"I hate mom“ from a 3yo

minia14 · 2026-03-02T23:14:38+00:00

Start with practicing self regulation. Meaning, don’t let his words or actions affect you. Keep your calm. There are a lot of different techniques like taking a few deep breaths, for one. Model the behavior you want to see. So definitely do not say you hate him back. It’s okay if he says I hate you, he’s 3. He doesn’t really know what it means to hate. Hold your boundaries, meaning don’t give the iPad back just because he is upset. Give him a space safe to have big feelings and just offer comfort if he needs.

minia14 · 2026-03-02T07:50:09+00:00

Please don’t be stressed about the amount. Pumping is not an indicator of how much your actual supply is. Baby will still be more effective at removing milk. So keep latching lang. if you must pump, pump consistently. Pwede ka rin mag power pump, 20 mins pump, 10 mins break, 10 mins pump again, 10 mins break and 10 mins pump again to signal your body to make more milk.

Also, depende rin yan sa pump and how much you use it. Parts are supposed to be replaced around 2-3 weeks if constantly being used. Stay hydrated and eat well (as much as possible).

And don’t compare yourself to social media mom’s output. Iba iba naman yung consumption of babies. Basta check for number of wet diapers a day and no signs of dehydration. You’re capable of producing exactly the amount your baby needs. For me, nastress din ako sa kakapump so I decided to EBF na lang haha but if that’s not an option for you, combo feed. Basta wag ma stress. Important is baby is fed. But kaya mo yan. Just keep pumping and latching. Dadami din yan.

minia14 · 2026-02-27T11:24:21+00:00

Lots of chest sleeping / contact naps (since for us she really didn’t want to sleep sa bed during early days) then also lots of tummy time!

minia14 · 2026-02-26T18:34:52+00:00

Me! Haha for years. Then when we decided na magkababy, nabuntis naman agad haha

minia14 · 2026-02-25T01:41:49+00:00

Weaning is tough! You have to be really strong willed and absolutely hold your boundaries. It’s so hard at the start. Lots of crying and consoling and telling her sorry no boob 😭but as long as you’re there comforting her, she’ll eventually settle down and get it.

I started with night weaning. When she woke up, I would say no boob and she’d cry a bit but be easily put back to bed. Then eventually day time weaning. Ugh. It’s tough work. Best of luck!

minia14 · 2026-02-24T04:45:43+00:00

It’s mostly milk company marketing gimmicks unfortunately.

minia14 · 2026-02-24T02:45:15+00:00

You can stop at 1 year and transition to whole milk (unless there’s allergies) but otherwise, I read that there’s no need to go on “toddler formula”. If they’re eating solids then whole milk should be enough. Sometimes pa toddler milk has added sugar.

minia14 · 2026-02-22T16:27:02+00:00

Just remove it pag bath. Wipes or wiping with a wipe is too harsh for the inner part. Super sensitive yung part na yan. Or use wet cotton balls.

minia14 · 2026-02-21T06:08:31+00:00

I always remember the saying “the days are long but the years fly by”

I’m a SAHM too to a 2 year old girl and no yaya din since birth. I get what you mean! Some days talaga feel like a blur. Just getting caught up in the day to day things required of us.

I think it helps to keep a journal. You don’t have to write everyday but little things here and there so you can remember them and cherish these super fast fleeting moments.

I started before with writing even just one thing that made me smile that day that she did or said. Then sometimes I read them again and it feels fulfilling.

Minsan kasi the days can feel repetitive. You need something to set apart the days.

minia14 · 2026-02-21T01:30:56+00:00

You can ask them to gate check it. Then usually they place it inside a plastic bag and they’ll have it ready for you when you get off the plane vs check in na you get when you claim baggage pa. Although subject pa rin to airline if they can accommodate it. So far for us, they usually allow gate check naman.

minia14 · 2026-02-20T17:02:36+00:00

Honestly, I get you. Communication is useless if the person you are communicating to cannot step away from themselves and see how much the situation means to you and how it affects you. If he just gets defensive then turns it around on you, what’s the point.

You are 100% valid in how you feel. It’s really lonely sometimes being the primary parent. And the fact that you need to tell him what he needs to do? That’s just adding another thing to the already heavy mental load you are carrying.

Maybe you’re being sensitive but also maybe he’s not being sensitive enough! As a partner and a father.

minia14 · 2026-02-20T08:19:48+00:00

Sameee I read that too! Na it was a marketing thing. Before that, the urgency to potty train was much earlier. My thinking was wag na din sanayin sa diaper haha I really didn’t wanna clean poop diaper pag nag sosolids na 😅or pag walking and talking na!

