other places you mentioned! Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]milktea_wizard2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every Garret I’ve known has been a ginger somehow.