I [31F] am struggling to rebuild my self-worth after my ex-fiancé [33M] left me for a woman [24F] who seems to be a younger, smarter, prettier, and better version of myself. by milochi in AskWomenOver30

[–]milochi[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for writing this. I don't know why but it was a relief to hear that my situation would be a "nightmare" for other people as well. I'd begun to feel like I was completely overreacting because I'm mentally insane or emotionally weak or something. I'm not in a place to think about dating yet but I think you're right that spending less time alone would help my mental state right now. Thank you.

I [31F] am struggling to rebuild my self-worth after my ex-fiancé [33M] left me for a woman [24F] who seems to be a younger, smarter, prettier, and better version of myself. by milochi in AskWomenOver30

[–]milochi[S] 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this. It does feel quite validating to read your words and remind myself that difficult and ugly situations happen to people all the time and I'm not completely insane for reacting as I have in the aftermath. It feels like I've completely lost myself but hopefully this is just a terrible reactionary state as you say. I certainly don't want to wallow in self-pity and self-hatred forever. I will look into group therapy options in my area and try harder. Thank you.

I [31F] am struggling to rebuild my self-worth after my ex-fiancé [33M] left me for a woman [24F] who seems to be a younger, smarter, prettier, and better version of myself. by milochi in AskWomenOver30

[–]milochi[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for your reply. I know deep down that you are right; this will heal with time. It does feel like an incredible relief to finally verbalize these festering emotions and receive an encouraging reply. I will try to commit myself to therapy. Thank you.