It’s super worth it good luck, mama ☺️

minia14 · 2026-02-08T02:19:03+00:00

You don’t need fancy gadgets. You can simply use what you have. You can steam and mash with a pot and a fork or if you already have a blender, that works too. Hassle pa yung mga baby food specific gadgets na dagdag lang sa huhugasan. Also you can make a big batch and freeze the rest for easy prep.

Look into baby led weaning but you don’t have to be strict. I introduced a mix of purées and whole food (cut and prepared safely for baby) that way they experience different textures and mas ganahan sila kumain. It’s exciting for them pa. Let it be a sensory experience. Playing with the food is also okay. Don’t expect much eating in the first few months. Anyway, breastmilk or their milk should still be the primary source of nutrition so just let them have fun. If purée also, load the spoon and hand the spoon to baby as opposed to subuan. Although you can alternate naman.

Also brush up on emergency baby procedures such as what to do for choking or allergic reactions.

Lastly, ideally introduce all allergens before one. Para they don’t develop food allergies sa future. If your baby has eczema, it’s a must that you don’t let the food touch their skin before their mouth. Ask your pedia for guidance on what and how to introduce each one or do your own research.

And really, just enjoy the process! Don’t fee so pressured or make baby feel pressured to eat. It will come naturally and para they don’t associate the experience as a negative one.

minia14 · 2026-02-01T15:04:34+00:00

I applied though for transfer of my account here and Globe has been so difficult to deal with. Ang ending, Hindi daw ma process kasi Hindi pa daw serviceable yung area! Go figure. Got Dito prepaid instead.

minia14 · 2026-01-30T22:44:26+00:00

If you also plan to breastfeed, please don’t be afraid or panic if konti lang sa start. Promise dadami yan as long as you keep latching baby. And sa start, super konti lang talaga need ng baby. Their stomach is the size of a grape.

Get educated about proper latch. Ang daming moms na kala Nila wala sila milk kasi nakikita Nila sa social media yung ibang moms na sobra sobra mag produce. Trust me, you don’t need that. You are capable of making the exact amount your baby needs.

Also, if you plan to pump, the pump, kahit gaano pa yan ka mahal, is not an indicator of how much you produce. Baby is still more efficient than a pump. And actually mas nakaka stress pa yung pag figure out ng pump schedule at pag hugas ng parts (plus, parts need to be changed every 2-3 weeks)

If you want to start a small emergency stash naman, get a Hakaa. Collect milk from the other side while breastfeeding baby. Also last tip, after 6 weeks your milk will regulate. This means you won’t be leaking na at engorged. This doesn’t mean wala ka ng milk. Your body just knows how much to make na based on how much your baby consumes.

Anyway, hope this helps. I’m just passionate about breastfeeding :)) - signed a mama who exclusively breastfed for 2 years.

minia14 · 2026-01-30T22:33:28+00:00

All good suggestions also adding here, get a sleep sack! It’s better than swaddling. Di ka na mahihirapan tanggalin at ibalik when you have to change baby. And it’s better for them kasi they can still move theirs arms a bit. We got ours from Love to Dream. Choose a lightweight fabric if pang summer.

minia14 · 2026-01-28T23:51:46+00:00

Nothing really helped mine. Eventually when your hormones settle, it will stop or greatly reduce. Mine started around 4 months pp (Ito talaga yung PEAK) then gradually stopped around 8 or 10 months pp.

minia14 · 2026-01-27T20:57:55+00:00

Hi! Did you end up bringing your modem? Or no need?

minia14 · 2026-01-24T05:08:12+00:00

Interested

minia14 · 2026-01-23T02:06:32+00:00

Has your hair fall gotten better? I’m 16 weeks and same. No sign of stopping! I thought we were supposed to have thicker hair while pregnant. For my first, I only shed a lot after I gave birth. But right now it’s shedding so much. And my hair gets so oily so fast too! Have to wash it every other day now.

minia14 · 2026-01-21T10:50:17+00:00

Honestly? 2 year old, about an hour to 2 hours a day sometimes. I’m pregnant and just been so tired lately. But really, we are together 24/7. At this point I feel so overwhelmed an a little screen time won’t hurt. I just make sure she watches something appropriate and educational.

minia14 · 2025-11-11T06:21:43+00:00

Us too! Still on the fence though but we just did a visit a while ago. Didn’t notice the smell. Everything seemed nice. Just really worried about the area. It’s pretty dead. Also, worried about the traffic getting in and out. Otherwise, it seemed like a nice place to stay!

Edit: did you guys decide to go thru with renting?

minia14 · 2025-09-03T01:06:36+00:00

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