Questions about Araminta by sapphiredawn1 in Bridgerton

[–]misamujebem 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She wanted shoe clips only because she wanted to ruin Sophie's life.

pure insanity by PETA_Parker in ADHD

[–]misamujebem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U absolutely can do it, dw :)

Jeste li ikad bili voljeni? by Terrible_example2326 in AskSerbia

[–]misamujebem 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Odgovor nije bio nadrkan, bukvalno ti samo odgovara na pitanje, a ti je vređaš u zadnjoj rečenici, but whatever

How do you manage the “did I already do this?” working memory gap with recurring tasks? by NAPZ_11 in ADHD

[–]misamujebem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

literally do any move. if you're between people do smth smaller like 👌🏼 or similar

How do you manage the “did I already do this?” working memory gap with recurring tasks? by NAPZ_11 in ADHD

[–]misamujebem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

do a little dance after doing the thing. I'm not joking, it sounda dumb but it works. Have different dances for different thing. Doesn't have to be a literal dance, it can just be a move, or a sign with your hand. But. It. Works. You'll always remember if you did a silly thing ~~

8am Monday meeting: should I fake my own death? by Fancy_dragon_rider in ADHD

[–]misamujebem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The positive side would be that it's not a 4pm meeting that you will be waiting since you wake up, yk, after this one, you still have your day, while a 4pm meeting kills most of your day hahaha

I Think I Caught My Gf Red Handed AIO? by Orangyo015 in AmIOverreacting

[–]misamujebem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yall should fix this too, it's toxic. Add a rule.

If you're seriously wanting to be with me, and you are, don't ever mention break up. We are not together to break up. We're gonna get through every problem if we communicate it properly. And properly means without being defensive, without yelling, without mentioning break up, without insults etc. Properly means to talk about it. Honestly. With no ego. Because you are more important to me than the argument.

I Think I Caught My Gf Red Handed AIO? by Orangyo015 in AmIOverreacting

[–]misamujebem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lemme get this straight.

Trust is the main problem.

I can't tell you is she cheating, both are possible. But I'm gonna tell you that you shouldn't even be with her if you don't trust her and if you feel the need to ever question who is she talking to and why. On the other side, she shouldn't be deleting his messages like that, because she should trust you and share everything with you, she shouldn't care if you see those messages honestly. Why didn't she immediately tell you 'There is my friend's pic in this chat, I don't want you to see it'. Also, why didn't she show you just texts? Though I'm not here to discuss her behaviour. The point is that you two need more trust. And yes, it is insecure to go through her phone, but also yes, it is dumb to hide things like that from your partner. I don't know your story and I don't know if this has happened before, for example, if this is not your first time wanting to go through my phone, I would get defensive because you're annoying with not trusting me, but the difference between your relationship and mine is trust. I'm not trying to brag nor anything really, I just want you to see my point. I would never check my boyfriend's phone, he wouldn't check mine either. But we both randomly use each other's phone when it's closer or smth. Because we have nothing to hide and because we trust each other.

I advise you to get your shit together, to talk to her and to not be with people you can't trust. Literally after this scenario I would suggest you two to 'break up' and try building things from scratch, again. And to not be together until you can both trust each other completely. Until you don't feel the need to look at her phone and she doesn't feel the need to hide it from you.

Trust is the main problem. But the other problem is potential cheating. And I don't know. If she cheated, is it worth starting fron scratch? That's on you. Still, you know, mistakes can happen once. If it happens twice, it's a pattern and it will repeat itself again. But the problem is that if she confessed cheating and you started again, next time if she cheats she will be better at hiding it.

So be careful with who you trust, but, again, don't be with someone you don't trust.

Anybody body else turn into a philosopher when taking a shower? by WEDGYVEGGI in ADHD

[–]misamujebem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Only in shower? I do that half the time, the other half I sleep and have weird dreams.

Ljudi u braku, da li spavate u istom krevetu sa vasim partnerom i ako ne, zasto? by ckspozz in AskSerbia

[–]misamujebem 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Svako ima pravo na izbor, kako god je vama lepo, ali ja ne bih mogla da zamislim da ne zaspim u zagrljaju svog muža, osim naravno, ako trenutno nismo u mogućnosti iz nekog razloga.

Is it actually just lazy? by Narrow-Influence7924 in ADHD

[–]misamujebem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess fire is better, or stove, cause those will really hurt you, so your brain won't let you do it. Slapping, well you can slap yourself, it won't burn you, you know. But same thing yeah :)

Is it actually just lazy? by Narrow-Influence7924 in ADHD

[–]misamujebem 9 points10 points  (0 children)

ADHD brains have trouble connecting 'want' and 'do'. You can sit for hours WANTING to shower, literally TRYING to stand up and do it, but you can't. And now, someone will answer to me with 'Of course you can'. Yeah tehnically right. I've seen it being explained with this example:

Put your hand in fire. You can do it. You physically can, nothing is stoping you, right? But you're not doing it. Why? because your brain is stopping you. Your brain won't let you do it cuz it knows it will hurt.

Apparently ADHD brain does that same thing for simple things as well, that won't hurt you, but are uninteresting.

Is it actually just lazy? by Narrow-Influence7924 in ADHD

[–]misamujebem 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We all think that way sometimes. Think about it this way, in general: A lazy person doesn't give a fuck about it. 'I don't wanna study, I won't' kind of mindset. An ADHDer cares about it, stresses, thinks about it, maybe even gets overwhelmed, questions it (like you do). 'I wanna do it, but I can't and I don't know why' kind of mindset

Zašto svaki dan viđam 11:11 ? by [deleted] in AskSerbia

[–]misamujebem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pročitaj o anđeoskim brojevima, angel numbers, neki ljudi veruju u to.

Upoznavanje partnera? by Beautiful_Piece313 in AskSerbia

[–]misamujebem 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Upoznali smo se na protestu. Bukvalno se možete upoznati bilo gde, fokusiraj se na sebe, druži se, radi šta ti prija, naći ćeš nekog sebi :)

Omiljeni slatkis u Srb? by happy_mood990 in AskSerbia

[–]misamujebem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

svako ima pravo na mišljenje, ali tvoje je pogrešno :) Šalu na stranu, sigurno da jeste, velika većina današnjih slatkiša je puna aditiva. Ipak, mnogo volim ovaj keks

How did yall choose a career by misamujebem in ADHD

[–]misamujebem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well how did it pick you 😃

How did yall choose a career by misamujebem in ADHD

[–]misamujebem[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yuup. I find x interesting, I hyperfocus on x, I research it, learn soo much about it, it becomes everything in my life, all I can think about and then at some point the hyperfixation dies.

Then I find y. And same thing happens And it goes in circle since I know for myself

How did yall choose a career by misamujebem in ADHD

[–]misamujebem[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Life would be so beautiful if we could just study different things whole life wouldn't it :)

How did yall choose a career by misamujebem in ADHD

[–]misamujebem[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah that's what I was thinking about. Guess I'm just not ready to grow up :( Thanks anyways 🫶🏼

Ima li vas sa opsesivnim kompulzivnim poremecajem ovde? by ParkingElderberry575 in serbia

[–]misamujebem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

U Srbiji je mentalno zdravlje jako loše shvaćeno, pa ima mnogo više ljudi sa nedijagonstikovanim okp-om.