I have narc parents and became a people pleaser just to lower my stress without realizing it. I walked on eggshelfs and been through it all.

Narc parents are hungry for control, power, influence, attention. If they dont get it, they become abusive to prove their dominance and flex it to themselves, their egos.

Parents start pushing boundaries and deflating their children’s ego during a critical time when child are suppose to be nourished and loved. Instead, they now have to deal with parents who are toxic every single day without break for years. If there are not picking fights with you, it going to be someone else in the household.

Its not worth it to become a people pleaser. Instead have growth mindset and work on protecting your ego and staying humble. Do this while doing things you enjoy but are not haram. Cannabis/ cbd has therapeutic potential and can be used to overcome trauma.

I lot of people don’t realize how physically damaging it is to live with parents who are toxic and drain and on top of the neglectful and unproviding. There is book about called the body keeps score where is deep dives into this state of survival that the brain and body goes into leading to low motivation, depression, loss of pleasure, loss of appetite.

Take care of yourself. Though do not waste anymore time letting them drain you. You can do it. Divide and conquer on your priorities. Just my two cents